11-18-2024, 02:03 PM
Hey man, first off, I want to say that you’re not alone in feeling conflicted about this. Sexuality is complex, and what you're experiencing is more common than people admit. It’s great that you’re being open about this and trying to understand your feelings. Many guys struggle with reconciling societal norms with their desires, especially when those desires fall outside of the conventional "straight" label.
I think the most important thing is to stop beating yourself up over it. Guilt and shame can really cloud your judgment and prevent you from figuring out what truly makes you happy. If your partner is supportive and okay with you exploring this side of yourself, that’s a huge plus. Many people don’t have that level of understanding from their significant others.
As for the guilt, try looking at it from a different perspective. Why does it feel wrong? Is it because society says so, or is it something deeper? Often, the guilt comes from fearing judgment or feeling like you’re betraying your identity. Remember, your desires don’t define who you are entirely—they’re just one part of a much larger picture.
If you decide to go for it, take small steps and be honest with yourself. Maybe find others who are in similar situations to talk to—forums like this one are a good start. It can be freeing to hear from people who have embraced their desires without shame.
I think the most important thing is to stop beating yourself up over it. Guilt and shame can really cloud your judgment and prevent you from figuring out what truly makes you happy. If your partner is supportive and okay with you exploring this side of yourself, that’s a huge plus. Many people don’t have that level of understanding from their significant others.
As for the guilt, try looking at it from a different perspective. Why does it feel wrong? Is it because society says so, or is it something deeper? Often, the guilt comes from fearing judgment or feeling like you’re betraying your identity. Remember, your desires don’t define who you are entirely—they’re just one part of a much larger picture.
If you decide to go for it, take small steps and be honest with yourself. Maybe find others who are in similar situations to talk to—forums like this one are a good start. It can be freeing to hear from people who have embraced their desires without shame.