11-17-2024, 10:22 AM
I think it’s really common for women to feel hesitant about this, and you’re definitely not alone. But one way to look at it is that intimacy like this really does bring you closer together. When he wants to go down on you, it’s not just about physical satisfaction—it’s also about emotional closeness and him wanting to make you feel good. Men often get a lot of satisfaction from seeing their partner relax and enjoy themselves. It’s not about rushing into anything or feeling pressured. It’s about creating a space where you can be open and enjoy the moment.
If you're worried about cleanliness or your own insecurities, it might help to take the pressure off by talking it through with him. If there’s a certain way you prefer to feel (freshly showered, trimmed, or otherwise), let him know. The beauty of intimacy is that it’s personal—what feels right for you matters more than any “ideal.” If it helps, you could start with an intimate moment where he kisses you, touches you, and gradually builds up to that. The more you relax, the more it becomes about the pleasure you both share, rather than worrying about expectations.
Also, I think the more you let him know you’re open to the experience, the more enjoyable it will be. A lot of men get turned on by knowing they can make their partner feel good in that way. If you’re both on the same page, it’ll come across as less of a “task” and more of a loving, sensual exchange. And remember, this kind of intimacy isn’t just about the physical act—it’s about connection, trust, and mutual satisfaction. Embracing that can really deepen the bond you share.
It’s totally okay to feel unsure at first, and you don’t have to dive into anything you’re not comfortable with. Just take it one step at a time and talk about what you want or need. Your confidence and comfort are the most important things, and the more relaxed you feel, the better it’ll be for both of you.
If you're worried about cleanliness or your own insecurities, it might help to take the pressure off by talking it through with him. If there’s a certain way you prefer to feel (freshly showered, trimmed, or otherwise), let him know. The beauty of intimacy is that it’s personal—what feels right for you matters more than any “ideal.” If it helps, you could start with an intimate moment where he kisses you, touches you, and gradually builds up to that. The more you relax, the more it becomes about the pleasure you both share, rather than worrying about expectations.
Also, I think the more you let him know you’re open to the experience, the more enjoyable it will be. A lot of men get turned on by knowing they can make their partner feel good in that way. If you’re both on the same page, it’ll come across as less of a “task” and more of a loving, sensual exchange. And remember, this kind of intimacy isn’t just about the physical act—it’s about connection, trust, and mutual satisfaction. Embracing that can really deepen the bond you share.
It’s totally okay to feel unsure at first, and you don’t have to dive into anything you’re not comfortable with. Just take it one step at a time and talk about what you want or need. Your confidence and comfort are the most important things, and the more relaxed you feel, the better it’ll be for both of you.