How often is considered healthy/normal?

[antonio123]

Bro, I think a lot of guys can relate to what you’re going through. It’s actually really normal to feel like you’re falling short when your partner has a higher drive. But remember, this isn't a race. Each couple has their own pace, and what’s “normal” for one might not work for another. At 32, you’re doing just fine, and most people would be impressed with what you’re already managing!

I've been in situations where I couldn’t keep up, and it actually made me a better communicator with my partner. I let her know where my limits were, and it helped us build a stronger, more honest connection. The 10x thing she mentioned sounds like a fantasy more than a realistic expectation, and that’s something she might just need some perspective on.

Have you considered exploring ways to keep things intimate outside of sex? Sometimes simple things like taking time to talk, laugh, or even cuddle can fill that need for connection. And it might help take some of the performance pressure off of you. Most people find that a good balance helps the relationship in the long run.

So, don’t be too hard on yourself. What you’re experiencing is completely normal, and communicating openly about your needs can make things better for both of you.