How often is considered healthy/normal?

[deigo123]

Let me just say, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with needing a break! You’re already doing more than many guys would be able to handle, and I think that’s something to recognize. The fact that she wants you that often is a compliment, but that doesn’t mean you have to keep up with her every single time. I've been through something similar, and it helped when I accepted that every person’s libido is different.

As we get older, our bodies naturally have different rhythms. Sometimes our partners don’t realize that, and it takes a bit of communication to find a rhythm that works for both people. A lot of times, the desire for constant sex is more about connection, so maybe there’s a way to meet her needs through things other than sex every single time. Sometimes, just spending quality time together or doing something intimate but not sexual can be a good balance.

Don’t let this get to you mentally. The worst thing you can do is beat yourself up because that can actually affect your confidence in bed, which can then make it harder to keep up. Let her know where you’re coming from, and I bet you two can figure out a pace that’s healthy and enjoyable for both.

Remember, it’s about both of you enjoying each other’s company, not about hitting a certain number. Trust me, once you open up, it’ll only get better from there.