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[hanar123]

I can relate to this, especially when I was dating someone quite a bit younger than me. I felt that same pressure and wondered if I was doing enough to keep up. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way. Everyone’s stamina is different, and being with someone who has a high drive doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you if you need a bit more downtime between sessions.

Also, don't let it shake your confidence. The fact that you’re able to be intimate multiple times over the weekend is already a lot more than many people out there can do! The 10x a day thing sounds pretty unrealistic for most people, and I think she’ll understand if you tell her that. Sometimes, having an honest conversation about where you’re both at can really help with alignment in the relationship.

One thing I’ve found helpful is focusing on other ways to keep the intimacy high when I'm not up for full-on action. Things like giving her a massage, or finding fun, sensual activities that don’t always lead to sex, can be just as satisfying. It also builds anticipation, which could make your next time together even more enjoyable.

Overall, give yourself a break and remind yourself that quality is more important than quantity. Most people aren’t capable of going at that level constantly, and that’s totally okay.