How often is considered healthy/normal?

[amravat123]

Dude, you’re definitely not alone. I’m a bit older—42—and I’ve had my fair share of relationships with partners who had a different drive than I did. I think a lot of men have been in your shoes, feeling like they should be able to meet their partner’s sexual expectations every time. But here’s the reality: it’s totally normal for your body to need a break, especially after a few days in a row! Physical limitations are real, and there's nothing abnormal about that.

For some people, the early relationship phase can feel like a performance test, but remember, it's not a contest. Even physically fit guys may have limits; hormones, mental state, and sheer physical fatigue all play into this. I actually read somewhere that the “normal” amount varies so much between couples. Some go several times a week, while others are once a day or even less, and both can be completely healthy.

A relationship isn’t just about how often you’re getting it on, but the connection that’s being built. Maybe there are other ways you two can connect when you’re not in the mood, or she’s looking for more. Talk it out with her, maybe laugh about it, and remind her that what matters most is you two feeling close and in sync.

At the end of the day, don’t beat yourself up for not being a machine. Just communicate where you’re at and find what works best for both of you. I promise, that open approach is going to be way more satisfying for you both.