11-14-2024, 01:22 PM
Hey man, I think you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself here. From what you described, it sounds like you’re putting in solid effort, and there's nothing “inadequate” about needing a break or not being able to go on demand. I’m 35, and I’ve been in similar situations with a younger partner who had a higher drive. Honestly, communication was the biggest help for us—just letting her know when I needed a breather. Most people aren’t capable of having sex multiple times a day every day, especially if you’re actually enjoying the sessions you’re having instead of just going through the motions.
There’s also something about those early stages of a relationship that amps up both the pressure and the expectations. Everyone wants to impress and meet their partner’s desires, but at the same time, it's important to acknowledge what’s physically possible for each of you. It’s totally normal to feel challenged at first when you’re adjusting to each other’s rhythms. Just know that you’re not alone in this, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or your relationship.
I’d suggest sitting down and talking with her openly about it. Maybe she doesn’t realize how much pressure that kind of request can put on someone. Even suggesting some ways to keep things spicy in other ways (without full intercourse) could help her understand. For a lot of couples, intimacy can take many forms, and that variety might actually be more fulfilling for both of you long-term.
Remember, you’re doing fine, and it’s okay to say “Hey, I need a little rest.” Relationships are all about finding that balance, and she might be more understanding than you think!
There’s also something about those early stages of a relationship that amps up both the pressure and the expectations. Everyone wants to impress and meet their partner’s desires, but at the same time, it's important to acknowledge what’s physically possible for each of you. It’s totally normal to feel challenged at first when you’re adjusting to each other’s rhythms. Just know that you’re not alone in this, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or your relationship.
I’d suggest sitting down and talking with her openly about it. Maybe she doesn’t realize how much pressure that kind of request can put on someone. Even suggesting some ways to keep things spicy in other ways (without full intercourse) could help her understand. For a lot of couples, intimacy can take many forms, and that variety might actually be more fulfilling for both of you long-term.
Remember, you’re doing fine, and it’s okay to say “Hey, I need a little rest.” Relationships are all about finding that balance, and she might be more understanding than you think!