07-26-2024, 04:53 PM
ja-HE-sus Christ, man! ... you are lucky to get anything back out of this! ... the only reason you did, is probably because you mentioned that you would show up in their office to collect ... (they don't want that sort of unknown threat in their office, so they negotiate).
... were I you, I would be far, far more worried that you appear as a rank amatuer, marrying into a culture whose values are totally unknown to you, and reprehensible by most civil standards of behavior ... now, you might think your experience with the Thai private investigator was an abberation ... it was not ... my man, you've married a woman from a culture where this sort of behavior is accepted ... and normal.
... while there are exceptions, working and living here since 1997, I have seen that they are a single digit minority ... you might expect little different from your Thai bride.
... your antennae were quivering for a reason ... do not ignore what your instincts tell you ... you are taking her into your home, into your country, where the cost of failure is quite a bit higher than here in Thailand ... if not your heart, protect your finances ... and if, over time, she proves to be the rare Thai who rises to accomodate your (I assume) Judeo-Christian values, you might then relax your grip on your accounts ... good luck.
... were I you, I would be far, far more worried that you appear as a rank amatuer, marrying into a culture whose values are totally unknown to you, and reprehensible by most civil standards of behavior ... now, you might think your experience with the Thai private investigator was an abberation ... it was not ... my man, you've married a woman from a culture where this sort of behavior is accepted ... and normal.
... while there are exceptions, working and living here since 1997, I have seen that they are a single digit minority ... you might expect little different from your Thai bride.
... your antennae were quivering for a reason ... do not ignore what your instincts tell you ... you are taking her into your home, into your country, where the cost of failure is quite a bit higher than here in Thailand ... if not your heart, protect your finances ... and if, over time, she proves to be the rare Thai who rises to accomodate your (I assume) Judeo-Christian values, you might then relax your grip on your accounts ... good luck.