07-26-2024, 04:21 PM
Thanks for responding guys. Good advice there and food for thought.The Thailand dates I've had were a great starting point. Thanks for being candid about your successes. I'm grateful for the openness of some of the women I've met in Thailand. My aim remains the same. At home I'm looking to balance my LOS adventures with some dating inbetween visits. If it leads to FWB's or just a few dates I'm okay with that. It doesn't have to be generic or specific.
@Popeye - A FWB's is desired. I will be more honest and upfront about that in future conversations, I'll see how that goes. I agree that overall apps are probably not the best method to meet someone, anyone, but it's something. I'm on dating sites within Australia and similarly not getting anywhere. I understood the advice on the 3 day rule, as I have a habit of relationship forming through any GFE. I now avoid GFE's because of this. A FWB would help in between visits to the LOS, and as I said in my 1st post, I'm not too specific about having a generic relationship, so a FWB, yeah, it would be nice.
@Diabolic - Yes internet dating is stupid, or more correctly I feel stupid while doing it, all the attention seeking augh. Good to know that you were good at it enough to be able to share the differences with me regarding how it works at home and the LOS comparatively. The thing said about sitting behind computer screens trying to lure a chick struck a chord. For me, that's an accurate assessment. I really don't have the confidence right now to walk up to a girl and begin chatting or else I wouldn't be using apps/sites. For the first week after any holiday I have the confidence to approach anyone, but after a week it washes away fast.
I try and get practice at every oppurtunity I can get. Buying groceries or coffee provides the main ones, that and the work environment. It's just to keep practicing - talking with women, having conversations, I'm not coming at anyone with a line or playing an angle, what I'm trying to do is to have a genuine conversation and hopefully they see that. I do that with anyone I meet, I'm more interested in the person than anything else when making/forming a connection, although I'm not qwirky so I tend to play it safe, be that nice fella wherever possible. I'm a little pessimistic because I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, everyone always wants something. I know that there's a trade off in everything Considering your success with the local language and dating, I am considering doing a language course. But this isn't some sorted scheme of mine. I question my own reasons for wanting to do it, knowing it could be helpful overall in business and in later life as I have no immediate plans to stop visiting Thailand. Thanks for sharing.
My LOS trips aren't a substitute for meeting someone real. Nor is dating a stop gap for my visits to the LOS. It's a balance.
If I meet someone in the middle of it all then great. I'm not so self absorbed or jaded that I won't be able to go for it.
Thanks for your advice. I'll keep plugging away.
@Popeye - A FWB's is desired. I will be more honest and upfront about that in future conversations, I'll see how that goes. I agree that overall apps are probably not the best method to meet someone, anyone, but it's something. I'm on dating sites within Australia and similarly not getting anywhere. I understood the advice on the 3 day rule, as I have a habit of relationship forming through any GFE. I now avoid GFE's because of this. A FWB would help in between visits to the LOS, and as I said in my 1st post, I'm not too specific about having a generic relationship, so a FWB, yeah, it would be nice.
@Diabolic - Yes internet dating is stupid, or more correctly I feel stupid while doing it, all the attention seeking augh. Good to know that you were good at it enough to be able to share the differences with me regarding how it works at home and the LOS comparatively. The thing said about sitting behind computer screens trying to lure a chick struck a chord. For me, that's an accurate assessment. I really don't have the confidence right now to walk up to a girl and begin chatting or else I wouldn't be using apps/sites. For the first week after any holiday I have the confidence to approach anyone, but after a week it washes away fast.
I try and get practice at every oppurtunity I can get. Buying groceries or coffee provides the main ones, that and the work environment. It's just to keep practicing - talking with women, having conversations, I'm not coming at anyone with a line or playing an angle, what I'm trying to do is to have a genuine conversation and hopefully they see that. I do that with anyone I meet, I'm more interested in the person than anything else when making/forming a connection, although I'm not qwirky so I tend to play it safe, be that nice fella wherever possible. I'm a little pessimistic because I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, everyone always wants something. I know that there's a trade off in everything Considering your success with the local language and dating, I am considering doing a language course. But this isn't some sorted scheme of mine. I question my own reasons for wanting to do it, knowing it could be helpful overall in business and in later life as I have no immediate plans to stop visiting Thailand. Thanks for sharing.
My LOS trips aren't a substitute for meeting someone real. Nor is dating a stop gap for my visits to the LOS. It's a balance.
If I meet someone in the middle of it all then great. I'm not so self absorbed or jaded that I won't be able to go for it.
Thanks for your advice. I'll keep plugging away.