07-26-2024, 04:20 PM
My experience with dating apps like Tindr is that you cannot take your time if you are trying to make a connection. Try to send a few messages, and quickly set up a date for drinks and get to the banging if you feel like you can make it happen. This is Relationship Game Theory on steroids... I don't use Tindr often, but when I do, I try not to waste my time or theirs. If you are looking for a serious relationship, don't use a dating app. Try OKCupid or Match.
That having been said, I have a couple of FWBs that help with the ocasional bouts of loneliness. One of them prefers women, is almost 10 years younger than me and calls me up whenever she has a new GF and wants to have a 3-some without the drama. The other one is about 5 years older than me, divorced, and has stated that she is not looking for a relationship. With each of them, I go out to dinner once in a while to keep up the friendship, and if the mood strikes, I come over for a pajama party. Having come off a 7+ years LTR and being single for the last 3, the last thing *I* want is to get back into a serious relationship. I really enjoy having time to myself and doing whatever I want without having to answer to or worry about anyone else. This briefly turned into a problem with the divorcee, but I had to set her straight and everything is kosher now.
On the mongering side of things, I don't think this would ever be enough for me. I love that I *potentially* have the option to go with a different girl every day of the year, but the problem is that I am too dumb emotionally, so I end up caring about them as a person. This is where the 3-day rule comes into effect.
Forgot to say, try to expand your circle of emotional support. I'm sure you can find women that are also looking for a FWB. You'd be surprised how open some women can be if you are just honest about what you want. I've met some women before that I was not interested in, because they wanted more, and have introduced them to other friends who were looking for something serious. It saves everyone time and effort. If you do develop a FWB, this will help with those times when you are home and get depressed thinking about how long it is until your next trip to Thailand.
That having been said, I have a couple of FWBs that help with the ocasional bouts of loneliness. One of them prefers women, is almost 10 years younger than me and calls me up whenever she has a new GF and wants to have a 3-some without the drama. The other one is about 5 years older than me, divorced, and has stated that she is not looking for a relationship. With each of them, I go out to dinner once in a while to keep up the friendship, and if the mood strikes, I come over for a pajama party. Having come off a 7+ years LTR and being single for the last 3, the last thing *I* want is to get back into a serious relationship. I really enjoy having time to myself and doing whatever I want without having to answer to or worry about anyone else. This briefly turned into a problem with the divorcee, but I had to set her straight and everything is kosher now.
On the mongering side of things, I don't think this would ever be enough for me. I love that I *potentially* have the option to go with a different girl every day of the year, but the problem is that I am too dumb emotionally, so I end up caring about them as a person. This is where the 3-day rule comes into effect.
Forgot to say, try to expand your circle of emotional support. I'm sure you can find women that are also looking for a FWB. You'd be surprised how open some women can be if you are just honest about what you want. I've met some women before that I was not interested in, because they wanted more, and have introduced them to other friends who were looking for something serious. It saves everyone time and effort. If you do develop a FWB, this will help with those times when you are home and get depressed thinking about how long it is until your next trip to Thailand.