07-26-2024, 02:30 PM
First off, congratulations. You got me to sign in on my computer. I write 99% of my posts on my iphone, but that little screen just wasn't going to cut it for a response to your lengthy post.
Secondly, I think it's a great idea that you are taking the time and putting in the effort to learn Thai. That is going to be the single most valuable thing you can do early on if you really intend to stay here long-term and particularly help with finding a wider range of Thai girls. Even speaking basic, basic Thai will set you apart from the thousands who can't say a word.
I think you are also off to a good start by managing expectations for "normal" girls. Hooking up with bargirls for quick and easy fun while starting to converse with a number of regular girls to cultivate some relationships should help balance what you want (sex with normal, non-working girls- don't we all) with enjoying the amazing place you now find yourself in.
What you mention about the girls in their 20s being immature by Western standards I also find true. I noticed this a lot in Japan as well where I have spent a lot of time. Women in their 20s with rooms filled with stuffed animals and every text message containing cutesy emoticons. Conversations that consisted of nothing of substance (I speak Japanese fluently, so that wasn't the barrier) but just what's 'cute' and what's 'scary'. Although I enjoyed banging the 18-20 year olds just for the fact that they were hot, tight bodied Asian girls, I found myself drawn to the over 30 crowd. Easier to talk to about a wide range of topics, more life experience, and most importantly, more sexually experienced and aware. This holds true in Thailand as well.
When I moved to Thailand I went through the same progression as I had previously. Now, 2 years on, I speak very conversant Thai, bang massage girls and freelancers, but have a girlfriend who is actually 3 years older than me (avatar) and when I date other girls they are almost exclusively 25-35 years old. The cute, shy college girl seems fun, but the sexual and mental immaturity coupled with the clinginess and need for attention just pushes the scales to a point that I don't pursue that type generally.
My advice to you would be to search for girls in categories based on what you hope to find. If you want a quick lay, stick to the pros. Cheap, easy, no questions or drama. If you want someone with whom you can converse, enjoy a drink and build a friendship or romance with, search for one a bit more educated and closer to your age range. This sounds like common logic, but sometimes stopping to think to yourself if your expectations are in line with reality can help steer your focus. We all want a super hot, intelligent 20 year old who is great in bed and has the same hobbies as us and isn't clingy or childish but that isn't really going to happen very often.
Bangkok has somewhere north of 5 million women, and a good number of those are available. You can definitely find any type you are looking for, but the real catches take time.
Good luck, and enjoy the hunt!
Secondly, I think it's a great idea that you are taking the time and putting in the effort to learn Thai. That is going to be the single most valuable thing you can do early on if you really intend to stay here long-term and particularly help with finding a wider range of Thai girls. Even speaking basic, basic Thai will set you apart from the thousands who can't say a word.
I think you are also off to a good start by managing expectations for "normal" girls. Hooking up with bargirls for quick and easy fun while starting to converse with a number of regular girls to cultivate some relationships should help balance what you want (sex with normal, non-working girls- don't we all) with enjoying the amazing place you now find yourself in.
What you mention about the girls in their 20s being immature by Western standards I also find true. I noticed this a lot in Japan as well where I have spent a lot of time. Women in their 20s with rooms filled with stuffed animals and every text message containing cutesy emoticons. Conversations that consisted of nothing of substance (I speak Japanese fluently, so that wasn't the barrier) but just what's 'cute' and what's 'scary'. Although I enjoyed banging the 18-20 year olds just for the fact that they were hot, tight bodied Asian girls, I found myself drawn to the over 30 crowd. Easier to talk to about a wide range of topics, more life experience, and most importantly, more sexually experienced and aware. This holds true in Thailand as well.
When I moved to Thailand I went through the same progression as I had previously. Now, 2 years on, I speak very conversant Thai, bang massage girls and freelancers, but have a girlfriend who is actually 3 years older than me (avatar) and when I date other girls they are almost exclusively 25-35 years old. The cute, shy college girl seems fun, but the sexual and mental immaturity coupled with the clinginess and need for attention just pushes the scales to a point that I don't pursue that type generally.
My advice to you would be to search for girls in categories based on what you hope to find. If you want a quick lay, stick to the pros. Cheap, easy, no questions or drama. If you want someone with whom you can converse, enjoy a drink and build a friendship or romance with, search for one a bit more educated and closer to your age range. This sounds like common logic, but sometimes stopping to think to yourself if your expectations are in line with reality can help steer your focus. We all want a super hot, intelligent 20 year old who is great in bed and has the same hobbies as us and isn't clingy or childish but that isn't really going to happen very often.
Bangkok has somewhere north of 5 million women, and a good number of those are available. You can definitely find any type you are looking for, but the real catches take time.
Good luck, and enjoy the hunt!