07-25-2024, 02:48 PM
There are many kinds of romantic relationships.
Each of us in the West is more or less programmed by society, education and the media to systematically seek an ideal relationship. A relationship that is simultaneously sexually excellent, emotionally satisfying and intellectually fulfilling. And a relationship where money plays no role... It is the modern western ideal of love.
I'm not saying it's bad to look for that (I'm looking for it too!) but it's an ideal.
Most of the love relationships we will have in our life will not fit that ideal. Personally, I had very intellectually interesting relationships with women who did not like sex very much. In any case, not sex with me! The physical connection was not present.
I have had relationships with women that were emotionally and sexually satisfying. But not intellectually.
It happened once in my life that I had a relationship that was fully satisfying with a woman on all levels: physical, emotional and intellectual. But finally she quit me for a man richer than me! So I guess everything was not perfect...
Here is my suggestion: enjoy what is going well with your current girlfriend. Do not ruin everything to satisfy social pressure towards perfection, towards an ideal.
But learn Thai and encourage her to learn English. Make a rule that you will speak Thai one day and the other day you will speak English. You will be the student one day and the teacher the other day. This little game of being the teacher and the student alternately will bring you closer to each other.
And one day you will be able to have deep and satisfying conversations!
Good luck!
Each of us in the West is more or less programmed by society, education and the media to systematically seek an ideal relationship. A relationship that is simultaneously sexually excellent, emotionally satisfying and intellectually fulfilling. And a relationship where money plays no role... It is the modern western ideal of love.
I'm not saying it's bad to look for that (I'm looking for it too!) but it's an ideal.
Most of the love relationships we will have in our life will not fit that ideal. Personally, I had very intellectually interesting relationships with women who did not like sex very much. In any case, not sex with me! The physical connection was not present.
I have had relationships with women that were emotionally and sexually satisfying. But not intellectually.
It happened once in my life that I had a relationship that was fully satisfying with a woman on all levels: physical, emotional and intellectual. But finally she quit me for a man richer than me! So I guess everything was not perfect...
Here is my suggestion: enjoy what is going well with your current girlfriend. Do not ruin everything to satisfy social pressure towards perfection, towards an ideal.
But learn Thai and encourage her to learn English. Make a rule that you will speak Thai one day and the other day you will speak English. You will be the student one day and the teacher the other day. This little game of being the teacher and the student alternately will bring you closer to each other.
And one day you will be able to have deep and satisfying conversations!
Good luck!