Maybe i'm getting something right?

[ban908463]

Okay, so I wrote a post a few weeks ago asking for advice on how to make my girlfriend cum, and a lot of people suggested trying clitoral stimulation and focusing on the G-spot. So, I’ve been experimenting, and I’ll tell you what’s been going on. The clitoral stimulation seemed to work in that she really enjoyed it, but it didn’t quite get her to orgasm. It just made her really wet, which is definitely a good sign, but still, no orgasm. As for the G-spot, the first time I tried it, she said it felt weird, but the next time I tried again, she actually liked it and even told me to go faster. So, that was progress, but it still hasn’t quite gotten her over the finish line.

There are a couple of things that I think might be holding her back, though. The first is that she’s mentioned she’s always worried about someone walking in on us—like my parents or someone else. That fear of being caught has made her feel tense during sex, and I can tell that it’s affecting her ability to relax fully. The tension seems to make it harder for her to really let go and experience the pleasure she could be feeling. I think that constant worry is definitely a barrier when it comes to her reaching orgasm, especially when she’s trying to focus on feeling good.

The second thing that might be affecting her is that the time when she really seemed to enjoy the G-spot stimulation was when we were drunk. Her friend had told her that she probably won’t cum while she’s drunk, but I don’t know if that’s true. Maybe the alcohol helped her relax more and lowered her inhibitions, but now I’m wondering if the drunken state is the only time she feels like she can really let go. Does that mean that being sober is somehow affecting her ability to enjoy sex and reach orgasm?

So, I’m really asking for some advice here—what do you think could be holding her back from cumming? Is it the fear of being caught? The alcohol? Or is there something else going on that I haven’t figured out yet? I really want to be able to help her experience the kind of orgasm she deserves, but I’m just not sure what’s preventing it from happening.

Any thoughts or advice from people who’ve been in a similar situation would be super helpful.

[amravat123]

Hey man, it sounds like you’re really putting in the effort to make things better, which is awesome. As for the fear of being caught, that’s a huge factor. If she’s constantly worried about someone walking in, it’s no surprise it’s affecting her ability to let go. I’ve had similar experiences where the anxiety of being overheard or seen really dampens the mood. It can be helpful to create a safe space where you both know you won’t be interrupted—maybe even setting boundaries with roommates or family about privacy could ease that stress.

Also, I think alcohol plays a big role here. I wouldn’t say it’s the reason she’s having trouble reaching orgasm, but it definitely lowers inhibitions, which is why she might be letting go more in that state. When you’re sober, there’s a different kind of pressure to “perform,” and that can block the natural flow of things. Maybe try to talk about her comfort level with alcohol and see if there’s a middle ground where she feels relaxed without needing to get drunk.

You’re doing great with the G-spot stimulation. Don’t be discouraged by the progress—it sounds like you’re making strides. Keep experimenting, but also remember that sexual chemistry can evolve with time. If you both continue exploring at her pace, it’ll probably start falling into place. Try being more vocal with her about what feels good, and let her give feedback. Sometimes the physical part is easier when the emotional connection feels strong.

Lastly, don’t overthink it too much. It seems like you’re putting pressure on yourself to get it right, but sometimes a relaxed, spontaneous approach can work wonders. Maybe you’re focusing too hard on getting her to orgasm, which could create performance anxiety for both of you. Focus on enjoying the experience together, and the orgasms will likely follow naturally.

[hanar123]

It sounds like you’re really trying to be considerate, and I respect that. It seems like a lot of things could be at play here, but I’d agree that the fear of being caught is probably one of the bigger factors. For many people, that kind of stress can make it almost impossible to relax, no matter how much physical stimulation is going on. I’ve been in relationships where both me and my partner were worried about someone overhearing, and it totally killed the vibe.

If you want to help her relax, maybe try setting the scene in a way that makes her feel like she’s in control. Sometimes, turning off distractions, dimming the lights, or just creating a safe space where you’re not worried about someone walking in can really help. You might even want to have a conversation about how you can ensure that doesn’t happen next time. This might help remove the mental blocks that are interfering with her pleasure.

Regarding alcohol, I wouldn’t say it’s a crutch, but it could be helping her get out of her head. The thing with alcohol is it affects people differently. For some, it’s a confidence booster; for others, it just dulls the senses. It might be a good idea to see how she feels about her sexual experiences when sober—ask her how she feels without alcohol, and you can adjust from there. You might be surprised by how her body responds when she's not relying on alcohol to let go.

But don’t give up, man. You’re doing everything right by being patient and understanding. Sometimes it’s just a matter of time and creating a comfortable space. Keep talking to her and experimenting with different approaches, and things should improve.

[deigo123]

Hey man, I feel for you. Trying to help your partner get to the point of orgasm can feel like a puzzle sometimes, but it’s clear you’re really trying. First off, I think the anxiety of being caught is definitely a major barrier. When your partner is constantly on edge like that, it can definitely block any pleasure from flowing. You’ve already got a good start by recognizing that’s affecting her. Try to talk to her openly about how you can both work together to avoid those interruptions—maybe create a time when you can have complete privacy, and even lock the door to avoid any surprises.

In terms of alcohol, I do think it’s playing a part in her ability to let go. The fact that she seemed to enjoy things more when drunk could be because the alcohol helped her relax enough to focus on the pleasure without any distractions or inhibitions. That’s common, but it can also be a sign that there’s something deeper preventing her from feeling totally comfortable when sober. If you’re able to talk with her about that, you can figure out if there’s any other mental or emotional thing blocking her ability to really enjoy sex.

Also, with G-spot stimulation, some women need more time to warm up to it. She might not have been in the right headspace the first time, but the fact that she liked it the second time is a great sign. Keep exploring and asking her what feels good. Some women enjoy being led, while others like to take the reins. You might want to try different rhythms or pressure until you find what really works for her.

Ultimately, the most important thing is communication. Keep having these open and non-judgmental talks with her. It’s clear you want to make sure she’s comfortable and that you’re willing to experiment and listen, which will eventually help you both figure out what works best. Keep it relaxed and don’t put too much pressure on it.

[antonio123]

I totally get where you’re coming from. You’re in a bit of a tricky situation, and I think you’re on the right track with trying to figure out what’s happening. First, I’d focus on the tension and the fear of being caught. That’s a big one. Even if she’s enjoying the physical sensations, if her mind is constantly on alert, it’s hard for her to truly relax and experience pleasure. You might want to talk with her about how she feels about having that kind of private space, and maybe you both can work out a way to make sure she feels secure during intimacy. If she can’t fully relax, she won’t reach orgasm as easily.

As for the alcohol, it’s definitely affecting things. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, so she might be feeling less shy or worried about how things are going when drunk, but when sober, there’s a lot more mental focus on “performing” or getting things “right.” This could be making her feel less free, which is blocking her ability to reach orgasm. Maybe try some relaxed, sober sessions where you focus entirely on her pleasure, without any pressure to make her cum. Just see what feels good to her.

I also think you’re being too hard on yourself. Not every sexual encounter has to end in orgasm, especially if she’s not quite there yet. Sometimes the journey is more important than the destination. Focus on the connection, and her body will respond to that trust and comfort. It’s great that you’re experimenting with different techniques, but don’t get fixated on the idea that orgasm is the only goal. Pleasure is more than just the finish line.

I know it’s frustrating, but give her time and space to explore what feels good. Don’t give up—being patient and understanding will definitely pay off in the long run. The key is to keep things fun and easy, without stressing about the end result. Eventually, things will click, and she’ll feel more relaxed and able to reach orgasm when the time is right.

[piciossa]

Hey there, I’ve been in a similar situation, and I can tell you that sometimes these things take time. First, I agree with the others that the fear of being caught is definitely a significant factor. It’s hard to enjoy sex when there’s that constant nagging thought in the back of your mind. What helped me in a similar situation was creating rituals and signals with my partner to make sure we both knew we had privacy, and that helped her feel more relaxed. It might be worth having an honest talk with her about what kind of boundaries you can set up to ensure you both feel safe.

As for alcohol, it sounds like it might be a bit of a crutch for her at the moment. The relaxation it brings might help her let go, but over time, this could create a dependence on it for good sex. Maybe try mixing in some sober experiences where she’s not relying on alcohol to get to that point of relaxation. It could also help if you focus more on foreplay—sometimes the buildup without the rush to finish can make the experience way more intense for both people.

I think it’s important to remember that each woman is different, and it’s awesome that you’re trying to understand her body and her needs. The G-spot stimulation might take more than just a few tries, and even if it’s not working perfectly, the fact that you’re paying attention to her comfort and pleasure means you’re on the right track. Keep the communication flowing and let her express what she likes and doesn’t like.

Finally, don’t get discouraged. It’s great that you’re trying to help her experience orgasm, but remember that sex is about connection. Keep exploring and having fun with it. As you continue learning each other’s bodies and desires, it’ll all fall into place naturally. Patience and understanding will make all the difference in the long run.