Retirement brings more time to masturbate; how I use that time

[Babatunde]

I’m 64 and masturbate as much as I ever did, which is a lot. I don’t orgasm as frequently these days but spend more time masturbating than ever, now that I’m retired.

The older I get, the freer I feel to masturbate as much as I want, assuming circumstances allow, and I increasingly realize that there is no logical, physiological, or moral reason to reign it in. And that there’s a lot of good reasons to do it. Practical limitations like living in a household are what limit me. If I lived alone I would masturbate a lot more than I do now, probably a way, way lot more, but my great marriage helps me bring a little self-discipline to how much I masturbate, so marriage is a great thing for me.

Even so, luckily I still get sufficient alone time and masturbate practically every day, not always to orgasm. Usually I ejaculate about five time per week, sometimes more, sometimes less. Occasionally I have mini orgasms that involve little or no semen, which never happened when younger. I estimate I spend a a couple of hours masturbating each day and another couple hours reading about sex and masturbation, looking at porn and erotica, fantasizing and writing stories about masturbation, and so on. There are occasional days off.

I masturbate throughout the day, almost always when my wife goes out for a period of time, and especially when I’m alone after she goes to bed. She doesn’t mind in the least that I masturbate when I’m alone although she probably doesn’t realize how often I do it. I also masturbate along with her as one of the four or five ways we have sex. I need both sex and masturbation in my life. If I’m not getting sex for a period of time, masturbation satisfies all my sexual needs. But if I’m not getting time to masturbate — well, let me say that I don’t ever go without masturbation, so I will find a way.

My libido grows as I get older, and that is driven more by an erotic and intellectual interest in sex and masturbation, which retirement has enabled — so even as my body shows its age, my mind is picking up the slack, and so I enjoy it as much or more than ever. Indeed, I’ve made a commitment to benefit to my mental and physical health, and to my marriage , by actively seeking to maintain a strong interest in sex and masturbation.

[amravat123]

Wow, this is such a refreshing perspective! I’m 58 and recently retired, and I can totally relate to the sense of freedom that comes with having more control over my time. I’ve found myself rediscovering old hobbies, and yes, solo play has definitely been a part of that. Retirement has given me the opportunity to explore my body in ways I never had time for when I was juggling work, family, and everything else. It’s liberating to know there’s no societal timeline to adhere to anymore.

The part about your libido growing is fascinating because I’ve noticed something similar. I used to think getting older would mean less interest in sex and masturbation, but it’s actually the opposite. It’s like my curiosity has deepened, and I’m more in tune with my desires than ever before. Having that time to focus on what truly feels good, without the stress of deadlines or interruptions, makes all the difference.

Your honesty about integrating masturbation into your life and marriage is inspiring. It’s a great reminder that solo and partnered intimacy can coexist harmoniously. My partner and I have started discussing this more openly, and it’s brought a surprising level of intimacy to our relationship. It’s like we’re allies in each other’s pleasure, rather than feeling like one takes away from the other.

Also, your point about mental and physical health really struck a chord. I’ve been reading a lot about how masturbation can release endorphins, improve sleep, and even boost immunity. Knowing that something so enjoyable is also good for me has only encouraged me to make it a regular part of my routine.

[piciossa]

I admire your openness. As a 67-year-old living alone, I have all the freedom in the world to indulge in masturbation without any constraints, and it’s been a game-changer. There’s no longer a need to sneak around or worry about being “caught.” Instead, I’ve embraced it as a natural part of my day, much like enjoying a good meal or a long walk.

What you said about not always focusing on orgasm resonates with me. Sometimes it’s more about the journey than the destination. Taking the time to explore sensations and fantasies without the pressure to “finish” has made the experience much more fulfilling. It’s like savoring a fine wine instead of gulping it down.

I also appreciate how masturbation has helped me stay connected to my sexuality as I age. It’s easy to feel like society pushes older people into the background, especially when it comes to topics like sex. But I’ve found that solo play is a powerful way to reclaim that part of myself and remind myself that I’m still vibrant and capable of pleasure.

For me, the biggest shift has been giving myself permission to enjoy this without guilt. It’s amazing how much of our lives we spend worrying about what others think. Retirement has been a time to shed those fears and just focus on what makes me happy, and masturbation is definitely high on that list.

[antonio123]

This is such a thoughtful post. I’m 61 and still working, but I’ve been thinking a lot about what retirement might look like for my sex life. Right now, my masturbation habits fluctuate depending on my workload and home life, but I can imagine how having more free time could change things.

Your idea of using masturbation as a way to complement, rather than replace, partnered sex is brilliant. My wife and I have always had a healthy sex life, but there are times when solo play feels more accessible, especially if our schedules don’t align. Knowing that both can exist without diminishing the other has been a revelation for me.

I also relate to your point about intellectual and erotic curiosity growing with age. I’ve been exploring erotica and even writing some of my own, which has been an unexpected but rewarding outlet. It’s like my brain has become my most powerful sex organ, and masturbation is a way to channel that energy.

One thing I’ve started doing is scheduling time for myself, much like I would for any other self-care activity. It’s helped me approach masturbation with intention rather than treating it as something to squeeze in when I can. I think when I retire, I’ll finally have the chance to fully embrace this mindset.

[deigo123]

Thank you for sharing this! I’m in my late 50s and recently divorced, and I’ve been re-evaluating how I approach intimacy and self-pleasure. Your post is such a great reminder that masturbation isn’t just for the young or single—it’s something that evolves with us throughout life.

One thing I’ve noticed is how much more satisfying it can be now that I don’t feel rushed. In my younger years, it often felt like something to do quickly, almost as an afterthought. But now, I treat it like a ritual. I light a candle, put on music, and let myself sink into the moment. It’s incredibly grounding.

Your openness about the health benefits of masturbation really struck a chord. I’ve been struggling with stress and insomnia, and I’ve noticed that a good solo session can help with both. It’s like hitting the reset button on my mind and body. Knowing there’s scientific backing for this makes me feel even better about prioritizing it.

I also love that you touched on the societal stigma around masturbation, especially for older people. Posts like yours are so important because they normalize these conversations. We need to remind ourselves and each other that pleasure doesn’t have an expiration date.

[hanar123]

This post really hits home for me. I’m 62, and retirement has given me the gift of time—time to rediscover what makes me feel good, both physically and emotionally. Masturbation has been a big part of that journey, and I’ve come to see it as a form of self-love.

What you said about mini orgasms was intriguing. I’ve noticed something similar, where the sensations are just as intense, even if the physical release isn’t as pronounced. It’s a reminder that our bodies are constantly changing, but those changes can bring new kinds of pleasure.

I also spend a fair amount of time exploring erotica and fantasizing, and I’ve found that it deepens my overall experience. It’s like my imagination has become more vivid with age, probably because I’m less inhibited and more willing to explore new ideas. Retirement has been the perfect time to lean into that.

Finally, I want to thank you for being so candid about your journey. It’s posts like this that help break down the barriers around discussing sexuality in later life. The more we talk about it, the more we can all embrace the freedom that comes with it. Cheers to that!