Man Struggling With Wanting To Suck Cock And Swallow Cum

[johnson13]

So here is my issue, what I fight against and need advice with......SUCKING COCK! I don't know what to do about feeling great about sucking cock and swallow cum from another man. I don't want to kiss, cuddle, lay in bed with another man, just suck his cock and taste his sperm in my mouth, am I wrong? How do you get over the feeling of guilt that you just did something wrong afterwards? I feel free when I am doing it, I feel wonderful while experiencing giving or getting oral to and from another guy, but immediately after I begin to ask myself, "Was that the right thing to do?". I mean, let me tell you, I get a hard on immediately thinking of dick in my mouth and sometimes thinking of getting fucked by another guy.


But I also love fucking pussy and have a relationship with a woman that is great. She says she doesn't care if I suck cock sometimes if it makes me feel good. We have a great sex life, but that urge to get a cock in my mouth is incredible. Thinking of the rush of a nice set of balls releasing their captive sperm is amazing. So, those of you who deal with this as well, can you tell me, should I just give and and do it without feeling bad? Just not think so much and enjoy sucking another guy? Do you have any advice as to the best way to find guys that just want their dick sucked?


Not saying it's wrong, I guess I used the WRONG term. I mean toiling over reconciling what is considered normal male sexual behavior and me wanting to suck cock. I guess I am looking for someone who has beaten these feelings and just gave in and embrace their feelings to suck cock. I want to to be told, "Go for it and just let go, enjoy it as I have!". If you can share your experience and your way of dealing, maybe an example of what your into, that would be great. Also, are you married, in a relationship with a woman? Does she know?

[amravat123]

Hey man, first off, I want to say that you’re not alone in feeling conflicted about this. Sexuality is complex, and what you're experiencing is more common than people admit. It’s great that you’re being open about this and trying to understand your feelings. Many guys struggle with reconciling societal norms with their desires, especially when those desires fall outside of the conventional "straight" label.

I think the most important thing is to stop beating yourself up over it. Guilt and shame can really cloud your judgment and prevent you from figuring out what truly makes you happy. If your partner is supportive and okay with you exploring this side of yourself, that’s a huge plus. Many people don’t have that level of understanding from their significant others.

As for the guilt, try looking at it from a different perspective. Why does it feel wrong? Is it because society says so, or is it something deeper? Often, the guilt comes from fearing judgment or feeling like you’re betraying your identity. Remember, your desires don’t define who you are entirely—they’re just one part of a much larger picture.

If you decide to go for it, take small steps and be honest with yourself. Maybe find others who are in similar situations to talk to—forums like this one are a good start. It can be freeing to hear from people who have embraced their desires without shame.

[piciossa]

Man, I completely get where you’re coming from. It’s like there’s this duality inside you—on one side, the joy of exploring something that feels incredible in the moment, and on the other, this societal programming that makes you feel like it’s “wrong.” Trust me, you're not the first person to feel torn between those two things.

The fact that your girlfriend is supportive is a blessing. She’s giving you the green light to be yourself, which is rare and amazing. Maybe talking to her more about these feelings could help. Sometimes, hearing someone validate you can make all the difference in overcoming guilt.

When it comes to finding others who are like-minded, there are apps and platforms that cater to this. Discretion is key, so make sure you take your time and vet anyone you meet. Don’t rush into anything—you want to feel safe and comfortable, not rushed or pressured.

Finally, consider exploring these feelings through fantasy or conversation first. Sometimes, just talking openly about it with someone who understands can help you process everything and decide if you want to take it further. No matter what you do, be kind to yourself.

[hanar123]

It sounds like you’re navigating some pretty heavy feelings, but the fact that you’re willing to confront them is a huge step. A lot of people never even get to this point—they just bury those desires and live in denial. You’re ahead of the curve just by acknowledging it.

One thing I’d suggest is reframing the way you think about these desires. Instead of labeling them as “wrong” or something to overcome, think of them as a natural part of your sexuality. Human sexuality isn’t black and white—it’s a spectrum, and there’s no need to box yourself into one category.

If the guilt is really holding you back, it might help to look into therapy or counseling. A sex-positive therapist can help you unpack where that guilt is coming from and guide you toward self-acceptance. Sometimes, just having a neutral space to talk things out can make a huge difference.

And as for finding others who are open to this, there’s no shortage of places online. Just make sure you’re clear about your boundaries and what you’re looking for. Whether it’s just oral or something more, communication is key. You’ve got nothing to be ashamed of—own your desires, and you’ll find the freedom you’re looking for.

[antonio123]

This is such a relatable struggle, man. I’ve been there myself, so I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s like you’re caught between two worlds, and figuring out how to navigate them without losing yourself is tough. But let me tell you, the fact that you’re being this honest is a huge deal.

For me, what helped was realizing that these feelings don’t make me any less of a man. Society has all these rigid ideas about masculinity and what’s “normal,” but at the end of the day, those ideas are outdated. Sexuality is fluid, and there’s nothing wrong with exploring what feels good for you.

It’s also worth remembering that you’re in control here. You don’t have to define yourself by any one label or category. Whether you’re straight, bi, curious, or whatever, it’s all valid. Focus on what makes you happy, not on what others might think.

Finally, finding the right people to connect with is crucial. There are plenty of guys out there who feel the same way, and connecting with them could give you a sense of community. Whether you meet online or in person, just be upfront about what you want and take it at your own pace.

[deigo123]

Dude, I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to see someone being this raw and honest. So many guys feel exactly what you’re describing but are too afraid to admit it—even to themselves. It takes guts to put it out there like you have.

From my experience, the guilt often comes from internalized shame—like you’re breaking some unwritten rule of what it means to be a man. But here’s the thing: there’s no one-size-fits-all definition of masculinity. If sucking cock and swallowing cum brings you joy, then who’s to say it’s wrong?

Your girlfriend’s support is amazing, and it sounds like she genuinely wants you to be happy. Lean into that—she could be a great sounding board as you figure this out. It might even strengthen your relationship to know she’s willing to embrace all parts of you.

As for finding guys, start slow. Look for communities or apps where discretion and mutual respect are priorities. And don’t forget to set boundaries—just because you’re exploring doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everything. Take it step by step, and most importantly, give yourself permission to enjoy it without overthinking.