Balancing Personal Desires and Genuine Connections

[aiden15632]

Hey everyone,
I’m in a bit of a dilemma and would appreciate your thoughts. Last November, during my first trip to Thailand, I had planned to enjoy a series of one-night stands. I met around 8 or 9 bar girls and escorts, sticking to my original plan. However, my experience took an unexpected turn at the airport, where I met a Thai lady who asked me to fill out some forms.
Despite initially joking about being a bar girl, she eventually gave me her Facebook details. Fast forward two months, and after some meaningful conversations, I discovered she was struggling financially. I offered help, which she declined, insisting she could manage on her own.

[daniel74]

My advice is to quit thinking so much. The only difference between her and a girl back home is that she lives far away, and her "In debt" probably seems like a lot to her when it is most likely 50,000 baht or something. Back in the west, if a girl is in debt it's more like $40,000 credit card debt and $30,000 in student loans. That's real debt.



A lot of guys get hung up on "What should I do?" when they start liking a Thai girl.


Don't.



Just go have fun with her and let your experiences with her be the deciding factor. If you're out with her, and can't quit thinking about running off to the bar and fucking, then you're not ready for a relationship. If you're with her, and you can picture a future with her, then go for it. Trying to decide what to do when you're just chatting long distance won't work because there is too much doubt.

[hilululu]

, if you do really want to get involved with a Thai girl, be prepared to change. Think about how you're going to make it work. Would you move to Thailand? Would you risk bringing a Thai girl to your home country? If you answer no to both of the last two questions, then forget everything else I said. Ditch the girl and just go have fun in the bars. A relationship with a Thai girl will never be for you because too much life change is involved. Just go party and don't get attached.

[johnson13]

Compromise .... Do a FWB scenario and see how that works. Explain that you're both just friends who go out and stuff but you both have your separate lives until you both decide later to split up or get together permanently. But if you're not living together and have not been for at least 1 full year then it's not a real relationship at this point.

[shant234]

Thank you guys.



That has definitely brought me down to earth.



I bought this to my best friend yesterday, his words of wisdom to me was "you have not got the stay in you"



I think he knows me to well.



Anyway thank you guys taking advice and going from there.