Women Have You Had Lovers Who Took Too Long To Orgasm?

[johnson13]

Ladies, a female friend keeps complaining that her man takes too long to climax during intercourse ,have many of you had the same problem?. They are both experienced fit people in thier early 30's.
She reaches O sometimes from penetration , it is not the case that she finishes and has to keep going. Its like when she knows she wont she cant be bothered to let him have fun. She admits to not getting involved in foreplay except him going down on her.

[amravat123]

I can totally relate to your friend's situation. I’ve been with women who mentioned the same thing—my ex would take forever to climax, and honestly, it became frustrating after a while. I think it really depends on the guy’s mental state, his physical condition, and how connected the couple is during sex. Sometimes, men get so focused on ‘lasting longer’ or keeping up a certain pace that they lose track of the connection, and it can make things drag on too long.

In my case, it was a mix of wanting to satisfy her and overthinking the whole thing. I found it frustrating because I knew she wasn’t feeling as into it anymore, but I couldn’t rush myself to finish. It’s all about pacing and chemistry, honestly. When you can get into that rhythm, it doesn’t feel like you’re just waiting for the end of the session.

However, I noticed that the foreplay definitely plays a big part. If the woman isn’t feeling engaged, then everything becomes mechanical. She mentioned she doesn’t get involved in foreplay other than oral—maybe that’s a huge part of it. Communication is key. It’s important to talk openly about what works, and sometimes just slowing things down, trying different things, and adjusting the pressure or rhythm can make all the difference.

If your friend’s partner is really fit and healthy, maybe they just need to mix things up a bit to find what works for them both. It might also help if they both try focusing more on the experience than on ‘the finish line’—getting lost in the moment could take off the pressure.

[hanar123]

That’s an interesting one, because I’ve seen both sides of the story. One of my exes was really sensitive about me taking too long, while another was totally fine with it. To me, it feels like a case of expectations versus reality. A lot of guys put a lot of pressure on themselves to ‘last longer,’ which can actually make it harder to reach the goal when it matters.

I think there’s something to be said about how involved the woman is, too. If she’s already mentally checked out, it’s going to affect the whole experience. You can’t just expect her to stay interested if she’s not invested in the buildup. I mean, I get it, some women don’t need much foreplay, but if she’s admitting that she doesn’t engage much in it except for oral, then she might be missing out on building that emotional and physical connection.

It’s important for both partners to feel like they’re in sync. If she’s feeling like she’s ‘done’ and can’t be bothered to let him finish, then that could be a sign they need to reevaluate their approach to intimacy. Maybe they should have a candid conversation about what works for both of them.

Ultimately, I think being patient with each other and not rushing toward orgasm could solve a lot of issues. I don’t think taking longer to climax is the problem—it’s more about figuring out how to enjoy the journey together.

[antonio123]

Yeah, I’ve had partners who took way longer to climax than I expected, and it’s honestly a turn-off when it drags on too long. It’s almost like the longer it takes, the less invested both people are, and you start wondering if there’s something wrong. But I also get the guy’s side—sometimes it’s not about him trying to last longer, it’s just how his body works.

What I’ve learned is that communication is the most important part here. If she feels like he’s taking too long, then there might be some underlying tension or frustration on her part. It could be that she’s not mentally connected to the moment and feels like she’s doing a ‘duty’ to help him finish, rather than enjoying it together. That’s a huge problem, honestly.

The problem also sounds a little bit like a lack of engagement from her side. She says she doesn’t get involved in foreplay—maybe she’s not emotionally or physically ready for the intensity of intercourse. If she isn’t turned on or isn’t participating, it’s going to make it harder for both of them. I’d suggest they focus on building more connection in the beginning, maybe try some new things, and not just rely on oral for stimulation.

For the guy, if you’re in a situation where your partner is losing interest or not engaging, try taking a step back and focusing on what you’re both enjoying. Pressure to climax can really ruin the whole experience.

[piciossa]

I feel for your friend. I’ve been in a similar situation, and it can get frustrating for both people involved. Sometimes, guys who are fit and in good shape can be more sensitive to the pressure to perform and ‘last longer,’ and it just drags the whole experience. If there’s a disconnect between the partners, then it can affect everything, including the climax. That sounds like what’s happening here.

I’ve noticed that foreplay really sets the tone for the whole session. If she isn’t getting involved, it’s hard for him to feel like he’s really connecting with her. Plus, a lot of women need mental stimulation just as much as physical. If she’s only getting aroused by him going down on her and isn’t putting in the effort herself, then it might feel like she’s just ‘waiting’ for him to finish.

Maybe what they need is a serious talk about expectations. If she’s not feeling engaged or interested, then it might be time to discuss what’s not working and how to fix it. Sometimes, switching things up can help reignite that spark—whether it’s a new position, a different pace, or just more focus on building the mood.

At the end of the day, both partners need to feel comfortable and connected. If either person feels like the sex is becoming a chore, then it’s time to step back and evaluate what needs to change.

[deigo123]

I’ve had my fair share of experiences where the whole thing took way longer than expected. I think the issue here is twofold: the mental and physical aspects. Some guys just take longer, and it can sometimes be a sign of a strong sense of control or mental focus. But if the woman isn’t into it, then it’s going to be a struggle.

Your friend’s situation sounds like a classic example of losing that initial connection. If she’s not really getting involved in the foreplay and she’s ‘done’ mentally before the guy finishes, that could be a big part of the issue. It’s not just about physical arousal—it’s also about feeling emotionally connected, which makes everything flow better.

Maybe they need to experiment with different types of foreplay, other than just oral. If she’s just lying there, it’s probably not going to work for either of them. At the same time, the guy needs to realize that focusing on the journey and not just the end goal could make things much more enjoyable for both.

Lastly, I’d recommend talking things out honestly. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both people involved, and if they’re both frustrated, it might just take some trial and error to find what works best for them. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but if they both focus on mutual enjoyment, it can definitely improve.