Navigating Thai Culture: Adjusting Game Tactics for Authentic Connections

[aiden15632]

Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out for advice on adjusting my approach with Thai women, based on my recent experiences and upcoming move to Bangkok.
To give some background: I’m in my mid-thirties and relocating to Bangkok in August. I’ve been successful with my ‘Game’ techniques in the UK, which typically involves playfully saying no to requests while keeping things cheeky and fun. My approach has usually been effective, and I’ve seen good results.
Before my move, I started connecting with Thai women through chat sites. Most of them speak good English, which is fortunate since I don’t speak Thai. I've been in regular contact with several women, and one in particular stands out. We’ve developed a great rapport, and our conversations have included a mix of playful teasing and genuine connection. She seems to be genuinely interested, and we’ve had a lot of fun banter.
However, recently she expressed some frustration over my approach, specifically when I resisted a playful request for something “innocent.” She felt that I was always expecting something in return, which upset her.
Given this, I’m wondering if my typical ‘Game’ approach needs to be adjusted for Thai women. From my experience, Thai women might respond differently compared to Western women, who often expect a certain level of dominance or assertiveness. Thai culture might be more sensitive to consistent resistance, and I’m concerned that my approach might be coming off as too demanding or insincere.
Here are my questions:

1. Cultural Sensitivity: How should I adjust my approach to be more culturally sensitive and build a genuine connection with Thai women? Is there a need to soften my ‘Game’ tactics to avoid misunderstandings?
   
2. Balancing Playfulness and Respect: What’s the best way to maintain playful interactions while ensuring that the other person feels valued and respected?
   
3. Building Authentic Relationships: For those who have had long-term relationships with Thai women, how did you navigate the cultural differences and build trust?
   

I’m still interested in meeting this girl and understanding how to navigate the situation better. Any advice or insights based on your experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your help!

[daniel74]

I used to teach pickup techniques to guys in America, and I have never heard of the "say no to everything" technique. Haha... I can tell you that it will not work on Thai girls though. "Game" however can be translated over to Thailand, but it needs to be tweaked. If you try to use game on Thai girls like you would a Western girl you will just come across as an arrogant asshole.



Western women have went through femistic movements and hold control over men, and it's your job to take control back. Thai girls on the other hand want a guy to take care of them, whether it be physically, emotionally, or financially... There are very few Thai women who do not want to be loved and comforted by a nice guy. You're already in control. Thai girls are generally very gentle, shy, and good hearted and if you find a girl who really loves you she will treat you like a prince fairly early on in the relationship.

[hilululu]

When I first wanted to come to Thailand I started like you and began talking to girls on dating sites, and just like you it was very easy to talk to the girls and find beauties that I couldn't wait to meet. Of course, when I came to Thailand I was surrounded by so many beautiful women that all of the girls I talked to previously became an afterthough as I had my sights set on bigger fish.



In addition I attempted "Game" on Thai girls and failed miserably. Girls in Thailand do not respond well to "cocky-funny" like girls in the west do. They also do not like when men act like dominant, loud "alpha males" like Western girls. And while a girl may read/write English 80% of the ones who read/write cannot speak English well enough to understand 80% of the things you say. You will be spending more time trying to communicate in basic language rather than trying to exert game.

[johnson13]

My best advice would be to not take the girls you're talking to serious. It's not clear why you are coming to Thailand. Are you coming to move here or just for holiday? If you're coming for holiday why are you talking to the Thai girls online? You're setting yourself and her up for disappointment. Imagine if the Thai girl was coming to your country for holiday after talking for a long time. You would probably want to spend the whole time with her, and if that doesn't happen you'd be bummed. Also, if you do spend your whole time with one of those girls you will be wasting your holiday.



In any event if you want to get game under your belt, stop babbling with chicks on dating sites, and start studying Thai language and learning about Thai culture. That trick alone will put you leaps and bounds above most foriegners. I have often approached stunning chicks who looked scared for their lives that a foreigner is talking to them, but after they realize I can communicate to them in Thai, and do not treat them like a western women their interest meter shoots through the roof.

[shant234]

Unless you are talking to working girls, never discuss money with the girls, never discuss sex with the girls (unless they initiate it first), and don't start touching them or try to hold their hands early on. Wait until you are in the privacy of your room to go for a first kiss, and wait for the girl to give you lots of indicators of interest before you try to have sex.



Never get angry. Learn "mai pen rai" ... Thai girls hate confrontation. Learn to be gentle and kind.



Don't throw "negs" at the girls like you would Western girls. If you do the girls will just feel insecure and move on. You can still neg them with soft negs that have a positive undertone. For example you might point out an old picture of them and tell them that their hair looked so cute "like this" or you could tell about having them other men.







That's just a few things to get your started. You'll learn for yourself over time. I can tell you that I went from coming here and having trouble getting even the p4p girls to like me to having 3 girls sending me I love you texts on my phone every day, a couple girlfriends, girls plastering pics of us on FB, and my phone blowing up constantly by ridiculously hot women. In fact, I have a date with a 19 year old stunner tonight. Atleast she seems like a stunner from her pics.... We'll see. She speaketh no English so she says, but she sure as hell types it well! :lol: