Uncut: Needing Some Advice/help

[daniel74]

I'm uncut and in my mid-20s. I used to have sex regularly, and once I got into Med School, I stopped to focus on schooling. I'm past the point where my foreskin is super tight and hurts to be pulled back. It doesn’t bother me one way or the other. Although I try to make it a point to have the skin always pulled back. In the past, when I started doing this to how my penis is now, I can definitely tell a difference. I masturbate in hot showers when I have the time, in the mood, and thinking about it. It has helped too. I feel like it’s all in my head (the one on my shoulders). I'm a booty man. I LOVE a nice juicy ass. So when I have a chick bent over and I see my penis going in and it’s like TOO much for me to handle, and it like overwhelms me. It’s pretty frustrating not to be able to pound a chick doggystyle, let alone when booty is your favorite part on a woman. I'm not an everyday drug user, but I have taken Adderall in school like a lot of kids have, and the times I did have sex, I could go a LONG time. It’s like I was so intensely focused that nothing phased me. Obviously, I’m not gonna take that stuff every time I have sex, so I need other options.

I was thinking about getting some desensitizing cream. Suggestions? Brand/style condoms? Suggestions?
It sounds like you're dealing with a combination of physical and mental factors that are impacting your ability to fully enjoy sex, especially when it comes to certain positions and sensations. It's good that you're becoming more aware of what works and doesn't work for you, and exploring options to enhance your sexual experiences is a positive step. The fact that you’ve identified that it’s sometimes about mental focus, as in the case with Adderall, shows that you might benefit from techniques that improve focus and prolong arousal without the need for medication.
For desensitizing creams, many men have found that they help with delaying ejaculation. Products like Lidocaine-based creams are commonly available. These creams numb the penis slightly, making it less sensitive to touch and potentially extending your ability to perform longer. However, it's important to use these sparingly, as overuse can lead to a lack of sensation, which might take away from the pleasure you get out of the experience. Be sure to test the cream beforehand to avoid irritation or an allergic reaction.

When it comes to condoms, choosing the right type is key. There are various brands that offer condoms specifically designed for enhanced stamina. For example, brands like Durex and Trojan offer condoms with a desensitizing lubricant inside, such as the Durex Performax or Trojan Extended Pleasure. These condoms can help reduce sensitivity, making it easier for you to last longer during sex. However, it’s important to note that every person’s experience with condoms can vary, so you might need to experiment with different brands and styles to see what works best for you.

In addition to these physical aids, it might be worth exploring mental strategies for maintaining focus and calm during sex. You mentioned that in the past, your experience with Adderall helped you stay focused, which suggests that managing your mental state might be key. You could try mindfulness techniques or breathing exercises to help you stay in the moment and prevent your mind from becoming overwhelmed by sensations. These techniques can help you control the buildup of arousal and prolong your pleasure.

Also, try to communicate openly with your partner about your frustrations. The more relaxed and connected you are, the easier it may be to focus on the pleasurable aspects of sex rather than feeling pressured. Working together to find positions and experiences that maximize comfort and pleasure for both of you will help to ease any anxiety and make the experience more enjoyable.

Lastly, remember that experimenting with your sexual health is natural, but it’s also important to consider consulting a healthcare provider if you continue to experience frustration or difficulty in your sex life. They can offer personalized advice or recommend treatments that are safe and effective for your unique situation.

[piciossa]

I totally get where you’re coming from, man. It’s frustrating when something you enjoy—like sex—starts feeling more complicated than it should. First off, kudos to you for being open about your experience and looking for solutions. A lot of guys hesitate to talk about these things, but it’s the only way to find what works.

Desensitizing creams could be a good option, but you’ve got to use them carefully. Lidocaine-based creams like Promescent are popular, but make sure you apply a thin layer and let it absorb before getting started. If you don’t, there’s a chance the cream could transfer to your partner, which might make things less enjoyable for her. It’s all about finding the right balance—too much cream and you won’t feel anything, but the right amount could help you last longer without losing sensation entirely.

Condoms designed for endurance are another route. I’ve had good luck with Trojan Extended Pleasure—they’ve got a bit of numbing lubricant on the inside. It’s subtle, but it does the trick. Durex Performax is also worth a try. The best part is, you can experiment with these without making permanent changes to your routine. Sometimes even the act of trying something new boosts your confidence, which can make a big difference.

Lastly, think about your mindset. If you’re too focused on "lasting longer," it might make you more anxious. Try to shift your focus to enjoying the moment rather than worrying about how long you’re going. A combination of physical aids and mental techniques could be your best bet for finding that sweet spot where everything clicks.

[antonio123]

Your situation sounds super relatable, especially the part about being overwhelmed during your favorite position. It’s great that you’re exploring solutions like desensitizing products, but I think a lot of your challenge is tied to mental focus, as you mentioned. The way you described using Adderall in the past really caught my attention—it shows that a sharper mental state can help you gain better control.

Have you tried specific breathing techniques during sex? A lot of guys underestimate how much controlled breathing can help delay arousal. When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed, slow your breathing and focus on steady, deep breaths. This helps lower your heart rate and keeps you in control of the sensations. It might sound simple, but with practice, it can make a noticeable difference.

In terms of desensitizing products, I’d recommend starting with condoms that have a mild numbing agent. They’re less messy than creams and easier to incorporate. I’ve used Durex Performax Intense, and it worked pretty well for me. If condoms don’t give you the results you’re looking for, then move on to creams as a next step. Just remember, not every product works the same for everyone, so don’t be discouraged if it takes a little trial and error.

Also, don’t forget about the power of foreplay. The more you engage with your partner before penetration, the less pressure there is to "perform" perfectly once you get to the main act. It gives you both more time to enjoy each other and can help take some of the edge off.

[hanar123]

It sounds like you’ve already put a lot of thought into this, and that’s awesome because self-awareness is half the battle. The good news is, there are plenty of options out there to help with exactly what you’re dealing with. The trick is figuring out what works best for you through a bit of trial and error.

Desensitizing creams are definitely worth a shot. A buddy of mine swears by a product called Promescent—it’s a spray, so it’s easier to apply than a cream, and it absorbs quickly. Just make sure you follow the instructions to avoid numbing yourself too much or affecting your partner. If you’re worried about that, start with a small amount and adjust as needed.

As for condoms, I’ve had good luck with Trojan Extended Pleasure. They’re designed to dull sensitivity just enough to make a difference without killing the experience entirely. Another option is trying thicker condoms—they naturally reduce sensitivity and might help you last longer without any added chemicals.

Beyond that, think about experimenting with your positions and pacing. Doggy style is your favorite, but maybe try starting in a different position that doesn’t overstimulate you right away. Build up slowly and then switch to your preferred position once you’ve gotten into a rhythm. It’s all about pacing yourself and finding ways to manage your arousal levels.

[amravat123]

First off, let me say you’re not alone in this. A lot of guys deal with similar struggles, and the fact that you’re actively looking for solutions puts you ahead of the game. Sometimes, it’s just about shifting your perspective a bit.

When it comes to desensitizing products, I’d recommend starting small and seeing how your body reacts. I’ve heard good things about Stud 100 spray—it’s easy to use and doesn’t leave a residue. For condoms, thicker ones like Durex Extra Safe might help, or you can try ones specifically designed for extended pleasure, like the Trojan or Durex lines you mentioned.

But here’s something to think about: instead of focusing solely on lasting longer, what if you focused on enjoying the build-up? It sounds like you get overwhelmed by the visual stimulation during doggy style, which is understandable if that’s your favorite. Maybe start with positions that let you control the pace and build up to your favorite once you’re more in control.

Finally, don’t underestimate the importance of relaxation. The more pressure you put on yourself to "perform," the harder it can be to stay focused. Mindfulness exercises, like focusing on your breathing or even practicing during solo sessions, can help you train your mind to stay calm and present. Over time, this can make a huge difference.

[deigo123]

It’s clear you’re putting in the effort to improve your sexual experiences, which is something a lot of people overlook. The first thing I’d say is don’t forget to loop your partner into this process. Open communication can make all the difference.

When it comes to products, I’ve personally found that Trojan Extended Pleasure condoms work really well. They have a numbing lubricant that doesn’t completely kill the sensation but does take the edge off. If you’re considering creams, Promescent is one of the more reputable brands, but as others have said, test it out first to make sure you’re comfortable with how it feels.

I also think it might help to focus on exploring new ways to connect with your partner. If doggy style is overwhelming, maybe experiment with positions that give you more control or allow for a slower pace. And if you’re open to it, trying things like edging during solo sessions can help you build stamina and learn to manage those overwhelming sensations.

Lastly, remember that this is a process. It might take a few tries to find the right combination of products and techniques, but that’s totally normal. The fact that you’re willing to experiment and improve shows that you’re on the right track. Just keep at it, and don’t be afraid to seek professional advice if needed—sometimes a quick chat with a urologist or sex therapist can provide insights you wouldn’t think of on your own.