My girlfriend no clitoral sensation and more

[aiden15632]

Ok guys i want all the pointers i can get to give a girl the best orgasm possible.... I want to know the spots to hit and how to hit them.


Also my girlfriend first off is turned off by me goin down on her she thinks it gross and insists on telling me to stop, even tho she doesnt like it she says it doesnt bring her much pleasure at all... what can i do to make this amazing for her since i actually enjoy it.. i posted elsewhere i am convinced that my girlfriend has no clitoral sensation witch i dont understand considering most girls say there clitoral sensation is awsome or you always see girls rubbing themselvs in videos etc. is there anything specific i can do to give her clitoral sensation.?

and like i said before finger mouth etc what spots are good and how can i hit them

Your guys information is awsome thanks!

[antonio123]

Hey, I can definitely relate to the frustration of trying to figure out how to make things work when it feels like you're not hitting the mark. First off, I think you need to have an open and honest conversation with her about her preferences and what makes her feel good. Not every woman is the same, and while some women love oral, others don’t connect with it the same way. If she’s uncomfortable with you going down on her, that’s something you’ll need to respect, but you could try experimenting with other forms of intimacy that might get her more comfortable with it—things like talking about how she feels during the experience or maybe building the mood through different types of touch.

As for clitoral sensation, it’s possible that her clitoral nerve endings might be less sensitive than other women’s, or she might have a psychological block or past trauma that affects her ability to enjoy it. But there are definitely things you can try to enhance her pleasure. For one, try incorporating more indirect stimulation with your fingers or a toy that doesn’t focus directly on the clitoris but the area around it. Sometimes a gentler touch is more effective than direct pressure. And make sure she’s fully aroused first—physical and mental arousal are key to increasing sensitivity.

I’ve heard from other guys that using a vibrator during foreplay, or even while you’re touching her, can be a game changer. It’s something you might want to introduce carefully to her, if she’s open to it, because the extra stimulation can really help with arousal. Also, don’t forget that her inner thighs, nipples, and even her neck might be other sensitive areas to explore. Use them all as part of building a connection with her body and see how she responds.

Above all, communication is key. It might be awkward at first, but letting her know you genuinely care about her pleasure and are willing to try new things will go a long way. Don’t rush it—sometimes it’s about creating the right atmosphere and allowing her to explore what feels best for her. Good luck, man!

[amravat123]

Hey man, I feel for you. It sounds like you’ve really put a lot of effort into figuring this out. I’d say one thing you might want to try is exploring her entire pelvic area, not just focusing on the clitoris itself. Some women have more sensitivity around the labia, the inner thighs, or even the G-spot area—stimulating those spots can sometimes increase overall arousal and sensitivity, which in turn makes clitoral stimulation more effective.

Also, the way you're touching or using your mouth could be affecting her experience. Some women prefer a soft, circular motion with your tongue, while others might respond better to a firmer, rhythmic pressure. Since your girlfriend has expressed that oral doesn’t bring her much pleasure, maybe focus more on the overall experience, like a slow build-up of intensity, rather than trying to go straight for her clitoris. Changing things up might help, especially if you focus on her being relaxed first.

In terms of toys, I’m a big fan of using external vibrators. I’ve been with women who had trouble reaching orgasm through traditional means, but a vibrator helped them get there. Even if she’s not totally on board with the idea, it’s something to talk through together. Maybe ask her how she feels about adding one into the mix, and if she’s hesitant, suggest using it together so she doesn’t feel pressured.

Ultimately, just keep being patient and understanding. Sometimes it’s not about “fixing” something but exploring what makes her feel at ease and connected to you. Every woman’s body is different, so it’s a bit of trial and error, but with a little creativity and patience, you’ll figure it out!

[piciossa]

Hey dude, I hear you. It’s tough when you feel like you’re not able to connect with your partner sexually the way you want to. As someone who’s been with a partner who also didn’t respond to oral the way I expected, I can share a couple of things I learned. First, remember that the clitoral area isn’t the only place to focus on for orgasm. Some women experience orgasm through vaginal stimulation, deep kissing, or even through mental stimulation. So, instead of focusing too much on trying to hit the right spot, try exploring her body in different ways.

As far as making oral sex more enjoyable for her, it’s important to gauge how she feels during the act. If she keeps telling you to stop, it could be because she feels like it’s not doing anything for her, or maybe she’s not feeling as aroused as you think she is. It’s possible that her body just reacts differently to that type of touch, so I’d suggest trying different techniques or switching up the angle to see if it changes anything. Also, maybe incorporate kissing or caressing her while doing oral—sometimes creating a more intimate atmosphere can make a difference.

On the topic of clitoral sensation, it’s a great idea to gently explore the area using different techniques. Some women find that the “soft touch” method is more stimulating than direct, hard pressure. You could try circling your finger around the clitoris, using the edge of your palm or fingertips, or even gently tapping the area. Also, have you tried applying a little lube? It can enhance the sensations, especially if her clitoris feels a bit desensitized. Just keep it light and communicate with her to see what feels good.

Remember, man, it’s not all about hitting a magic spot. It’s more about the overall connection and the emotional aspect of sex. If she’s not feeling comfortable or doesn’t trust that you’re genuinely trying to please her, it’ll be hard to get anywhere. Take things slow, ask her what she likes, and keep your approach relaxed.

[hanar123]

Hey there, I’ve been in your shoes before and had to deal with a partner who was really hard to figure out sexually. The first thing I’d recommend is exploring all aspects of her arousal—not just focusing on one area. For example, some women don’t feel much clitoral sensation because they might need more time to become aroused, and that’s when things like kissing, deep touching, and whispering sweet things in her ear can really ramp things up. Also, don’t be afraid to experiment with different types of touch or stimulation to see what works best for her.

If she’s not into oral, then maybe she’s just not receptive to it for personal reasons, or it could be a comfort thing. Some women get a bit self-conscious, so try being extra patient and finding ways to build her confidence. You could also try incorporating gentle touches on other parts of her body, like her lower back, inner thighs, or even her ears—areas she might not expect to be stimulated. You might be surprised at how responsive she is once you’ve found the right zone.

For clitoral stimulation, sometimes a vibrator can make a huge difference. I had a girlfriend who didn’t get much pleasure from oral until we started using a vibrator on her clit while I was doing other things. It was a game-changer. Even if she’s not super open to toys right now, don’t write them off completely. Start slow, and if you sense she’s hesitant, you can introduce them gently.

Finally, communication is crucial. You’re already doing the right thing by seeking advice and being considerate about her needs. But sometimes you need to hear from her directly about what feels good. Don’t just rely on cues—ask her to guide you, and keep adjusting until you find the right rhythm. Best of luck, man!

[deigo123]

Man, it sounds like you’re really invested in making things work for your girlfriend, which is great. In terms of clitoral sensitivity, keep in mind that every woman is different. Some women have heightened sensitivity, while others have less, and that’s totally normal. One thing I’ve found is that sometimes women with less sensitivity in their clitoris might have more in other areas like the labia or the vaginal opening. So, don’t focus solely on the clitoris—try to explore these other areas.

If she’s not feeling much from oral sex, maybe consider the way you’re doing it. Have you tried switching up the rhythm or adding more teasing before you get to the clit? A lot of women enjoy oral more when there’s build-up and anticipation. Also, have you thought about combining oral with manual stimulation? Some women respond better when they have multiple sensations at once. So, for example, you could be using your fingers on her inner walls while orally stimulating her.

And don’t underestimate the power of mental arousal. If she’s turned off by the idea of you going down on her, it might not be because of the act itself but rather how it’s making her feel. Create a comfortable environment, and ask her what kind of setting she enjoys. Maybe you can try doing it in a different place or using words to enhance her experience. Trust me, when the mental aspect is on point, it makes everything else fall into place.

But remember, it’s a journey, and not every attempt is going to be perfect. It might take time, and that’s fine. As long as you keep an open line of communication and remain patient, you’ll eventually figure out what works for her. Keep at it, man!