Hair grooming consideration

[ban908463]

55 yr old in shape white married man. Personal preference I understand. Writing post to hear from others, men/women, single n married.
I am not as hairy as I once was, leg hair has rubbed off with rubbing on clothes. Wife doesn’t like back hair, already trim pubic region. Considering the task of going smooth.
Any comments or feelings on the matter?


At 55, maintaining one’s appearance and hygiene often becomes more about comfort and personal preference than societal expectations. For me, it’s a journey of adapting to changes in my body and finding a balance that suits both myself and my wife’s preferences. Over time, I’ve noticed that my body hair has naturally thinned out in some areas, like my legs, while other areas, such as my back, remain a topic of discussion between my wife and me. This has led me to consider whether going completely smooth might be the next step in grooming.


Body grooming is a deeply personal decision, influenced by comfort, aesthetics, and sometimes, the opinions of loved ones. In my case, my wife has expressed a dislike for back hair, and I already take steps to keep my pubic area trimmed. The thought of removing all my body hair seems daunting, but I wonder if it might be worth the effort. Would it make me feel cleaner or enhance my appearance? Or would it simply feel like an unnecessary hassle? These are the questions swirling in my mind as I weigh the pros and cons.


Hearing from others who have gone through similar experiences or who have strong feelings on the topic would be invaluable. Whether you’re a man or woman, single or married, everyone seems to have an opinion about body grooming. Some may see it as an act of self-care and modernization, while others may feel it’s unnecessary or even unnatural. In relationships, it often becomes a collaborative decision, where both partners’ preferences come into play. This dynamic is especially true for married couples like us, where compromise and communication are key.
So, what do you think? Does going smooth make you feel more confident, or is it an effort that doesn't pay off? I’d love to hear your thoughts, experiences, or even suggestions on methods and maintenance. Whether it’s waxing, shaving, or using modern hair removal techniques, the process and its results seem worth exploring—if only to know whether it’s the right choice for me at this stage of life.

[hanar123]

I totally get where you're coming from—body grooming can be a bit of a balancing act, especially as we get older. I'm in my 40s now, and I’ve been experimenting with different grooming techniques for a while. I used to have a pretty hairy chest and legs, but over the years, the hair on my legs has thinned out naturally, much like yours. As for my back, I’ve always had some back hair, and my wife wasn’t really a fan either. It wasn’t a huge issue at first, but after some conversations, I started trimming it more regularly, and I have to admit, I feel a lot cleaner and more confident.

Regarding the idea of going completely smooth, I think it really depends on how much time and effort you’re willing to invest. I’ve tried waxing in the past, and while the results were great at first, it was a bit too much maintenance for me. Shaving was much simpler, but you have to be cautious about irritation, especially in more sensitive areas. The idea of going smooth was appealing at first because I thought it would feel more hygienic and fresh, but after trying it for a while, I realized it didn’t necessarily make me feel any different—just a bit more maintenance.

For me, it comes down to what feels right for you and your partner. If your wife prefers less back hair and you're comfortable with the idea of going smooth, it could be worth the effort. But, if it feels like more work than it’s worth, there’s no shame in just trimming and maintaining what you’re comfortable with. Body grooming should make you feel good, not like a chore. Ultimately, it’s about what works best for you.

As for maintenance, I’ve found that using a good body groomer or trimmer makes life a lot easier. A good one can handle sensitive areas without irritation, and I find I don’t need to do it as often as I thought I would. If you're interested in trying waxing or something more permanent, just make sure you’re prepared for the upkeep. The key is to keep it simple and listen to your body and your partner’s needs.

[piciossa]

I’m 57 and have been through a similar journey when it comes to body hair. When I hit my 40s, I started noticing changes in how my body hair was growing. My legs became smoother over time, and my back hair became a little more unruly, like yours. My wife has never really liked the back hair either, so I started trimming it, and it made a noticeable difference in how I felt about my appearance. I’ll be honest, though—going completely smooth is something I’ve never fully embraced.

I’ve done the whole shaving routine for my chest and legs, and while it’s nice for a while, I’ve always found that it comes with some annoying upkeep. The stubble that grows back can feel uncomfortable, and I’ve had to deal with ingrown hairs a few times. I’ve also tried waxing, but it’s not something I’m particularly fond of—way too painful, and the results never seemed to last long enough for me to justify the time and cost.

That being said, I do think grooming can be a great way to feel more confident, especially in intimate moments. If your wife prefers a smoother look and you’re comfortable with it, I say go for it. But make sure it’s not just about meeting someone else’s expectations—your own comfort should come first. If the idea of going smooth sounds like more trouble than it’s worth, you could always stick with trimming and see if that satisfies both of your needs.

Ultimately, the most important thing is communication with your partner. If you’re uncertain about how far to take your grooming routine, talk about it openly. The way you feel about your body can affect your confidence, and it’s worth discussing what works for both of you. Whether you decide to go all the way smooth or just clean things up a bit, I think the key is finding a balance that makes both you and your partner feel good.

Reply 3:

I’ve had a similar experience with body grooming over the years. I’m in my mid-50s and have always been pretty hairy, but I’ve noticed a change in how my body hair grows as I get older. My legs aren’t as thick with hair anymore, but my back hair remains stubborn. Like you, my partner doesn’t really like the back hair, so I’ve been using a trimmer to manage it. Honestly, it’s something that became more important to me as I got older—I want to feel good about myself and look presentable, especially when I’m with my wife.

The idea of going completely smooth is one I’ve considered too. I’ve done it a few times—mostly in the pubic area—but I’ve never been able to fully commit to going smooth all over. The maintenance seems like a lot, and I personally don’t enjoy the feeling of being totally hairless. But I do see the appeal, especially if it makes your partner feel more comfortable or if it gives you that fresh, clean feeling. It’s just about deciding whether it’s something you’re willing to do long-term.

For me, trimming and maintaining what I’ve got has worked better. I still feel like I’m taking care of myself, and it’s not as much of a hassle as shaving or waxing. I’ve tried a few different products—razors, trimmers, and even creams—but I’ve found that a good electric trimmer is the best option for me. It’s quick, easy, and doesn’t irritate the skin. If you’re looking for something low-maintenance, I’d recommend sticking with trimming and seeing how that feels.

If you’re going to go smooth, just be prepared for the upkeep. The first few times, it might feel liberating, but as the hair grows back, you might find yourself needing to do it more often. Also, some people find that it can cause irritation or ingrown hairs, especially in areas where the skin is sensitive. If you decide to go for it, just take your time, and don’t be afraid to experiment with different methods until you find what works best for you.

Reply 4:

At 53, I’ve been through all kinds of hair grooming phases. When I was younger, I didn’t think much about body hair—just a quick shave here and there, and that was it. But as I’ve gotten older, the body hair thing has changed for me. Like you, my legs have gotten a lot smoother over time, but my back hair has stayed the same, and it can be a bit much. My wife’s not a fan of it, so I’ve been trimming it regularly, and it’s made a difference in how I feel. I’ve even thought about going smooth, but I’m not sure it’s worth the effort yet.

What I’ve realized is that the grooming thing is less about fitting some ideal and more about making sure I’m comfortable and that my wife’s happy with how I look. I think going smooth could feel really freeing, but there’s a certain amount of maintenance that comes with it. I’ve tried waxing in the past, and while it gives great results, the pain and the upkeep aren’t something I want to deal with all the time. Plus, I’ve had some irritation issues afterward, which just wasn’t worth it for me.

I’ve settled into a routine of trimming and keeping my chest and back hair in check. I do it every couple of weeks, and it’s a good balance between looking presentable and not putting in too much work. I think the key is to find what feels good for you. If the idea of being smooth all over excites you, then go for it! But if it feels like too much of a hassle, there’s no harm in keeping things manageable with a trimmer.

Ultimately, it’s about how you feel about yourself and what makes you comfortable. You can talk to your partner about it, but it’s also something that requires you to feel confident in your own skin. If you’re unsure, maybe start with smaller changes—like just trimming your back more regularly—and see how it goes from there. It’s all about finding the right level of grooming that works for you both.

Reply 5:

I’m in my late 40s and have gone through my own grooming journey as well. Like you, my body hair has changed over time. I’ve always had a fair amount of chest and back hair, but as I’ve gotten older, I noticed less hair on my legs and arms, which is interesting. My wife has never liked the back hair, so I’ve kept it trimmed for a while now. I’ve even thought about going smooth, especially after reading more about how it could make me feel cleaner. But, I’ve always hesitated because of the upkeep involved.

Honestly, I think it depends on how much time and effort you’re willing to invest. I’ve done the whole shaving thing, and it’s a lot of maintenance. Waxing works, but it’s painful, and I’ve never been a fan of the aftercare. So, I’ve stuck to trimming for the most part. It’s a low-maintenance option that still keeps things neat and presentable. Plus, I’ve found that a good trimmer can do a great job without causing irritation, especially when I use a bit of lotion after.

That being said, I do understand the appeal of going completely smooth. It can feel fresh and clean, and if that’s something your partner enjoys, then it could be worth the effort. But don’t feel pressured to do it if it’s not something that genuinely excites you. Grooming should be a personal

[antonio123]

I’ve had a similar experience with body grooming over the years. I’m in my mid-50s and have always been pretty hairy, but I’ve noticed a change in how my body hair grows as I get older. My legs aren’t as thick with hair anymore, but my back hair remains stubborn. Like you, my partner doesn’t really like the back hair, so I’ve been using a trimmer to manage it. Honestly, it’s something that became more important to me as I got older—I want to feel good about myself and look presentable, especially when I’m with my wife.

The idea of going completely smooth is one I’ve considered too. I’ve done it a few times—mostly in the pubic area—but I’ve never been able to fully commit to going smooth all over. The maintenance seems like a lot, and I personally don’t enjoy the feeling of being totally hairless. But I do see the appeal, especially if it makes your partner feel more comfortable or if it gives you that fresh, clean feeling. It’s just about deciding whether it’s something you’re willing to do long-term.

For me, trimming and maintaining what I’ve got has worked better. I still feel like I’m taking care of myself, and it’s not as much of a hassle as shaving or waxing. I’ve tried a few different products—razors, trimmers, and even creams—but I’ve found that a good electric trimmer is the best option for me. It’s quick, easy, and doesn’t irritate the skin. If you’re looking for something low-maintenance, I’d recommend sticking with trimming and seeing how that feels.

If you’re going to go smooth, just be prepared for the upkeep. The first few times, it might feel liberating, but as the hair grows back, you might find yourself needing to do it more often. Also, some people find that it can cause irritation or ingrown hairs, especially in areas where the skin is sensitive. If you decide to go for it, just take your time, and don’t be afraid to experiment with different methods until you find what works best for you.

[amravat123]

At 53, I’ve been through all kinds of hair grooming phases. When I was younger, I didn’t think much about body hair—just a quick shave here and there, and that was it. But as I’ve gotten older, the body hair thing has changed for me. Like you, my legs have gotten a lot smoother over time, but my back hair has stayed the same, and it can be a bit much. My wife’s not a fan of it, so I’ve been trimming it regularly, and it’s made a difference in how I feel. I’ve even thought about going smooth, but I’m not sure it’s worth the effort yet.

What I’ve realized is that the grooming thing is less about fitting some ideal and more about making sure I’m comfortable and that my wife’s happy with how I look. I think going smooth could feel really freeing, but there’s a certain amount of maintenance that comes with it. I’ve tried waxing in the past, and while it gives great results, the pain and the upkeep aren’t something I want to deal with all the time. Plus, I’ve had some irritation issues afterward, which just wasn’t worth it for me.

I’ve settled into a routine of trimming and keeping my chest and back hair in check. I do it every couple of weeks, and it’s a good balance between looking presentable and not putting in too much work. I think the key is to find what feels good for you. If the idea of being smooth all over excites you, then go for it! But if it feels like too much of a hassle, there’s no harm in keeping things manageable with a trimmer.

Ultimately, it’s about how you feel about yourself and what makes you comfortable. You can talk to your partner about it, but it’s also something that requires you to feel confident in your own skin. If you’re unsure, maybe start with smaller changes—like just trimming your back more regularly—and see how it goes from there. It’s all about finding the right level of grooming that works for you both.

[deigo123]

I’m in my late 40s and have gone through my own grooming journey as well. Like you, my body hair has changed over time. I’ve always had a fair amount of chest and back hair, but as I’ve gotten older, I noticed less hair on my legs and arms, which is interesting. My wife has never liked the back hair, so I’ve kept it trimmed for a while now. I’ve even thought about going smooth, especially after reading more about how it could make me feel cleaner. But, I’ve always hesitated because of the upkeep involved.

Honestly, I think it depends on how much time and effort you’re willing to invest. I’ve done the whole shaving thing, and it’s a lot of maintenance. Waxing works, but it’s painful, and I’ve never been a fan of the aftercare. So, I’ve stuck to trimming for the most part. It’s a low-maintenance option that still keeps things neat and presentable. Plus, I’ve found that a good trimmer can do a great job without causing irritation, especially when I use a bit of lotion after.

That being said, I do understand the appeal of going completely smooth. It can feel fresh and clean, and if that’s something your partner enjoys, then it could be worth the effort. But don’t feel pressured to do it if it’s not something that genuinely excites you. Grooming should be a personal choice—something that makes you feel confident. If you’re unsure, maybe try smoothing out smaller areas like your chest or legs first, and then decide if