Exploring a threesome

[hilululu]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and our sex life is amazing. Recently I've been intrigued by the idea of a MFM threesome and before bringing it up to my girlfriend I sat on it for few weeks to really see if I'm okay with it. I brought it up to my girlfriend y'day and she found the idea intriguing but she is still hesitant.

I told her we need to lay out rules that we agree on before finding our 3rd and she agreed that if we ever do this in the future, rules are important.

Has anyone had a MFM threesome in their relationship? Any advice and how was the experience?


I will say that rules are just a guide and you have remain fluid. But the single most important thing is the third has to be extremely respectful to both of you.
There is no dominate Alphi male or you could find yourself being pushed side. Threesomes can intoxicating.
Lastly, “You” better be darn sure you are ready. When it happens the fantasy becomes reality.
Check your emotions. You better dig deep and find out why she wants to do it. If she is doing it for you and not her. You could jeopardize your relationship.

[deigo123]

I’ve been in a similar situation where my girlfriend and I discussed the possibility of a threesome, and I can totally relate to the hesitation you’re feeling. It’s a big step, especially in a relationship where things are going well. Communication is key, and it’s great that you took the time to think about it before bringing it up to her. I think the most important thing is to be honest with each other about your motivations. If it’s something you both want to explore, then it can definitely be exciting, but it also requires trust.

For us, we laid out some rules, too, but I agree with you that they are just a guide. Things can get a little messy when emotions are involved, especially with the addition of a third person. One thing I would say is that it’s essential to make sure the third person understands the boundaries and is respectful of your relationship. A respectful and non-pushy third party can make a huge difference in the experience, and it ensures everyone feels comfortable.

One of the things we didn’t anticipate was the emotional impact. Even though we were both excited about the idea beforehand, when it actually happened, there were moments where things got a little uncomfortable. It wasn’t necessarily bad, but we had to keep checking in with each other to make sure everyone was feeling okay. That’s why it’s so important to have a strong foundation of communication.

Lastly, like you mentioned, the fantasy can become a reality, and sometimes, it doesn’t match up to what you imagined. It can be amazing, but it can also bring up some unexpected emotions. If you’re both on the same page and know why you’re doing it, it can be a rewarding experience. Just make sure you're both prepared for the possible emotional complexities that come with it.

[amravat123]

I’ve had a few experiences with threesomes in my relationships, and I’ll tell you one thing—communication is everything. The first time I tried it, I didn’t do enough talking beforehand, and it created a lot of tension. The most important thing is making sure that both of you are equally comfortable and interested in it, not just one person pushing it onto the other. I like how you emphasized making sure your girlfriend is on board and that it’s something you both want.

When we had ours, we set very clear boundaries and expectations, but I agree with you that things need to stay fluid. The dynamics change once you're actually in the situation, so it's important to be flexible. However, the third person needs to be fully respectful and not overstep any boundaries. That was something that was really important for us, and we had a lot of open conversations about the third person’s role before anything happened.

One of the things I didn’t expect was how much I’d have to check my own emotions. There’s definitely an element of jealousy that can come up, even if you’re open to the idea. It’s easy to think that you’ll be fine, but once the situation becomes real, it can be harder to handle. That’s why it’s important to really know why you’re doing it and how it might affect your relationship. If it’s something that your girlfriend really wants, make sure she’s not doing it just for your sake because that could lead to some issues later on.

In the end, the experience was great, but it definitely made me more aware of how important it is to stay emotionally aware throughout the process. As long as both partners are feeling respected, heard, and valued, it can be a fun and exciting experience. But it’s crucial to keep checking in with each other, especially afterward, to make sure everyone is still feeling good about it.

[hanar123]

Having had a couple of MFM threesomes, I can honestly say that it’s not all just fun and games. It can be an amazing experience, but it really depends on how well you and your partner communicate beforehand. In my case, I made sure we both had an open dialogue about our feelings and expectations. That’s the most important thing, as it’s easy for someone to feel left out or jealous during the experience, and you don’t want that to happen.

As for the rules, I think you’re right in that they can only do so much. The chemistry between the three of you will play a huge role in how things go. The third person has to be respectful of the relationship, no matter what. I’ve been in situations where the third person seemed a little too dominant, and that led to some awkward moments. It’s important to set the tone that this is about mutual respect and not just about satisfying one person’s fantasy.

Another thing that I’ve learned is that you need to check in with each other during and after the experience. It can be easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget to make sure everyone is comfortable. I’ve had experiences where I thought everything was fine, but afterwards, my girlfriend admitted that she felt a little left out or uncomfortable at certain moments. Make sure to give each other space to talk about how the experience went and how everyone felt during it.

Lastly, the emotional side of things is definitely something to consider. It can be easy to think it’s just a physical experience, but emotions can come up unexpectedly. If it’s something your girlfriend wants to do for you, but isn’t fully into it, it could cause friction later on. It’s crucial to make sure that both of you are equally enthusiastic about it, and that you’re not just going through the motions. You have to be really honest with each other and make sure it’s something you both want, not just something one of you thinks might be fun.

[antonio123]

I’ve always been curious about the idea of a threesome, and when my girlfriend and I finally explored the idea, we did a lot of talking before diving in. It’s crucial to understand your motivations and make sure you’re both equally interested in the experience. If there’s any doubt about whether one person is doing it for the other’s benefit, that’s a red flag. I think you’re doing the right thing by laying out the rules beforehand. It’s important to create a clear structure so everyone feels safe and respected.

One thing I’ve learned is that you need to set expectations for after the experience as well. The post-threesome conversation is just as important as the pre-threesome one. It’s easy to assume everything will be fine, but sometimes emotions come up afterward. It’s important to talk about how everyone felt, both during and after, to make sure no one feels left out or uncomfortable. That way, you can address any issues before they become bigger problems.

The third person’s role is also incredibly important. I’ve found that someone who is too dominant or pushy can create tension, even if everything seems fine at first. It’s crucial that the third person respects both partners equally and doesn’t try to overshadow anyone. I’ve been in situations where the third person was too aggressive, and it really threw off the dynamic, so make sure you’re clear about what you’re comfortable with before it happens.

At the end of the day, a threesome can be a fun and exciting experience, but it requires a lot of trust, communication, and emotional awareness. Make sure that both of you are on the same page about why you want to do it, and be prepared to have ongoing conversations about how things went. If you’re both open, honest, and respectful, it can be an enjoyable experience that brings you closer as a couple.

[piciossa]

It sounds like you’re approaching this with a lot of care, which is great to see. A threesome is definitely a big step in any relationship, and I think it’s really important to go into it with clear communication. My girlfriend and I had a MFM threesome a while ago, and it was something we both wanted, but it required a lot of preparation beforehand. We made sure to talk through what we were both comfortable with, and we set boundaries and rules for the third person as well. It worked out, but I do agree that it’s essential to remain fluid and adaptable once it’s actually happening.

The emotional side of things is huge. I thought I was prepared for how I would feel, but emotions can catch you off guard. The biggest piece of advice I can give is to check in with each other not just before and during, but also afterward. There may be things that come up later that you didn’t anticipate, and you want to make sure you address them. If one partner feels uncomfortable or if it didn’t go as expected, having that conversation is vital to keep the relationship strong.

One of the things that worked for us was ensuring that the third person was someone we both felt comfortable with. I know a lot of people jump into threesomes with people they don’t know well, but I’d recommend going for someone you can trust, even if it’s just a casual acquaintance. Having that extra level of trust really helped the experience feel more secure and enjoyable.

Lastly, you’re right about making sure that both partners are doing it for the right reasons. It can’t just be about fulfilling a fantasy; it needs to be something you both want to explore together. Make sure that you’re not just pushing the idea because you think it’ll please your girlfriend. If she’s not fully into it, it could cause friction down the line. Keep communication open, and make sure it’s something that feels right for both of you.