"Young Farang and Young TG Couples: Navigating Trust and Relationship Dynamics"

[aiden15632]

Hello everyone,
I’ve posted this on both Pattaya and Bangkok forums to gather diverse perspectives, so I appreciate any insights you can offer. Older gentlemen, your advice is also welcome, even though I’m focusing on a different aspect of the experience.
Earlier this year, during a visit to Thailand, I met a wonderful Thai girl at a high-end club. Initially, I wasn't sure if she was a freelancer or not, but after a great night together, it turned out she was. To avoid any awkwardness, I gave her 5,000 THB for her time, which is below her usual rate as I learned later. Despite higher offers, she chose to spend time with me. She has a bit of a snobbish attitude toward other girls, which I found endearing.
After a few days, she invited me to another exclusive club for free, and since then, we’ve essentially been a couple. I even lived with her for two months during my holiday. While I didn’t mind financially supporting her—covering bills and providing additional money—she still worked part-time and studied.
My main concern is how to determine if her feelings are genuine or if she’s only interested because I support her financially. I’m in my mid-20s, and she’s a few years older. She had a good job previously but turned to freelancing due to financial difficulties. I lived with her in a sizable house, and she is well-known in her circle. She has no family issues but I sometimes feel she may not be completely honest with me.
I’ve heard numerous stories of Thai girls leaving long-term relationships, and I worry that I might be falling for a similar trap. Given the lack of a significant age gap and the absence of the typical “Thai bride” stigma, I’m wondering if the dynamics are simpler with younger couples.
I’m returning soon to see her and am trying to figure out my next steps. Has anyone here experienced a similar situation or know of young men who have married Thai girls? I’m committed to her, have the means to support her, and believe I love her, but I’m concerned about the possibility of being deceived.
Looking forward to your advice and experiences.

[daniel74]

My opinion is that she's along for the ride.A very easy way to find out is to suggest that things are a bit tight with your money due to the World economy and that you can't really send any money for a few months.I then would give it a moment or two before the "If you love me you would still help me" or " It's ok because I will just go bar and get a man" guilt trip.It's then upto you if you still continue to fall for the con.

Don't get me wrong i'm not taking you for a fool,but I wish I had a £,$ or Euro for everytime I have heard this story.

Take it from someone who has been through it.There is a very famous saying which everyone knows and is VERY VERY true.NO MONEY NO HONEY.

Or you could even go into more details about her.The reason being that if she is a 'good girl' then she wouldn't be out in the bars,and it would be very easy for a paid detective or even someone like myself who is there on a regular basis to track her down and try and chat her up for a ST.You would soon find out then what she's upto,albeit probably not what you want to hear.

[hilululu]

You seem to have created an image of her that is very endearing, but ultimately she was prostituting herself for a living. It doesn't matter what the reasons were, this is an indication of the girls value system.



I don't want to insult anyone that has married a bar girl (whether they are still together or not) but I can't imagine building a life with someone who had decisions to make, and took THAT decision.



I think I would understand it more if the girl was dirt poor and turned to the bars to survive - but she (apparently) wasn't dirt poor, she just took up this profession to support a lifestyle including car and large house.



You have doubts for a good reason. Listen to your inner voice.

[johnson13]

You can marry a girl anywhere in the world one you even grew up with and she can be married to you for all your life or she could leave you in a week.



You could marry a prostitute and she could be with you all your life or she could leave you in a week.



We live in a complicated world so if you decide to marry any girl put a financial agreement in place with a solicitor and your ass is covered if she stays for life and your both in love that’s great no matter who she is if she leaves then your ass is covered, if you decide to leave her then your ass is covered.



So marry who you like if that’s what you like just cover your ass with a Solicitor, if whoever you marry doesn’t want to sign a financial agreement then you truly have your answer.

[shant234]

Thanks for all the replies.



The difficult thing is that unlike a lot of stories I hear she has never given me a reason to doubt her motives.



She prostituted for a year but if you have no family but still get to a point in life through hard work where you succeeded then face losing it all, I can see the mentality that surrounded by no one why you would be sh!t scared to lose everything. So that doesn't bother me.



I think when I go back it will be the opportunity to make a decision.