Do you have to give legit Thai girlfriend an allowance?

[aiden15632]

I'm making a separate thread because the other thread is primarily about BG's and not LT relationships with good girls.



I read a blog recently that said to keep your TG you need to do the usual stuff like treat them with respect, be clean, pay for meals, etc but then they said the TG should get an allowance too.  I'm cool with paying for dinner, an occasional shopping spree at the mall, and a trip to Koh Samui but an allowance?  That seems like BS to me and would cause major resentment and doubt about her real intentions.  Why would an educated girl with a real job need or expect an allowance?  If you say 'no' is the relationship over or is it just calling their bluff?

[shant234]

Have to? Absolutely not. I had several Thai GFs, and have never given an allowance, not even to the working class Issan girls, let alone middle class ones.

Admittedly, I provided occasional financial benefits to those who need the money (a new laptop, ticket home, things like that), and could occasionally be seen as a financial backstop... but a regular monthly commitment, hell no.

To be fair, all this was happening with Thai girls around my age (within 10 years), and at the time Farang guys were immensely popular (with few under-40s around), which is not so much the case today.

As I get older and the Thai girls get pickier, I can actually see myself paying an allowance to a regular partner who's hot and 20+ years younger. Why else would she keep seeing an old geezer like me? If this were the arrangement, I wouldn't call her a "legit Thai girlfriend", but let's not get too hung up on names.

[daniel74]

I would say it depends. If she's well off alone and she would ask me, then I would say no too and if this would end the relationship, I would be sure it wasn't one.

But there were two cases I gave an allowance: One girl just made it through a month (low pay, pay rent, bills, basic stuff). I gave her an allowance. It wasn't much for me (around 3000 a month), but she was super happy.

The other one had a kid. The kid was watched by her aunt and she send money back home. She ask me to support her a bit so she could use some money for herself.

[hilululu]

No.

I had a legit TGF for about three years.

She earned about 50,000 baht a month (working for a Japanese company), had her own house, her own car, etc.

I would see her about 2 months a year.

Due to the fact it was difficult to buy her gifts while I was away, I would transfer her 5,000-10,000 baht on Valentine's Day, her Birthday, and at Christmas (even though she was Buddhist the appreciate the gesture).

She never asked for anything but was very appreciative.

[johnson13]

New poster here but long time Thailand visitor.

My advice is NOT to give a Thai girlfriend an "allowance". If you must, you can send her money (I don't) but be rest assured, you are almost certainly NOT her only patron.

That being said, it's not uncommon to make an "arrangement" with a lady you favor but don't expect it to last long.

I also had a very wealthy friend have multiple very beautiful Thai ladies "on retainer" (as he called it) because when he came back to Thailand they were at his beck and call as they didn't want to upset their gravy train. He generally sent them between 10 - 15K bhat per month each, which to most of us, was like sending them $0.50/month. If they didn't act as he wished or whatever, he would cut them off. Some might find the whole arrangement crass but it worked for him.

Anyway, I am glad I found this forum. I am a BKK guy, never liked Pattaya that much.