01-21-2025, 09:50 AM
In all of the many forms of sex play… can you make yourself orgasm?
I know guys can obviously make themselves orgasm via masturbation. But what about during intercourse?
And what about the ladies?
For me, it’s very difficult to make myself orgasm. I have to have help from someone else. If I’m on top or in some other position where I’m in charge, if I’m close, I have to stop or at least slow down. I can rarely make myself go all the way—just because it feels too good. I have to be forced or controlled or coerced by the other party to go all the way!
First, it’s important to recognize that everyone experiences orgasm differently, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. For both men and women, achieving orgasm during intercourse can be more complex than simply “making it happen.” While some people are able to orgasm easily through penetrative sex or masturbation, others may require additional stimulation or certain conditions to reach climax.
For men, it’s typically easier to orgasm during masturbation because they have more control over the rhythm and intensity of their stimulation. During intercourse, especially when engaging in positions that are less familiar or comfortable, the sensations can be harder to manage, making it challenging to climax. However, many men can reach orgasm through consistent and focused stimulation during sex with a partner.
For women, achieving orgasm can be even more nuanced. Many women require direct clitoral stimulation in addition to penetration to reach orgasm, as the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the body for most women. In some cases, women may not orgasm during intercourse alone because they don’t experience enough consistent stimulation on the clitoris or G-spot, or they may simply need to relax and feel emotionally connected to their partner.
It’s also not uncommon for people to experience a sense of being “too good” when they’re in control during sex. This can happen when the pleasure is so intense that it becomes hard to push through to orgasm. Some people feel like they need a partner to help guide them or take charge in order to let go and reach climax. This could be tied to the dynamic of control and surrender during sex, which can heighten arousal and allow for a deeper experience.
If you’re finding it difficult to reach orgasm during intercourse, it could help to explore different techniques and open up communication with your partner. Discuss what feels good and experiment with combining different forms of stimulation, such as manual or oral, during sex. Some people find that incorporating role play, power dynamics, or other elements of control and surrender can add an extra layer of pleasure that helps them orgasm more easily.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to communicate openly with your partner about your needs and desires. Everyone’s body reacts differently to stimulation, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to experience orgasm. What matters is that you and your partner are on the same page and enjoy the experience together.
I know guys can obviously make themselves orgasm via masturbation. But what about during intercourse?
And what about the ladies?
For me, it’s very difficult to make myself orgasm. I have to have help from someone else. If I’m on top or in some other position where I’m in charge, if I’m close, I have to stop or at least slow down. I can rarely make myself go all the way—just because it feels too good. I have to be forced or controlled or coerced by the other party to go all the way!
First, it’s important to recognize that everyone experiences orgasm differently, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. For both men and women, achieving orgasm during intercourse can be more complex than simply “making it happen.” While some people are able to orgasm easily through penetrative sex or masturbation, others may require additional stimulation or certain conditions to reach climax.
For men, it’s typically easier to orgasm during masturbation because they have more control over the rhythm and intensity of their stimulation. During intercourse, especially when engaging in positions that are less familiar or comfortable, the sensations can be harder to manage, making it challenging to climax. However, many men can reach orgasm through consistent and focused stimulation during sex with a partner.
For women, achieving orgasm can be even more nuanced. Many women require direct clitoral stimulation in addition to penetration to reach orgasm, as the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the body for most women. In some cases, women may not orgasm during intercourse alone because they don’t experience enough consistent stimulation on the clitoris or G-spot, or they may simply need to relax and feel emotionally connected to their partner.
It’s also not uncommon for people to experience a sense of being “too good” when they’re in control during sex. This can happen when the pleasure is so intense that it becomes hard to push through to orgasm. Some people feel like they need a partner to help guide them or take charge in order to let go and reach climax. This could be tied to the dynamic of control and surrender during sex, which can heighten arousal and allow for a deeper experience.
If you’re finding it difficult to reach orgasm during intercourse, it could help to explore different techniques and open up communication with your partner. Discuss what feels good and experiment with combining different forms of stimulation, such as manual or oral, during sex. Some people find that incorporating role play, power dynamics, or other elements of control and surrender can add an extra layer of pleasure that helps them orgasm more easily.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to communicate openly with your partner about your needs and desires. Everyone’s body reacts differently to stimulation, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to experience orgasm. What matters is that you and your partner are on the same page and enjoy the experience together.