When you begin to suck do you like it hard or soft?

[hilululu]

My partner said she never experienced a soft dick until she was older. Because she was a call girl in her younger years. Even today she plays with my dick a bit because she does not like a soft dick in the mouth. When I was much younger and sucked a dick many times in my youth I enjoyed a soft dick in my mouth because I liked to experience it getting harder and harder as I sucked. It was like feeling the progress as I was pleasing my child molester that paid me alot of money for my services.


The child molester part icks me out so much that I almost don’t even want to respond to this.

I’ll quickly say that I don’t like soft dicks. I don’t want to put my mouth or hand on it until it’s hard. I like to get it hard before I touch it by kissing and touching other areas. I’ve gone straight for the D before and made it hard with my mouth or hand but it’s not my favorite.


OK, Hello shrink I am here because many people says I have a problem. I had what I consider a pretty normal childhood if you completely leave out biblical morality. I actually enjoy my life very much with my loving wife. She knows all of my intimate past and we discuss it along with hers quite frequently. I really don't know why she told me to come here because I see no logical reason. Maybe she wants me to see that If I was a ridgid conservative living by biblical standards I'd see my past as a tragic childhood unable to cope with myself or my thoughts. Then I could understand why I would need to talk to someone about it.

I am sorry i wasted your time here but if you have a patient that has lived the past that I have and they can't seem to cope as an adult call me and I will explain to them that each experience is just that, an experience, a building block that molds us into who we are. it is only when we dwell on an issue and think in our minds that it was horrible then it becomes horrible. My wife was raped two times and she says someone just used her body against her will. She did not enjoy the experience but it didn't ruin her as it would have someone who is convinced by someone else what a horrible thing, "you need help you will probably never get over it."

I know life is life, I have seen people die in front of me, I have been in gun battles (big city cop). Some of my partners killed themselves, they couldn't cope. For me it was just another day at the office. If you look at each experience as just that, an experience, you will never cause your mind to bring you down regardless of whatever you go thru. cindy 94 I hope this helps you.

[antonio123]

I think a lot of this comes down to personal preference and the energy you’re both bringing to the table. I’ve always been more of a fan of things starting off a bit softer. For me, the gradual build-up adds excitement and tension, which makes it feel more satisfying when things do get harder. It’s almost like you’re slowly teasing each other, which I think is a big part of the experience. That slow transition from soft to hard gives you time to explore, learn what your partner likes, and really pay attention to their reactions.

There are definitely times when I’ve wanted things to go hard right away, though. Maybe it’s just the energy of the moment, or you’re both on the same page about jumping right into it. That instant change, the rawness of it, can be exhilarating. But for me, I think I enjoy the softness more because it feels more personal and tender, especially when I’m in a deeper relationship where intimacy is key.

That being said, I totally understand the appeal of wanting it to be hard from the get-go, especially if you’re with someone who’s more into that direct, no-nonsense approach. There’s no judgment in it; it’s just different preferences. The key, I think, is respecting each other’s desires and finding ways to meet in the middle, whether that means starting soft and building up or jumping straight to hard and fast.

Ultimately, it’s about mutual satisfaction. Everyone has their own rhythm, and the best experiences are the ones where both partners are in sync with what’s going on. There’s no right or wrong way to do it, as long as both people are enjoying the moment.

[deigo123]

I feel like this whole debate about soft vs. hard can really come down to the situation you’re in. Sometimes I definitely prefer starting off soft, especially in a slow, sensual moment. It gives me a chance to really focus on my partner and explore their body before diving into the more intense part of the experience. I enjoy seeing how my partner reacts as things get harder, and I like knowing I’m in control of that progression. It feels like a journey, not just an end goal, and that build-up makes everything feel more intense when it finally happens.

That being said, there are definitely times when I’m just in the mood for something hard right off the bat. It’s more about the energy at that moment—sometimes you just want to feel that raw physical connection and get right to the point. I’ve been in situations where we’ve both been really into it from the start, and things escalate quickly. There’s something undeniably exciting about that kind of instant passion.

What I think matters the most is the communication with your partner. If you know what each other likes, it makes things a lot easier to navigate. I’ve been with partners who prefer things to be hard immediately, and while it’s not my first choice, I’m happy to oblige if that’s what they enjoy. The key is flexibility—knowing when to slow down, when to build things up, and when to go full throttle. It’s all about creating that chemistry together.

At the end of the day, it’s not just about the physical aspect—it’s about the connection and the flow between you and your partner. Whether it’s soft or hard, the best moments happen when you’re both in tune with each other, and the experience feels mutual. Enjoying those little shifts in tempo, from soft to hard or vice versa, is part of the excitement.

[piciossa]

Personally, I think preferences around softness or hardness are very subjective and can vary depending on the person, the situation, and the connection with your partner. For me, I enjoy when things start off a little softer, especially if we’re in the early stages of intimacy. It gives me the chance to build anticipation and slowly work things up. That build-up is important for me—it makes the transition to something harder feel more natural and more satisfying, like I’m doing something right to please my partner.

I’ve definitely been with people who prefer the immediate hard approach, and I get that too. Some people are more into instant gratification, and they want to feel that pressure from the start. I can understand why someone might like a hard dick from the beginning—it’s a clear sign that things are getting heated and are about to escalate. But I feel that if you’re in a good rhythm with your partner, being a bit softer can actually enhance the experience as you build things up together.

It’s funny, though, because I’ve found that sometimes the preference for soft or hard can also be about emotional connection. With someone I’m really close to, a softer start seems to feel more intimate, as if we’re taking our time and enjoying each other’s bodies. On the other hand, with a more casual encounter, there’s often a desire for things to get harder faster. The difference in approach speaks to the emotional layer that sex brings to the table.

At the end of the day, it’s all about finding what works for both you and your partner. Communication is key, and I think being open to different experiences—soft, hard, or anywhere in between—can make for a more fulfilling experience. It’s not just about technique, but also about comfort and what feels right in the moment.

[hanar123]

I think it’s really interesting how preferences for soft vs. hard can vary so much depending on the person and even the stage of the relationship. For me, I prefer when things are soft at first. I like the way it feels to explore my partner’s body slowly, and there’s something kind of intimate about starting soft and seeing how the energy builds. That way, when things do get harder, it feels earned. It’s a progression that makes the eventual change feel even more impactful. For me, it’s not about rushing things—it’s about feeling the connection grow.

But I’ve definitely been with people who prefer things to be hard from the start, and honestly, I get it. Sometimes the moment calls for a quicker shift to intensity. Maybe you’re both feeling hot and heavy, and you don’t want to waste time. In those moments, I understand why some people like to just dive right into the heat of the moment and get things going quickly. It’s about mutual understanding and chemistry, and if that’s what the situation calls for, I think that’s great too.

What I love about these kinds of discussions is how diverse preferences can be. Some people like soft, slow starts, others like things to go fast, and some enjoy a combination of both. It’s all about what feels best in the moment, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. What’s most important is understanding what you and your partner enjoy and being open to different experiences. It’s not about one being better than the other—it’s about what feels right for you both.

In the end, the key is not just about technique, but about being present in the moment with your partner. Whether it’s soft or hard, the experience becomes so much richer when both of you are enjoying the journey and the connection.

[amravat123]

I’m more of a soft-to-hard person. There’s something about the way things progress that makes it feel more sensual. I like taking my time to build things up, exploring my partner’s body as things get hotter. The soft approach at the start feels more intimate, and it creates this build-up where the transition to hard feels like a reward. There’s anticipation in the way the experience escalates, and it just feels more natural to me.

That said, I completely understand why others might prefer it hard from the start. If you’re both already really into each other, then going hard right away can feel exhilarating. There’s a certain urgency to it that can be exciting, and I’m all for moments of intense passion when the mood is right. I think it really depends on the connection and the vibe of the situation.

What I’ve noticed is that these preferences can shift depending on your mood or the person you’re with. Sometimes a soft approach works better for a deeper connection, while other times you want that immediate intensity. It’s all about the vibe, and the ability to communicate and adapt is key. I think having the option to go soft or hard depending on the situation is what makes intimacy exciting.

In the end, it’s important to remember that there’s no right or wrong here. It’s all about what feels good for you and your partner in the moment. The best experiences are the ones where both people are comfortable and happy with how things are going. If you both enjoy it soft, that’s great, and if you prefer it hard, that’s cool too. Just enjoy the journey!