How to give an orgasm from penetration alone.

[hilululu]

I was lurking here and I was reading another thread where the overall accepted sentiment was that the majority of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone and I found myself in disbelief. So after a quick google search I found a sex study that found that 25% percent of women self reported that they were unable to orgasm from penetration alone with a partner or masturbation. Another study pinned this number at 31%. I'm shocked by these numbers. So I went through my "little black book" lol and did some calculations of my own. I keep a pretty detailed account of my sexual relationships ( I think from the rest of my post you will see that I'm very detailed). I've calculated that out of all the women I've been with, I've given penetration orgasms to 93%. Many women have told me that I was the first person to give them an orgasm via penetration alone. I didn't create this thread to brag. I'm more interested in having a discussion as to why my personal experience is so different from what the science has found. So I came up with some factors that may or may not contribute and I'm curious to hear what men and women have to say on the subject and the factors listed below.

1. Penis Girth: As far as I'm aware, I'm only slightly above average at 5.75 in. So I doubt this has much of an effect.

2. Penis Length: I'm not well endowed by any means. I measure in at 5.75 inches, but it is difficult for me to get fully aroused by myself and take a measurement. I would guess I'm 6 inches when I'm with a partner and engaging in intercourse, but I've never pulled out and taken a measurement directly.

3. Mindset: I started watching porn at probably much too young of an age and for some odd reason I feel like a failure if I have to resort to clitoral stimulation to give a girl an orgasm. When having intercourse, it's my mission to give an orgasm with my penetration alone and I generally will only resort to clitoral stimulation as a "Plan B" This obviously excludes times when engaging in oral sex for the sake of oral sex.

4. Foreplay/Teasing: I don't really enjoy "quickies." If I want a quickie it's easier to just masturbate. If you are having sex with me, book me for the full hour. So I usually spend around 20 to 30 minutes minimum, caressing her body, talking dirty, massaging, licking her everywere etc. I do think this is crucial to making a girl cum from penetration. I can't think of any times where she dropped her pants and we started penetrating immediately and she had an orgasm from penetration, I'm sure other people are capable of that, but it's doesn't really happen with me.

5.Masturbation: I masturbate 2 to 3 times per day usually. It's been years since I've gone more than a day without masturbating once. So I am fairly desensitized-- meaning I don't have a problem with premature ejaculation and I can essentially cum on command, but it's a little bit less than that. Sometimes it's actually a bit difficult for me to finish. I think this plays into the next point.

6. Length of penetration: Usually I have to be engaging in penetration for a good 20 to 25 minutes with several different positions before she orgasms from penetration alone. Sometimes I will go back and forth between giving her oral (where basically I'm catching my breath) and penetration. I like to mix it up a bit and I think this may help.

7. Physical Fitness: I am admittedly a gym rat. I lift heavy weights 4x per week and do intense cardio 3 to 4 times per week. I think this may help for two reasons. The first being that I imagine most women find a guy with a nice body to visually appealing, but more importantly if you don't have the physical endurance it may be difficult to have sex with a lot of intensity for the 20 to 25 minutes it usually takes me to get them to orgasm. Also, as soon as I become winded and fatigued, my erection suffers and that leads me to my next point.

8. Erection Strength: I really don't have anything to say about this because my penis is the only one I've ever interacted with, but I have been told over and over and over that my penis is very hard during sex. I don't know if that is genetic or how much stifness contributes. I do notice that the healthier I eat and the more exercise I get seems to go a long way with keeping it very hard for the duration of intercourse.

9. Comfort level: Unless I'm traveling, I almost never have one night stands. In fact I've had only a handful my entire life. These women, I did not use to calculated the 90% that I stated at the beginning of the thread. The reason I excluded them is because every woman has nuances about them that really drives them wild. Some women like a finger in their butt, some like to be choked or their hair pulled. Some like to be tied up, and some like to have extremely dirty things or very "lovey dovey things whispered in their ear. Exploring the woman and finding out what drives her wild I think is an essential part of being able to give a woman an orgasm through penetration alone. A little anecdote: I was once with a woman for quite a while when I started talking to her about getting a bunch of guys to fuck her one after another and If I recall correctly the line was "You can have all the cock you want" and she exploded. She was such a sweetheart and you would have never expected that. This stuff takes time, and I'm not willing to risk the seedier stuff on a one night stand because you don't want to offend or upset a woman by saying something that turns them off.

10. Condoms: I never use them. I mean never. I won't even have sex if I have to use one. I practice sexual health by getting tested regularly and I require my partners get tested regularly as well.

11. Technique: The fast pump and dump IME is not very effective. The main technique I use to achieve the orgasm is starting off slow with shallow penetration, then going in deeper, and then deeper then using a grinding technique where you hold her hips and grind. Push in and then grind against the front (anterior) wall, pull the penis back out a little bit and thrust in and grind against the anterior wall again , slowly at first and then increase the speed and force. Do this continually and and then mix it up by doing the same thing but this time grinding against the back (posterior)wall, and then the left lateral wall, and then right lateral right. Or you can swirl the penis around like you are cleaning a toilet bowl to mix it up. Listen and look to her cues to which spot she likes it best (its different for each position and each woman) but once you find which "wall" or "spot" she likes best then continue that motion until she explodes, sometimes it can take up to 7 or 8 minutes of continuous grinding in the right spot, but more often than not it only takes around 3 to 4 minutes. It's exhausting so often I'll revert back to regular in and out thrusting when I'm tired, and sometimes even back to giving her oral when I'm exhausted, but once I catch my breath it's back in and back to grinding.

12. Position. It really depends on the woman and where she likes it. But you want positions where you have leverage because it's so tiring. So if she likes being grinded against her posterior wall and your penis curves to the left, you might try a scissoring position so your penis puts pressure on the posterior wall. It would be very difficult to use missionary to hit the posterior wall. You have to experiment a bit, but overall modified missionary, scissoring, and regular, reverse, and scissoring cowgirl work best for me. I find it almost impossible to be able to have enough leverage and put enough pressure on her in doggystyle for example. So if that's your go to might be time to switch it up. Likewise, any standing positions are just too exhausting to do this with IMO. Use gravity as your friend.

Bonus: There are two oddities about me that may contribute, they probably don't, but I'm going to include them anyway. 1. Most women don't like to give blowjobs, cheers to the ones that do, but IME most don't. I hate blowjobs. Yes I know it's weird. I like giving oral, but I don't like getting it. So if I am having sex with a woman, she does not have the taste of penis sweat in her mouth haha. 2. I live in Philly and I'm a white male that only sleeps with ethnic women. It's just my preference. I don't think genetically it matters at all. I don't think ethnic women are easier to make orgasm. But often, I'm sleeping with fresh off the boat foreigners-- and so there may be an interracial, not quite taboo, but a component that they find erotic, this probably doesn't contribute, but who knows.

Feel free to chime in with your overall experiences or if you want to just focus one of the factors I've listed specifically, it would be great to hear from others and see if we can crack this code together.

Cheers,

[deigo123]

I totally agree with the idea that there’s a lot of variety when it comes to how women experience orgasm during penetration. From my experience, I’ve found that it's more about the connection and the effort you put into the physical and mental aspects of sex. Sure, physical attributes like size might play a small part, but I believe it's more about technique, comfort, and confidence. When I’ve been with women who haven't experienced orgasm through penetration alone, it’s often because we hadn’t spent enough time on foreplay or didn’t explore what really turns them on.

The grinding technique you mentioned definitely sounds like it could work—changing angles and paying attention to how she responds makes all the difference. I’ve found that if I can find that sweet spot for her and keep consistent with pressure and rhythm, it often leads to orgasm during penetration. I also think a big part of it is mindset; if you’re both in the right headspace and open to exploring what feels best, it can work.

Also, the idea of avoiding quickies is spot on. I’ve had many experiences where trying to rush through sex led to frustration for both of us, but when we slow things down, really focus on the moment, and build up the tension, the chances of her reaching orgasm go way up. I like the idea of focusing on her pleasure first, before worrying about what I’m getting out of it.

In terms of positions, I think mixing things up is key. Some positions hit different spots that can be much more stimulating for a woman. Experimenting with different angles, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, has often helped me with creating that deeper connection needed for orgasm through penetration. Definitely worth taking your time and being patient with her to figure out what works best.

[amravat123]

I’ve been with a lot of women who say they can’t orgasm from penetration alone, but I’ve managed to change their minds through persistence and communication. It seems like the more comfortable a woman is with you, the more likely she is to reach orgasm through penetration, which really aligns with your point about comfort levels. It also sounds like foreplay is crucial—spending time getting her body and mind ready really sets the stage for the main event. Women need to feel safe and desired to fully relax and let go.

Your method of switching up positions and grinding against different areas of the vagina seems like a great way to find the right spot. I’ve also noticed that paying attention to her breathing and body language can help guide you to what’s working and what’s not. A lot of times, it’s not about how fast or hard you go; it’s more about rhythm and pressure, just like you said. It’s a learning process for both partners, and the more you’re in tune with each other, the easier it is to make that happen.

Physical fitness is another great point you made. I’ve found that being physically fit really helps in terms of stamina and overall performance. If I’m out of shape, I tire easily, and that affects both my own experience and hers. The more you work on your physical health, the better your endurance, which really helps in making those longer sessions more satisfying for both of you.

It’s also interesting that you don’t use condoms. I understand that everyone has their preferences, but I’m curious if that might affect how women respond to your technique. Some women feel more connected without condoms, while others may prefer them for safety and peace of mind. Either way, your detailed approach to exploring each woman's individual preferences is definitely something to think about.

[hanar123]

This is an interesting topic! I think the key to making penetration alone lead to orgasm is knowing how to build anticipation and use technique to your advantage. As a guy, it’s really about focusing on the woman’s body and figuring out what she responds to best. It’s not just about thrusting in and out, but finding the right angle and rhythm that keeps her engaged. I’ve used a similar grinding technique in the past, and it works wonders when you really pay attention to how she’s reacting.

The physical fitness factor is also something I can relate to. I’ve noticed that when I’m in better shape, I’m more confident, more energetic, and able to last longer, which definitely helps my partner reach orgasm during penetration. It’s not easy to maintain the kind of energy required, especially if you’re switching between oral and vaginal, but it’s totally worth it for her pleasure. It’s also about knowing when to take a break or switch things up if things aren’t working.

Your point about positions is spot on too. Certain positions seem to hit the right spots for some women, and it can be different depending on the person. I think being willing to experiment and adjust mid-session is what separates good sex from great sex. If something isn’t working, don’t be afraid to ask her what she likes or make a subtle change to improve things.

Finally, I believe that mindset plays a huge role. When you’re genuinely focused on her pleasure and not just on getting off, it changes the dynamic entirely. That kind of mental approach makes sex more intimate and enjoyable for both partners.

[antonio123]

I’ve also been surprised by how many women struggle to orgasm from penetration alone. Based on my experience, it often has more to do with emotional connection and mutual trust than physical attributes. When I’m really in tune with a woman, I can tell what she likes through subtle cues, and that’s when penetration becomes more effective for her. I’ve found that taking the time to explore her body, listen to her, and communicate openly about what she enjoys has been more successful than focusing solely on speed or force.

The technique of slow, deep penetration followed by grinding is something I’ve used in the past and found it to be incredibly effective. You’re absolutely right that different positions hit different areas, and a woman’s anatomy is unique, so it’s about discovering what works for her specifically. Sometimes it’s about pressure in the right spots, and other times it’s about rhythm and timing. I agree that experimenting with different angles and movements can make a huge difference.

What also stood out to me is the importance of foreplay. I’ve never understood why guys skip this part—when you get her excited and mentally engaged before penetration, everything else falls into place. A lot of women I’ve been with have told me they can’t orgasm from penetration unless they’ve been properly stimulated beforehand, so I always take my time with kissing, touching, and oral sex to get her warmed up.

Also, I can’t stress enough how important communication is. Even though I’ve developed my own techniques that seem to work, every woman is different. Asking her about what feels good, what she enjoys, and being flexible enough to adjust is key to ensuring she reaches orgasm from penetration alone.

[piciossa]

I’ve always been curious about this topic because I’ve had mixed experiences with penetration and orgasm. Some women I’ve been with have had no trouble reaching orgasm from penetration, while others struggle with it. It really comes down to understanding their bodies and what they need to feel fully stimulated. That’s where your approach to grinding and changing positions makes sense. I’ve found that when I focus on certain areas, like the G-spot or the anterior wall, I can achieve better results.

But, I think it’s also important to consider the emotional and mental factors that contribute to a woman’s ability to orgasm. If she’s not comfortable with me or is distracted, it’s a lot harder for her to let go and enjoy the experience fully. That’s why creating a relaxed, intimate environment before and during sex is essential. I’ve had a few experiences where simply setting the right mood and connecting emotionally was enough to make penetration more effective for her.

I also agree with your point on the duration of sex. It’s easy to rush things, but when you take the time to really enjoy each other and focus on building that connection, it leads to a much more satisfying experience. In terms of physical endurance, working out definitely helps. When I’m in better shape, I can go longer without tiring out, which gives me more opportunities to try different techniques and positions.

Lastly, I think that not using condoms also plays a role in how comfortable a woman feels during sex. For some, it can make the experience more intimate and pleasurable, but of course, it’s important to practice safe sex in other ways. Regular testing is essential, but if both partners are comfortable, I can see how this might contribute to a better experience overall.