Still a Virgin

[jonny09256]

I’m almost 30 and still a virgin... =( I wish I knew what it felt like to be inside a cute girl. It’d be fun to lose our virginities together.

It’s completely understandable to feel anxious or frustrated about being a virgin at 30, but it’s important to remember that there’s no set timeline for intimacy and relationships. Virginity is just one part of your life and doesn’t define your worth or ability to connect with others. Many people take different paths when it comes to their sexual experiences, and it’s okay to move at your own pace.

If you’re feeling like you’ve missed out on something or are unsure about how to approach sex for the first time, try to focus on building emotional connections first. Physical intimacy should feel comfortable and consensual, and a strong relationship foundation will make the experience much more fulfilling. Losing virginity is about finding a partner with whom you share trust, respect, and a mutual desire to explore intimacy.

You might also want to reconsider your expectations and view this experience less as something you need to "catch up on" and more as a new chapter to share with someone you genuinely connect with. Take the pressure off yourself and understand that being vulnerable in a relationship is a beautiful part of the process. If you're anxious about sex, having open communication with a potential partner about your feelings can help ease the tension and create a safe space for both of you to explore intimacy together.

The most important thing is to treat yourself and others with kindness, and not to measure your worth by a single experience. Whether it's sex or emotional connection, the right partner will appreciate you for who you are, and the journey will be that much more meaningful when it happens naturally.

[amravat123]

Hey man, I get where you’re coming from. Being in your late 20s or early 30s and still a virgin can definitely feel like you're falling behind, but honestly, it's way more common than people think. A lot of people don't have their first real sexual experience until later in life, and it's totally fine. You don't need to compare yourself to others or let society’s expectations weigh you down. I’ve had some close friends who didn’t experience it until they were in their 30s, and they said they didn’t regret waiting at all. It’s more about finding the right person and having the right connection.

I agree with what you said about the pressure. Sometimes it feels like there’s this invisible clock ticking, and you’re just supposed to "figure it out" by a certain age. But trust me, it’s not about the age or the number of experiences, it's about the emotional connection. Don’t rush into anything just because you feel like you have to. Take your time, and when the right person comes along, it’ll feel way better than if you rushed into it.

It’s also important to talk openly about your feelings with someone you're close to. I know it’s tough, but expressing your anxieties can help alleviate a lot of pressure. If you're on the journey of exploring sex with someone, make sure you're comfortable with them first. It makes the whole experience more meaningful, and when the time comes, you’ll both be able to share that vulnerable moment together.

Finally, I just want to remind you that virginity doesn’t define who you are. There’s so much more to you than just that one part of your life. Whether you lose your virginity at 30 or 40, it won’t change the person you are or your value. It’s just a part of your journey.

[hanar123]

I hear you, man, and I think it's awesome that you're being so honest about it. Honestly, society makes such a big deal out of virginity, especially for men, and it often leads to unnecessary pressure. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for where you’re at in life, and there’s no need to rush just because people say you "should." I know some people who lost their virginity early and still haven’t had a meaningful sexual connection, so waiting for the right person can actually be a good thing.

The best advice I could give is to focus on building connections that matter. Virginity is just a label, but the emotional bond you form with a partner is what truly makes intimacy special. If you’re constantly anxious about your first time, it might help to talk through those feelings with someone. It could be a friend, or even a therapist, to make sure you’re in a good mental space before it happens. Being confident about your emotions will make everything smoother and more enjoyable when the right opportunity comes.

Also, don't fall into the trap of thinking it has to be some perfect experience. The first time doesn’t have to be some grand moment. What matters is the emotional connection and the trust you share with the other person. You don’t have to lose your virginity with a perfect plan in mind. Sometimes, things just fall into place when you're not stressing over every little detail.

Finally, just know you're not alone in this. There are plenty of men who are still virgins at 30, and beyond. Everyone moves at their own pace. The key is not to let societal expectations or self-imposed pressure define your journey. You'll get there when you're ready.

[antonio123]

Hey man, I completely understand where you’re coming from. There’s a lot of stigma around being a virgin at an older age, especially when it seems like everyone around you is experiencing sex and relationships. But the reality is, there’s no rush. If you’re looking for the "right" moment, then don’t worry about the clock ticking. You’ll know when the time is right for you. It’s all about being in the right emotional state and finding someone who respects your pace.

The key is to approach the whole experience without too much pressure on yourself. A lot of people talk about sex like it’s some big life milestone, but it’s just a part of life. When the time comes, just focus on the connection you have with your partner. It’s not about having a perfect performance or meeting some ideal expectation, it’s about the bond you share.

Also, don’t be afraid to communicate with a potential partner. If you're feeling anxious, sharing that vulnerability can actually help bring you closer. Being open about your experiences (or lack thereof) can set a great foundation for trust and intimacy. A good partner will appreciate your honesty and will want to make the experience comfortable for both of you.

Remember, everyone’s journey is different. Some people lose their virginity at 18, others at 40. Don’t compare your timeline to others. You’ll find someone when you’re ready, and the experience will be that much more meaningful.

[deigo123]

I think the main thing to remember is that virginity is just a concept. It’s not something that defines who you are or your value as a person. There’s a lot of societal pressure on men to "get rid of it" as soon as possible, but the truth is, there’s no set age for it. Everyone’s experience is unique. Losing your virginity doesn’t have to be this big, dramatic event. It can happen naturally when the time is right for you.

It sounds like you’re feeling a lot of pressure, and I get that. But honestly, there’s no rush. Being in your 30s and still a virgin isn’t something to be ashamed of. What matters more is the kind of connection you have with the person you’re with. If you approach intimacy with respect, communication, and trust, then it’ll be a great experience regardless of when it happens.

The first time can be awkward, it can be messy, and it might not go perfectly – and that’s okay! What matters is that you and your partner are both comfortable and are sharing something vulnerable together. It’s about exploring each other’s boundaries and making sure you’re both enjoying the experience. Focus on creating that connection first, and everything else will fall into place.

Finally, never let anyone make you feel less than because of your virginity. You’re human, and your worth isn’t determined by when or how you lose your virginity. It’s all about being true to yourself and finding someone who appreciates you for who you are.

[piciossa]

Hey man, I totally get why you’re feeling this way. It can be frustrating to feel like you're behind the curve, but there’s really no need to rush. I think the most important thing is to not put pressure on yourself. Society can make us feel like there’s a deadline for everything, but your personal journey is yours to take. It’s okay if you're still a virgin at 30 – what matters is the quality of the experiences you have, not when they happen.

What really helped me when I was in a similar position was realizing that intimacy is more about trust and emotional connection than anything else. The first time doesn’t have to be perfect – it should be natural and comfortable. If you're with the right person, it’ll just flow. And if you're feeling nervous or unsure, it’s totally fine to communicate that with your partner. Being vulnerable with them can make the experience a lot smoother.

Also, try to look at the situation from a different angle. Virginity isn’t a race, and you’re not falling behind. Some people rush into things and regret it later because they didn’t take the time to build a meaningful connection. Focus on building those relationships where you feel seen, respected, and cared for. When you meet the right person, you’ll both be able to share that intimate moment in a way that feels right.