Clitoris orgasm then vaginal penetration

[aiden15632]

Hey,

I and my wife have been married for 20 years and we are in our 40s.

We always start by me using my hand to stimulate her clitoris and at the same time she will stimulate me. And at that very moment she reaches orgasm she wants me in very bad and after a few mins of penetration we are done happy.

I do not have experience with other partners, and was curiously wondering first if this is typically and secondly is there something I can do to make the experience better?

Thanks!

[deigo123]

Sounds like you've got a solid routine, but to answer your first question, what you’re describing is pretty common. I’ve been with a few partners where clitoral stimulation is necessary for orgasm, and once they hit that peak, they want penetration. It’s definitely a good place to start because the clitoris is usually the quickest route to orgasm for many women. I’d say the key is in the transition—how you move from clitoral focus to penetration, and making sure it feels as smooth and pleasurable as possible.

If you’re looking to elevate the experience, consider the pacing of both actions. I’ve found that slowing things down can increase anticipation and make the transition smoother. For example, instead of going straight into penetration after orgasm, maybe give her a little time to enjoy the aftershocks of her clitoral orgasm before diving in. It adds to the build-up. Sometimes, a little break in between can make things even more intense when you go back to penetration.

Also, have you considered the use of lube? It might seem like an obvious thing, but some women find that a bit more lubrication helps make penetration feel even better after clitoral stimulation. It can reduce any discomfort, especially if she's already had an orgasm and her sensitivity is heightened.

Finally, you don’t have to always stick to the same formula. Mix things up a bit! You could try different positions, or even introduce light bondage or role-playing if that’s something both of you are into. It’s all about variety and keeping the excitement alive. All the best!

[piciossa]

Interesting topic! I think the combination of clitoral orgasm followed by penetration is pretty typical for many couples. That’s pretty much how I’ve had things go with a few partners. In fact, I’ve had some women tell me that they need to climax from clitoral stimulation before they feel comfortable with penetration. The mental connection is important too; once they experience that release, they’re more ready to enjoy penetration.

As for making it better, I’d suggest exploring different types of stimulation. You mentioned you’re using your hand for clitoral play, but maybe adding a little variety—like using your tongue or even a vibrator—could take things to the next level. One thing I’ve found is that if you can get a woman to orgasm with one type of stimulation, following up with a different kind (like switching from manual to oral) can prolong the pleasure and intensify the experience.

Another tip would be to experiment with how long you wait before penetration. Some women love to keep the momentum going right after their orgasm, while others prefer a bit of time to savor the sensation. You could even ask her how she feels after each orgasm and see if that gives you a clue about her preference. Communication and patience are really important here.

Lastly, try to be mindful of her emotional state as well as her physical. Often, after orgasm, a woman can feel very sensitive, both physically and emotionally. Being gentle, affectionate, and attentive in that moment can help make the experience even more enjoyable.

[antonio123]

Hey there, thanks for sharing your experience. It sounds like you and your wife have found a routine that works well for you, and that’s great! To your first question, I think it’s definitely common for many couples to start with clitoral stimulation before penetration. The clitoris is so sensitive, and for many women, it’s the most reliable way to bring them to orgasm. Your wife’s response—wanting penetration after reaching climax—is a natural shift. Some people enjoy that contrast between the two sensations, while others prefer to keep the focus on one or the other.

As for improving the experience, a lot can come down to what feels good for both of you in the moment. Communication is key. Maybe try mixing things up a little. For example, different positions might provide her with new sensations during penetration, or varying the pace of clitoral stimulation could bring even more pleasure. Also, don’t forget that setting the mood can be just as important. Sometimes taking more time with foreplay can make all the difference.

In my experience with a few different partners, what works for one person might not be as effective with another, but starting with what you’re comfortable with and then experimenting from there is always a good idea. Have you ever considered using toys to enhance the clitoral stimulation or even adding something like a vibrator during penetration? It can change the dynamic in interesting ways.

Lastly, you might want to check in with your wife after each experience to see how she feels. Sometimes, little tweaks—like adjusting the pressure or rhythm—can make the whole experience feel even better. Hope this helps!

[hanar123]

Great question, and I totally get where you're coming from. From what I’ve experienced, starting with clitoral stimulation before penetration is definitely a common pattern, especially for women who find it harder to orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. The transition from clitoral orgasm to penetration can be a really sweet spot if done right. Some women like the feeling of that initial release and then want the deeper connection from penetration afterward.

What could make the experience even better? First off, I’d say play with rhythm. Sometimes, switching up the speed or even using different pressure when stimulating her clitoris can change the sensation completely. For example, you might try starting with slower, lighter touches before building intensity. Then, with penetration, you can adjust the pace to match what she’s feeling.

Another thing that works is taking your time during foreplay. I know it’s easy to get straight to the ‘main event,’ but lingering a little longer on clitoral stimulation can not only heighten her orgasm but also make the penetration part more satisfying for her. This builds up anticipation and can make the whole experience feel more connected and intense.

Lastly, it might be worth trying different positions or techniques for both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. For example, if you're doing manual clitoral play, try a position where you can access her from a different angle during penetration. It could lead to better friction or stimulation during the act. The key is being flexible and open to experimenting.

[amravat123]

From my experience, the combination of clitoral orgasm followed by penetration is actually very common. For many women, clitoral stimulation is the easiest way to reach orgasm, and then penetration adds another layer of sensation. Your wife’s response to wanting penetration right after orgasm makes sense, as the sensation of climax tends to make everything feel more intense. You’re on the right track with starting with hand stimulation—it’s personal and intimate, and it’s a great way to make sure she’s primed for the next step.

To make it even better, maybe try to be more in tune with how her body responds during the transition. Some women may find that after an orgasm, their sensitivity is heightened, so you could slow down a little when moving to penetration. For others, they might want you to go a bit faster. I’ve found that talking in the moment can really help. Some women like a little dirty talk or some encouragement, so paying attention to those cues can make a huge difference.

You could also try using different positions to change the angle during penetration. This can enhance the pleasure for both of you, especially if you're transitioning right after orgasm. Some positions allow for more direct stimulation of the clitoris during penetration, so it’s something worth experimenting with.

Lastly, making sure she’s fully relaxed and comfortable after her orgasm can help. Sometimes, a quick cuddle or a soft touch after sex can prolong that sense of pleasure and make the experience even more intimate. It’s all about making her feel cared for and cherished in the moment.