How does it feel? Assessing the sensations associated with orgasm (or not)...

[hilululu]

Hey all,

I am a Canadian doctoral student conducting research in the field of sexual medicine and I am looking for participants to take part in a short research project on orgasm. We have put together a questionnaire assessing the physiological and bodily sensations of orgasm and we need women who CURRENTLY have orgasm difficulties (or no orgasm at all) to fill it out. Data collected is strictly confidential and anonymous.

If you are interested in the project, you can access the secure survey platform with the following link: Tell Us How it Feels: Validation of the Bodily Sensations of Orgasm Questionnaire

If you have any questions, I can be reached at bsostudy1@gmail.com.
Thanks in advance for your help with our research!
Cheers,

[amravat123]

Hey there, I find this topic fascinating, especially from a scientific perspective. As someone who's traveled a lot and met a range of women, I've noticed that the topic of orgasm is often brushed aside in casual conversations, but it's so important to really understand how it feels for everyone involved. My own experience with orgasms has been varied—sometimes it's a quick peak and other times it's more drawn-out, with deeper physical sensations.

I think the mental and emotional states play a huge role in how intense an orgasm is. When you're truly connected to someone or in the right headspace, it can feel like your whole body is involved in the experience. But if you're distracted or not fully into the moment, it can feel like something's missing. I’ve heard women describe it as something more complex than just a physical sensation, and I can totally see that.

I’m really curious about the research on orgasm difficulties though. From what I've seen in some of my experiences, it seems like stress, emotional connection, or even just being unfamiliar with one's body can influence how it all goes down. It'd be great to see more studies exploring this, especially since so many people still feel awkward discussing their own difficulties or pleasure.

Anyone else notice how your connection with the person you're with really changes the sensations you feel? It’s something I’ve observed, but I’m curious if the research confirms that.

[antonio123]

This is a really interesting topic! I’ve always wondered about how different people experience orgasm, especially with all the variety in the way it’s portrayed in media versus real life. Personally, I’ve found that the sensation is definitely not always the same. There are moments where it feels like everything clicks, and other times, it’s more of a release with less intensity.

As a guy who has traveled to different countries, I’ve met women from different cultural backgrounds, and it’s surprising how different their approach to sex can be. I’ve found that some women are open about their difficulties in achieving orgasm, while others seem to hide it or simply don’t talk about it. I think there’s a lot of stigma around discussing orgasm struggles, and that definitely impacts how people experience it. The mental block or anxiety can sometimes diminish the physical sensations of orgasm, and that’s something I believe is often overlooked.

I’m very interested in the survey and study you’re working on. It’s amazing that you’re focusing on the physiological and emotional aspects because I think we often focus too much on just the physical aspect. Emotional intimacy, mental comfort, and even external factors like environment or timing all seem to change the experience.

Would love to see more research on this and hear others' experiences too. It's important to normalize talking about these kinds of topics without shame.

[deigo123]

I’ve had some good and bad experiences when it comes to orgasm. It’s wild how one moment, everything can feel super intense, and the next, it’s like you can’t even get there. I don’t think people talk enough about the physical sensations either—it’s not just about the peak; it’s everything leading up to it. I notice that the build-up, the anticipation, actually plays a huge role in how good it feels.

What I’ve also learned is how crucial mental health and emotional connection are. In situations where I'm feeling more comfortable and connected to the woman I'm with, the orgasm is more intense and prolonged. But in cases where there’s stress or emotional detachment, it can feel rushed or like something’s missing. It makes me wonder how much of it is psychological versus purely physical.

What I find interesting is that some of the women I’ve been with have said they’ve never experienced orgasm at all, or it’s extremely difficult for them. I’ve always wondered about the reasons behind that. I feel like it’s important for us to not only discuss how it feels for us but also understand the factors at play for others. Could it be that there's a physiological reason, or is it more about the mental aspect of intimacy?

I'd be curious to hear from anyone who’s experienced orgasm difficulties or who has a different take on how they feel during sex. It’s a complex topic, and I think we’re just starting to scratch the surface in terms of understanding it.

[piciossa]

As someone who's always been very aware of the physical aspects of intimacy, I’ve noticed that the sensations related to orgasm can vary not just from person to person, but from experience to experience. Sometimes, it feels like an intense burst of energy that floods your body, and other times, it can feel more subtle but still satisfying. The difference often comes down to the emotional connection and how present you are in the moment.

I’ve also had experiences where orgasm hasn’t even been the focus—just being in sync with someone, being present, and enjoying each other’s company was enough. It's made me realize that orgasm isn’t the only measure of a good sexual experience, though it’s still a huge part of it. When I’m relaxed and emotionally connected, it feels different. It’s like the intensity is stronger, and it lasts longer.

On the flip side, I’ve encountered people who have told me they struggle with reaching orgasm, and that can be frustrating for both people involved. I think it’s so important to normalize these conversations. In my opinion, the mind plays a massive role in orgasmic experiences. Anxiety or pressure can often block it from happening, even if the physical aspect is all there. There’s still so much we don’t understand about how the brain and body work together during sex.

I’d be really interested in hearing from people who have either struggled with orgasms or have figured out ways to improve their experience. How do you overcome mental barriers? How do you stay connected to your body?

[hanar123]

I’m glad to see a post like this—orgasm is a topic that really needs more attention. I’ve noticed that how I experience orgasm changes depending on a lot of things—who I’m with, where we are, how much time we have, and even how I’m feeling that day. Sometimes it’s an overwhelming, full-body sensation, and other times, it’s more of a quick burst that feels good, but it’s not life-changing.

From my experience, a lot of it comes down to how comfortable I am with the person and how much effort we both put into creating a connection. If there’s no emotional connection or if I’m distracted, it’s harder to let go, and that affects how intense the orgasm feels. That’s not something people often talk about, but I think it’s one of the most important factors. It’s not just the physical, but also the mental space you’re in.

I’ve heard from a few women who have mentioned difficulties in achieving orgasm, and it’s always made me wonder how common this is. Some of them have said it’s a mix of stress, not feeling comfortable, or not knowing what they need. I think there’s so much more to explore here, and I’m glad there are researchers like you diving into it.

Anyone else feel like the connection you have with your partner really changes the sensation of orgasm? I’d love to hear more from people who’ve had different experiences.