Things girls say that shuts down a guys orgasm

[Babatunde]

I was thinking of a few and wanted to share some of them.
1 Portland. She would say NNGGGHHH nnggghhh uuunnnggggg nngggghh Or something like that when we really started getting into it. I would cum just to get it over.
2 Jackson Hole She would start screaming " Give me your baby, go deep, yea give me your baby" We were just dating!!!
3 Sacramento. This one I really liked, she would scream AAAAAAARRRREEEEEBBBBBAAAAA over and over again but the neighbors two blocks away could hear her. I would have put a pillow over her face but she liked being on top. I guess this one goes in a different thread but wanted to share.

[amravat123]

Man, I’ve had similar experiences. One girl I was seeing thought it was sexy to narrate what I was doing in this weird, dramatic voice. Like, she’d say, “Oh, you’re moving left now! Oh, right there, you’re going deeper!” It was like she was a sports commentator or something. I don’t know if she was trying to turn me on or what, but it was like a switch flipped in my brain—instant mood killer.

I think part of the issue is that people sometimes just say whatever comes to mind without considering how the other person might feel. Sure, everyone has their own style, but there’s a line between quirky and outright cringe. In my case, I had to fake a finish just to escape the situation.

What’s interesting, though, is that some guys actually enjoy certain wild or strange things being said in the moment. I guess it comes down to chemistry. If it’s the right person, even the odd stuff might work. But when it’s off, it’s really, really off.

Honestly, I think communication beforehand would help avoid a lot of these awkward moments. Maybe if we’re more open about what works and what doesn’t, we’d all enjoy ourselves more without accidentally killing the vibe.

[piciossa]

This reminds me of a girl I met in Medellín. She’d shout, “Dame más, dame más!” like we were in some kind of telenovela. At first, I thought it was hot because of the energy she brought, but it quickly turned into a performance for her. It didn’t feel authentic, and I couldn’t focus on staying in the moment.

I think cultural differences sometimes play into this, too. Some phrases or expressions that might be normal in one culture can come across as strange or excessive to someone else. For her, it might’ve been normal, but for me, it was like being thrown into a soap opera I didn’t sign up for.

What I’ve learned is that some people think being loud or over-the-top is a way to show passion. It’s not always bad, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. Sometimes subtlety and natural reactions feel way more genuine and attractive.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? I’m curious if it’s just me or if this is a common thing when dating internationally.

[antonio123]

Oh, man. The “baby” comments during the act? I’ve been there, and it’s brutal. One girl kept saying, “Do you want to make a baby with me?” over and over. We were literally just having fun; no strings attached. It totally freaked me out. Like, what if she actually meant it? My mind was racing, and suddenly, I wasn’t into it anymore.

I think what makes it worse is the pressure it creates. Even if she’s joking, the idea of babies is such a mood-killer because it’s a serious topic, not something you want to think about in a moment that’s supposed to be carefree and fun.

I’ve found that if someone says something that throws me off like that, it’s hard to recover. It’s like the whole vibe is tainted, and I’m just waiting for the encounter to end. Maybe it’s because I’m a planner, and the idea of unexpected consequences doesn’t sit well with me.

What about you guys? Are there any specific phrases or words that make you feel the same? I’m trying to figure out if I’m too picky or if this is a universal guy thing.

[deigo123]

I had an experience with someone who thought screaming at the top of her lungs was sexy. Like, I’m all for enthusiasm, but this was next-level. She’d scream so loud, I was genuinely worried the neighbors would call the cops. And it wasn’t just volume; it was what she was screaming. Stuff like, “YES, DESTROY ME!” I couldn’t help but feel embarrassed, even though it was just the two of us.

It got so bad that I started holding back because I didn’t want her to go full banshee mode. The weirdest part? She wasn’t even that into it; it felt like she was acting for some imaginary audience. I don’t know if she watched too many adult films or what, but it was definitely off-putting.

Enthusiasm is great, but there’s a fine line between being passionate and being cartoonish. When it starts feeling fake, it’s hard to stay connected. For me, it’s about being in sync with the other person—not putting on some kind of performance.

Have any of you had to deal with something similar? How do you handle it without making the other person feel self-conscious?

[hanar123]

Reading about the “nngghhh” noises made me laugh because I’ve been there! One girl I was seeing would make these guttural growling sounds that were so unexpected, I almost started laughing mid-act. It wasn’t like she was out of control or overwhelmed; it sounded like she was trying to channel a wild animal or something. Totally threw me off.

I didn’t know how to react. Do I ask her to stop? Do I pretend it’s sexy? It’s such a delicate situation because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but at the same time, you’re dying inside. I tried to tune it out and focus, but it wasn’t easy.

Looking back, I think it’s a combination of nerves and trying too hard. Some people feel like they need to make noise to show they’re enjoying it, but if it’s not natural, it’s a massive turn-off. A simple moan or even just silence can sometimes be way hotter than over-the-top theatrics.

Have any of you ever had to have “the talk” with someone about this? I’ve never been brave enough to bring it up, but maybe that’s the only way to fix it.