How to make my fiancé last a bit longer!

[jonny09256]

Okay , so I’m a girl who likes rough sex that lasts a while. We start with the basics like fingering and sucking his cock but my fiancé gets all excited with his self. I probably don’t help with the dirty talk, spanking and lip blighting and Don’t get me wrong he can fuck me hard but after a few minutes he can’t hold on much longer. Any tips on what I can do to make it go on longer. I’ve tried slow but he just has to go for it and ends up coming just as I’m starting to climax and it’s frustrating sometimes

[deigo123]

Hey, I totally understand what you're going through! It sounds like your fiancé gets a little too excited too quickly, which is super common, especially if there's a lot of intensity during sex. One thing that might help is practicing the "stop and start" technique. It sounds like he’s rushing toward the finish line, so maybe you could guide him to slow down by stopping and starting a few times. This can help him control his excitement. Also, try different positions—some positions give him more control, like missionary or spooning, rather than positions that make him feel too stimulated, like doggy style.

I’d also recommend looking into kegels for him—guys can do kegels too! It’s great for strengthening pelvic muscles, and with practice, he may last longer. You can try to gently encourage him to do them when you’re hanging out or during foreplay. It’s a low-key way to help without making it feel too clinical.

Another idea is to focus on his foreplay experience more. Instead of diving straight into sex, spend more time on foreplay. You mentioned you do a lot of dirty talk and spanking, which is awesome! Maybe you could mix it up and give him more time to calm down before going all in. This way, he might be able to last longer when the main event happens.

Lastly, communication is key. Be honest with him about how you feel during the act. Sometimes a partner doesn’t realize that things are happening too fast. He probably wants to satisfy you just as much, so just let him know in a positive and encouraging way!

[amravat123]

It’s definitely a tricky situation, but don’t be discouraged—there are things you can do to help. One tip I’ve heard a lot of guys swear by is using desensitizing sprays or condoms. These products contain mild numbing agents that can help him last a bit longer. It doesn’t mean he won’t feel anything, but it can take the edge off and make the experience last longer. You could also try focusing more on teasing him during foreplay, building that anticipation. The longer you delay the main act, the more in control he might feel.

Another thing to consider is his mental state. If he’s overly focused on making you climax, he might be stressing himself out. Sometimes letting go of that pressure and focusing on enjoying the moment can really change things. Why not try a more relaxed, "slow and steady" approach, where the goal isn’t to finish quickly but rather to enjoy the build-up and sensations?

You could also try asking him to experiment with edging—stopping right before he’s about to finish, waiting a few moments, and then going again. It might feel a little awkward at first, but over time, he can develop more control. You could work on this together, making it part of your routine, so it feels less like a fix and more like a fun challenge.

Lastly, I think patience is key here. Guys get embarrassed by this stuff, but a relaxed, understanding environment can make all the difference. So try to keep things lighthearted and playful, and hopefully, over time, he’ll learn to last longer!

[antonio123]

I totally feel you. This is something that a lot of guys struggle with too. First thing, it’s really important not to make him feel bad about it. A lot of guys are very sensitive when it comes to performance anxiety. One way to address it is by shifting the focus away from him and making it about both of you. If he knows he’s pleasing you, that can take some of the pressure off, and he’ll focus less on his own performance.

Another tip is practicing a little "role reversal" where you take the lead more often. When you’re in charge, you can control the pace, and if he’s getting too excited, you can slow things down. It can give him a break and help him regain some control over his body.

The technique of edging might also help him. A lot of guys report that this helps them learn how to delay orgasm. You could make it fun by turning it into a bit of a game or challenge. Try mixing things up with foreplay too—he might be rushing toward penetration, so engaging in a lot more oral or manual stimulation before sex can help both of you enjoy a longer experience.

Finally, there are also some mental tricks like focusing on something completely unrelated during sex. If he gets lost in his head and distracts himself, it might give him the space to last a little longer. It’s a weird one, but it works for some!

[piciossa]

Okay, this is a bit of an embarrassing topic, but I get it! When a guy gets too excited, it can lead to some awkward moments. One thing that helped me was focusing on relaxation. When you’re both relaxed, you have more control. It sounds like your fiancé might be getting a bit too worked up too quickly. Have you tried a "slow down" approach before you go into full-on action? Maybe just kissing and caressing for a while before jumping into things?

Another thing that helped me and my partner was setting a mood with less focus on sex and more on bonding. Sometimes, not having the pressure to "perform" can really help. Focus on enjoying each other’s company, and don’t feel rushed. The anticipation can be just as exciting as the main event!

If he’s open to it, you could also try different forms of contraception, like thicker condoms, to reduce the sensitivity. That can help him last longer without too much effort on his part. Also, a bit of communication goes a long way. Just make sure to talk openly about what feels good for both of you and what isn’t working.

I’ve also found that taking turns and not always expecting the same rhythm can help balance things out. If you both focus on each other’s pleasure, you’ll both end up satisfied!

[hanar123]

It sounds like you’re dealing with a combination of excitement and performance anxiety. One of the best ways to fix this is by helping him get comfortable with the idea of taking his time. I recommend practicing tantric sex techniques, which focus a lot on breath control and building the sexual energy slowly. These techniques can teach him how to control his arousal, prolonging the experience.

Also, try working on his mental focus. Some guys do well with guided meditation or even just breathing exercises before sex. If his focus is too much on the end result, it can cause him to finish too early. A simple breathing technique—like deep inhales and slow exhales—can help him stay in control and keep his mind in the moment.

Additionally, a lot of men benefit from a bit of "warm-up." Focus on sensual touch, light kissing, and teasing. This can help reduce that initial rush and make the entire experience feel more balanced. The more time you both spend on foreplay, the more likely he is to last longer.

Lastly, be patient and keep communication open. It’s important to work through this as a team, without any guilt or shame attached to it. Just keep the vibe fun, and things will get better over time!