I get myself too excited and cum too quick!

[jonny09256]

Hey guys/gals I have a problem. I got head for the second time and I thought things would be different then the first. NOT! The first time it happened I was so excited from her rubbing on my dick that about after 20 seconds after she put it in her mouth I had an uncontrolable release. The same thing happened again. The funny thing is when i masturbate the way i make myself cum is by picturing w/e i'm watching actually happening. Once i lock on to that "oh my god this is what it would feel like" I bust in about 20 seconds too. Its only when I think of something else i can hold. Is this just the way it is? This time I got head it was just the same thing as when i masturbate, i realized that it was actually happening and I lost all control. Any help? Tips?

Thanks again

[hanar123]

Hey man, I totally feel where you're coming from. It’s like your brain just gets overwhelmed with excitement when you’re actually in the moment, and it’s hard to control that. The first time it happens, it can feel pretty frustrating, but trust me, it’s more common than you think. I’ve had similar experiences where I couldn’t last long during oral because I was so caught up in the feeling. One thing I tried was focusing on her pleasure more—being mindful of what she's doing and how she’s enjoying it. It kind of helped me shift my focus away from just my own excitement.

Another thing that’s helped me is practicing a bit of control during solo sessions. When I’m about to finish, I try to take a mental step back, kind of imagine a scenario that cools my excitement. It doesn’t always work, but it helps me get a little more in control. I’ve also heard of the "start-stop" technique where you pull back and breathe for a few moments to regain control before going back at it. It sounds simple, but it’s effective if you work on it over time.

I wouldn’t stress too much about it, though. It’s a part of learning how to balance excitement and control in new experiences. I think it just takes practice, and once you get more familiar with your reactions, you’ll start to last longer. Everyone has their rhythm, and sometimes it’s just about getting comfortable with it.

Good luck, and don’t let it hold you back from enjoying the experience. You’ll get there!

[amravat123]

Man, I’ve been in that exact situation before. When you’re in the heat of the moment, it can be hard to stay grounded. It’s like your mind goes into overdrive, and your body just reacts way too quickly. One thing I realized is that being mindful of your breathing can make a huge difference. If you slow down and take deeper breaths, it can help control your arousal levels. Try to focus on the sensations without rushing the experience.

Another thing I’ve tried is talking to her about it—like, letting her know that you’re trying to last longer. If she’s into it, she might help you control the pace by switching things up or taking it slow, which is great for both of you. Sometimes, the pressure to “perform” can make things worse, but being open and honest can really take some of that tension off.

Also, one method that works for me is to not go into situations with expectations. If you’re already thinking “I’m going to last longer this time,” the pressure builds up, and you’re more likely to fail. Just focus on the experience and see where it takes you.

It’s all about trial and error, man. You’ll figure it out as you go, so don’t let a few quick sessions get you discouraged.

[deigo123]

Hey, man, I’ve been there for sure. The excitement of being with someone new can totally overwhelm you, and it's hard to keep it together when you're just too excited. What I’ve found helps is trying to stay calm and remind myself to relax during the experience. Sometimes, when I can feel myself getting too close to the edge, I take a mental break—think about something completely different, like work or even something random. It breaks the cycle of pure excitement.

If I’m really struggling, I’ve found that doing kegels (pelvic floor exercises) can actually help in the long run. They strengthen the muscles you use to control ejaculation, so over time, you’ll have more control in the moment. It’s something you can practice while you’re just hanging out, and it pays off later.

Also, don’t forget that it’s okay to talk to her about it, especially if she’s someone you’re comfortable with. She might not even mind if things don’t go perfectly, and you both can find ways to enjoy the experience together. Communication is key, and sometimes she might even have advice that works for you.

This stuff gets better with time, so try not to let it stress you out too much. Just focus on enjoying the experience and learning more about your own body.

[piciossa]

Yo, I know exactly what you're going through. I’ve had this same issue in the past where I couldn’t last more than a minute or two during oral, and it was frustrating. The excitement factor is huge, but I also realized it’s about building mental stamina. It’s not just physical; it’s how you manage your excitement in the moment. One thing that really helped me was trying to control the pace from the beginning. I’d be mindful of what I was doing and keep it slow at first.

Also, something I’ve tried is focusing on the sensations in a way that doesn’t just involve pleasure. For example, I might focus on her body movements or the way the environment feels rather than just my own excitement. It helps distract from the overwhelming feeling and lets me last longer.

Another thing to consider is switching positions. If you’re giving head, maybe take breaks and change positions to give yourself a second to reset. This might make the whole experience more enjoyable for both of you, and it could help you control yourself better in the long run.

Trust me, this is something that improves with experience, so don’t be too hard on yourself. It’ll take time, but you’ll get better at it!

[antonio123]

Man, I’ve had this same problem before, especially when I was new to getting head. It’s a natural reaction, and you’re not alone in it. The first time it happens, you’re like, “What the heck just happened?” But honestly, it’s all part of the learning curve. What’s helped me is shifting my focus from "don’t finish" to "just enjoy the moment" without stressing about the outcome. The more relaxed you are, the easier it is to last longer.

I’ve also learned to recognize the signs when I’m about to finish, and I try to pause for a second. A lot of times, just taking a breath and slowing things down can make a huge difference. You can always ask her to slow down or switch up the technique a bit to give you a break, which also helps you stay in control.

Another tip I’ve found effective is edging—basically getting close to the edge of orgasm, then stopping before you actually finish. Doing this by yourself can help you last longer when you’re with someone else. It builds up your ability to delay the inevitable.

I think over time, you just need to build that mental muscle to stay in control. So, don’t stress too much about it—this stuff gets better as you get more comfortable in your experiences.