How can I stop squirting?!

[johnson13]

Over a year ago a long term FWB surprised me with a squirting orgasm, after 11 years of only clitoral orgasms. (He said he learned it online, and tried it on me, I had never squirted before in my life!) It was amazing. I was happy. We did it many times a week for months- He did this by manipulating the G spot. But He has been gone for almost a year and now I squirt during sex with everyone, even when I masturbate and even when I dont put anything in me, no g spot stimulation, no stimulation inside at all. Just a normal clitoral orgasm makes me squirt, a lot, Multiple time's (I dont like doing it only once, so I do it over and over) Well, IM TIRED of the mess. I DO NOT WANT to squirt every time. I would rather go back to just having a little bit of creamy cum come out, and thats it! I have tried and tried to STOP the squirting from happening, but I cant. - There ha to be a way. I do not like all this liquid. It smells when not washed up right away. I only date FWB and what if I dont want to squirt all over his bedroom or car or where ever we are (I like to be out and about for fun, NOT a slut, just with a FWB), as of now, the only way to keep it from happening is not to have an orgasm, which isnt fair and sometimes not possibe. - Im just over it. - Please help if you have any advice at all. Thank you.

[amravat123]

Hey there, I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s super frustrating when something that was fun at first becomes more of a hassle. From what you described, it seems like you’ve got a strong G-spot connection going, which is awesome but, yeah, the mess factor is real. There’s a couple of things you might want to try.

First, have you considered pelvic floor exercises? Strengthening your pelvic floor can help with control over your orgasms, including squirt orgasms. Kegel exercises could help you become more aware of the muscles involved and give you better control when you’re on the brink of climax. It might not stop the squirting completely, but it could at least help you hold back when you don’t want it.

Also, you could try different positions that don’t put as much pressure on the G-spot. For example, missionary or spooning might reduce the intensity of the stimulation down there, so you can focus more on clitoral stimulation. You could also try delaying orgasm a little bit by shifting focus between your clit and other areas of your body, kind of like a mental “pause” button to prevent the squirt moment from sneaking up on you.

Lastly, there’s the option of experimenting with different forms of lubrication or even wearing something like a towel or an absorbent liner during sex. It’s not a long-term fix, but if you’re in the heat of the moment, it could help keep things cleaner without ruining the vibe. Good luck with finding what works for you!

[hanar123]

Hey there, I’ve definitely been in the situation where the squirting got out of hand, so to speak. First off, it’s important to realize that it’s your body, and you’re in charge of how it reacts. If you’re tired of the mess, that’s perfectly valid! My first thought is to take a step back and think about what’s really causing the squirting. Is it all G-spot stimulation, or are there other things at play like mental stimulation or certain positions?

From what you’ve shared, it seems like the squirting became a default reaction to orgasms, even without direct G-spot stimulation. That’s pretty wild! Have you tried shifting the focus to different kinds of pleasure? For example, some people find that using toys or manual clitoral stimulation without any internal penetration can reduce the squirt effect. I’d also suggest exploring different orgasms, like vaginal contractions without pushing yourself toward the G-spot directly.

Also, consider that the more you stress over it, the more it may exacerbate it. Sometimes trying too hard to avoid something like squirting could actually increase the likelihood of it happening. It’s like the mind-body connection in action—so try to relax and focus on enjoying the moment without overthinking the mess!

[antonio123]

I hear you on this one. The mess is something that seems great in the moment, but when it happens consistently, it can feel like you’re just cleaning up after every time. If I were in your shoes, I’d focus on understanding your body a bit better. Sometimes when our bodies “learn” something new like squirting, it becomes a reflex, and then it's just part of the package.

That said, a good option to try would be to practice a bit of self-awareness before orgasm. When you feel like you’re getting close, try mentally switching gears or even clenching your pelvic floor muscles a little bit. If you engage your pelvic muscles right before climax, it might give you more control over the release. It might feel a little awkward at first, but with practice, you could regain some of that control.

Also, don’t forget that communication is key with FWBs. If you’re dating someone casually, let them know what’s up before things go too far. The more relaxed you are in the situation, the less pressure you’ll put on yourself to control it. Being upfront about not wanting a squirt moment might actually make you feel more comfortable and less tense about it.

[deigo123]

Man, that sounds tough. It seems like your body’s gotten used to a new way of orgasm, and that can be hard to control once it’s unlocked. I’ve been with women who’ve experienced something similar and the mess is real, but honestly, I think it comes down to what you want. You might not be able to control it fully, but there are definitely ways to manage it.

One thing I’d suggest is trying to really control your breathing during orgasm. Slower, deeper breaths could potentially help with controlling the intensity of the release. It's like telling your body to relax and focus less on that big release of fluid. You could also focus more on mental control, like telling yourself to hold back or distract yourself from going all the way, almost like you’re edging yourself.

Another thing I’d consider is timing. If you’re in the middle of a hookup and don’t want the mess, you could tell your FWB ahead of time that you're trying to limit the squirting for that session. Communication can go a long way in making it less stressful. That way, you’re not caught off guard and can focus on other ways to pleasure yourself without worrying about the aftermath.

[piciossa]

Yeah, the whole squirting thing can get out of hand fast, especially when it starts happening with every orgasm. But I feel like you might be focusing too much on trying to stop it altogether. It sounds like you’ve been conditioned to feel like the squirting is this big, uncontrollable thing when really it’s just a part of how your body’s reacting to pleasure now. It’s definitely not the end of the world, but I can see how it could feel like it’s controlling you rather than the other way around.

One thing you can try is going for more precise clitoral stimulation and avoiding deeper penetration. By focusing on external pleasure, you might be able to avoid the G-spot and its reflexive squirt response. But also—don’t rule out the possibility that you’ve just unlocked a new level of pleasure. Maybe instead of fighting it, embrace it and find ways to make it less stressful. Like, do you really need to squirt every time? Maybe once you accept that it's okay to let go and let things flow, it’ll happen less frequently.

Also, a weird hack I’ve used with some partners is shifting positions and seeing if that makes a difference. Sometimes switching to positions that give less direct access to the G-spot (like reverse cowgirl or spooning) can make it easier to keep things more controlled. The more relaxed you are about it, the less likely it will become an issue.