The Illusion of Love in the Nightlife: Navigating Emotions and Reality

[aiden15632]

When you’re out enjoying the vibrant nightlife, visiting go-go bars and meeting numerous charming girls, it’s all fun and games. But then, something unusual happens: you meet a girl who genuinely makes your heart race. She’s your dream girl, stunning and captivating, and you can’t stop thinking about her.
Despite only knowing her as a bar girl and struggling with language barriers, she tells you she loves you. It’s exhilarating and confusing, and you’re left wondering about the authenticity of these feelings. You’re caught in a whirlwind of emotions, but deep down, you’re unsure if this affection is genuine or part of the game.
As someone who’s experienced many relationships—good, bad, high-so, and everything in between—I’ve developed my own approach to handle these situations. I treat my nightlife as a separate reality, almost like a virtual world where I can indulge in fantasies and play the role of a player. I understand that these interactions are not real life. When the night ends, I return to my real life, where I focus on work and genuine relationships, avoiding the mix of my night persona with my day-to-day existence.
Have others faced similar situations? How do you manage these blurred lines between fantasy and reality? Your experiences and strategies for navigating these emotional encounters would be insightful.



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[daniel74]

When I first started mongering, I considered these girls just like dirty hookers that I just paid to fulfill a fantasy and would never consider them anything more. But as I continued, I realized that I'm a dirty monger and there is no sense in pretending that I'm any better than them. So I don't have a double life or any sort of a rules.... If don't expect to meet my Dream girl in a bar, but If I did, I'd just go for it it and I wouldn't automatically assuming I'm living in virtual reality or something and I've got to rush back to the real world, where if any girl knew I was out mongering wouldn't want anything to do with me.





If you want to know how real or fake it is, just remove the money from the equation

[hilululu]

Usually I found the girls try to talk as little as possible. This is a smart thing to do on their part because it contributes to what you are describing. I even experience that they pretend to not know much English to avoid saying too much. When they do this they add a lot of mystery. They are acting as if they genuinely like you. Yet you do not have a complete statement of affairs for this relationship. So you go home and think about it. The mystery is exciting. The hopes of it being real romance are high. So you pay again! LOL



When they are doing this they are providing a good service.

[johnson13]

I started this thing about 5 trips ago. The shit I have put myself through has been good & bad and it's all worth it.
My experiences in red light world are filled with some rookie mistakes. ​It'd been years since I dated or partied.
As such after every holiday I went home thinking about a bar girl. Romantic delusions. And for a while there's always been the memory of a girl fucking with me in the sweet hereafter.



Over time and through experience I've learnt how to keep things separated. Like with your night time rules.
I love the partying and the pussy. BKK and Pattaya make me feel like a fucking rockstar. And yet I will pour myself into the act whenever I'm with someone I like.
A little repetition is okay. But I balance that out with new experiences otherwise I could be prone to making the same mistakes with different people.



Getting back to the topic that the OP posted, I don't hold onto the idea of being with a BG in the traditional sense, plus I don't think I want to be anyone's BF.
As I said having a regular girl as a go to is a great way to break things up. But we're not together. Nah it's business. But the familiarity is nice. Plus she's older than normal spinners and I am a good lamb and she knows this so it's easy.

[shant234]

So far mongering hasn't made me jaded or stopped my capacity to care for someone. Instead I am more confident to get what I want and then am better able to keep things separated afterwards, without getting too hung up. And that has been the greatest lesson of all, how to fuck and then let go.


I have gained a hellva lot of confidence from partying with BG's, so much so it's allowed me to go out on dates and do alright. Now if I could just remember not to ask the girl how much the barfine is I think I'll be okay.