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[aiden15632]

In not sure if I should post it here, I'm not even sure if I should be looking for advices on this forum too. But I'm in shock, and any thoughts may help :S Thanks in advance for all that patiently read this and share your thought.



A thermae girl just message me today with a confirm pregnancy certificate picture, inform me that she's pregnant.



I met her last year on Nov. 25 for a ST, I asked her for her line so I know the exact date. I had a good time with her, she's pretty fluent in English, so I asked for her line, but never contact her nor look for her again since. I had condom on during the whole time, it was a Okamoto 003 bought in Thailand, but when I finished the deed we found out that the condom broke. I gave her 1k extra for her to buy after pill, and reminded her to take pill after on line. To me that should've be the end of the story, and was the case to me until today.



She told me the baby is 15 weeks old, but when I count the weeks, I only met her for 13 weeks. I have no experience for this so I can't tell if this proves anything. But she told me on line that if I want to check DNA I can do so, makes me feels like she's serious about this.



Now, according to her, she doesn't want the baby now because she's studying, but will have the baby anyway because it's her baby. To me abortion is a better choice. It is definitely morally wrong, but I'm in no condition or plan to have this child. However, I do believe I should respect her choice, despite it is against my will. Rule out the chance she's lying, I find her with such courage and makes me feel that I should support her in some way. And after all, it is my baby too as he carries me genes.



Ok, so when it comes to this point, I don't know what I should do.



Do I just leave her alone? I did my part after the accident, she could have took the pill but still got pregnant (that's what she says), or she could have been lazy and didn't bother. Either way, I find myself not responsible for this, but it's just feels so wrong to make this choice.



I support her for the baby. Put aside that having the baby is against my will, I'm not wealthy at all, and this is not something that I can share with my family. So the best I could do is to use my mongering budget to support her and the baby. Now this is fine for me, really it is, but to what point? I'm fully willing to support her til the baby is born, but is that enough? So I let a twenty-ish mother who haven't finish university to raise the child alone after? Sounds so wrong.



But then otherwise I need to support her and the child til what? When the child gets 18? That sounds wrong to me too. That's like a 20 years plan that I didn't plan for! Also, for my own good, I should just not monger for the next 20 years - my favorite hobby - and just work hard to support something that I can't feel I'm responsible for?



I don't know, all the choices sounds so wrong to me. I did wear condom to avoid drama like this!



I am going to meet the girl and go to a hospital (Samitivej Thonburi Hospital) for check up tomorrow, anyone know if a hospital can fake a paternity test? Also, what's the cost is like?



Any advice will help greatly!

[shant234]

I just figured a DNA paternity test is going to cost more than 10k baht..



If the test turns out that I'm not the father, then I'll be paying 10k for nothing.. gosh this makes me crazy!



Anyone with experience, when she said the baby is 15 weeks old, is it accurate? or there's margin of error? Because counting the days I met her 13 weeks (or at best 14 weeks) ago, if the child is 15 weeks old, he can't be mine?



I'm going to Samitivej Thonburi hospital with her for antenatal tomorrow, will hospital tell me the age of the baby?



This is frustrating...

[daniel74]

Mr Google says..

The development of pregnancy is counted from the first day of the woman's last normal menstrual period (LMP), even though the development of the fetus does not begin until conception, which is about two weeks later. ... Counting from the LMP, most women are pregnant an average of 280 days.”



So from that 15 weeks could be 13 weeks which falls within the time frame you state.

*note I’m typing this at 5am and I need sleep so I might be incorrect.



By the way your name is not Adam is it?







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[hilululu]

My knowledge was that a paternity test can be done only in the 14-20th week window through amniocentesis, but there is a newer noninvasive testing method available which can determine paternity as early as 8th week with >99% accuracy. Make sure you are availing this one when you go for testing.



"Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity (NIPP): A non-invasive prenatal paternity test is the most accurate non-invasive way to establish paternity before the baby is born. The process is state-of-the-art, combining the latest technology and proprietary methods of preserving and analyzing the baby’s DNA found naturally in the mother’s bloodstream. This test requires only a simple blood collection from the mother and alleged father and can be performed any time after the 8th week of pregnancy. The test is 99.9% accurate."

You may need to consider the prevailing laws in Thailand on this matter if the test confirms that you are the father. Consider going to the best hospital in Bangkok for obvious reasons even if that comes out costlier.

[johnson13]

You will not struggle for the rest of your life with an abortion?



So if abortion is ok, then in my opinion, leave her alone is ok...



It is up to her...



Just tell that she is alone and you will not pay, because it is not your Baby.. .. leave her alone...