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I cant beat off anymore... - jonny09256 - 03-28-2025
Ok, so here is the story. I have a steady girlfriend for the first time in my life—well, not really, but the others were kinda frigid. We have been going out for about two months, and omg, she is so fucking hot. I swear she is the hottest girl in my grade. After the first night we made out, I have not beat off since. And this is coming from a guy who used to beat off like a crazy mofo. I never feel like jerking it anymore. I tried once, and it didn’t even work!!!
This is completely new to me because, before dating her, masturbation was a huge part of my daily routine. It was something I did without even thinking about it, just a natural habit. But now, it’s like my brain has rewired itself, and I have zero interest in it. I’m wondering if this is some kind of mental shift caused by finally having a real romantic connection. Maybe my body just knows that there's now an actual chance of physical intimacy, and it’s adjusting accordingly.
Another thought that crosses my mind is whether this is some kind of subconscious strategy. Maybe my brain is suppressing the urge to masturbate so that I stay extra horny and build up the confidence to take things further with her. It’s almost like my body is saving all that sexual energy for when I’m actually with her. Could it be a natural way of pushing me toward real intimacy instead of settling for self-satisfaction?
Or maybe there's a physical reason behind it. Some people say that when you're really attracted to someone, your body starts producing different hormones that can change your sex drive. Perhaps my testosterone levels are shifting in a way that’s making my arousal more focused on real interactions rather than solo experiences. It could also be psychological—knowing that I have a chance to be with someone is making regular masturbation seem less appealing.
Then again, there’s also the idea that my body is just storing everything up for a massive load when the time finally comes. Maybe it's not that I don’t want to do it—maybe my system is just holding back so that when I finally do release, it’s going to be something crazy. I’ve heard of guys saying that when they stop masturbating for a while, their orgasms become way more intense. Could that be what’s happening here?
I honestly don’t know what’s going on, but it’s a weird experience. Has anyone else ever gone through something like this? Is this just a phase, or does it mean something deeper about my attraction to her? Any thoughts would be appreciated because this whole situation has me both confused and intrigued.
RE: I cant beat off anymore... - amravat123 - 03-31-2025
Man, I totally get where you’re coming from. When I got into my first serious relationship, the same thing happened to me. It was like my body just shut off the need for solo time. I used to think about jerking it every day, and suddenly, it just didn’t cross my mind. I think when you’re finally getting real intimacy, your brain shifts gears. It’s like your body is telling you, “Hey, we got the real thing now—why waste energy on something else?”
Another thing to consider is that your brain is in “chase mode.” You’re still in the early stages of the relationship, and everything feels new and exciting. Your body is prioritizing that connection and keeping you on edge so you stay fully engaged. It’s nature’s way of making sure you’re putting all your effort into the girl and not getting too comfortable with yourself.
That said, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. It’s not like you lost your ability; it’s more of a redirection of your sex drive. If anything, it could actually be a good thing because it means your desire is being funneled into real experiences instead of just habit. Plus, once you guys start getting more physical, you might find that it all balances out again.
But here’s the kicker—if you ever do get the urge again, I bet it’s going to be insane. I remember when I finally did it after a long break, and dude, it was like a cannon going off. The build-up makes everything way more intense. So, enjoy the ride, man. You might be in for some crazy experiences ahead.
RE: I cant beat off anymore... - hanar123 - 03-31-2025
This is actually a pretty common phenomenon. Your brain has been trained for years to associate pleasure with solo release, but now, it’s rewiring itself to connect pleasure with an actual person. It’s a shift in how your body manages arousal, and it makes total sense. You don’t need to stimulate yourself artificially because your brain now knows there’s a real source of satisfaction available.
It could also be a hormonal thing. When you’re single and constantly jerking off, your dopamine levels rise and fall in a specific pattern. But now that you’re emotionally and physically connected to someone, your dopamine and testosterone levels might be adjusting in a way that makes self-pleasure less necessary. This is why some guys notice a difference in their sex drive when they enter a serious relationship.
Another possibility is that your subconscious mind is keeping you in a heightened state of arousal. It’s like your body wants to maintain that sexual tension so that when the moment finally comes with her, you’ll be more driven to take action. This is one of the reasons some guys practice “NoFap”—they claim it makes them more confident and assertive in real-life sexual situations.
At the end of the day, I wouldn’t worry about it. If you ever do feel like jerking off again, you will. If not, it just means your brain is prioritizing something better. Enjoy the ride, and don’t overthink it!
RE: I cant beat off anymore... - deigo123 - 03-31-2025
Bro, I went through the exact same thing when I got into my first real relationship. I used to think about beating off constantly, but once I had a girl who was actually into me, the urge just disappeared. I was so confused at first, but after doing some research, I realized that this is a totally normal shift. Your brain is rewiring itself to prioritize actual intimacy over solo release.
One thing that really stood out to me was the idea of “sexual transmutation.” It’s a concept where your body naturally redirects sexual energy into other aspects of your life—like attraction, confidence, and even motivation. Instead of wasting that energy on jerking off, your body is storing it for something more productive—like connecting with your girl on a deeper level.
Also, don’t underestimate the mental aspect. When you’re used to self-pleasure as a routine, it becomes a habit. But when you break that habit, even unintentionally, your brain has to adapt. Right now, it’s doing that in a way that’s actually benefiting you. You’re more focused on real attraction, and your body is keeping that desire alive for when you need it most.
My advice? Just go with it. If you’re happy and still feeling attraction toward your girl, there’s no problem here. If anything, it’s proof that you’re really into her. And when things do get more physical, trust me, it’ll be worth the wait.
RE: I cant beat off anymore... - antonio123 - 03-31-2025
It sounds like your body is just adjusting to a new reality. When you’re used to being single and jerking off regularly, your sex drive works one way. But when you start dating someone seriously, it shifts. It’s almost like your libido is holding back because it knows that real sex is a possibility now. Instead of taking the easy route with masturbation, your body is waiting for something better.
Another interesting factor here is how attraction plays into this. You said your girlfriend is super hot, which means your brain is probably keeping your arousal on standby, ready for the real deal. There’s also the element of excitement—when you’re in a new relationship, your body naturally enters a different hormonal state. Some guys even experience a drop in the urge to masturbate because their sex drive is focused elsewhere.
This can also be a psychological thing. If you feel like you’ve “leveled up” by getting a girlfriend, your subconscious might see jerking off as something you don’t need anymore. Some men stop masturbating because they feel like it’s beneath them once they start having real experiences. It’s not something you’re doing on purpose—it’s just a natural mindset shift.
But trust me, if you ever get the urge again, you’ll know. And when you do, it’ll probably be ten times more intense than before. So don’t stress about it—your body is just adapting to a new phase of your life.
RE: I cant beat off anymore... - piciossa - 03-31-2025
Not jerking off anymore might not just be about your girlfriend—it could be a sign that your whole perspective on sex is changing. You’re moving from a self-focused sexual experience to a shared one, and that’s a big shift. It’s like your body is naturally aligning itself with your new reality.
You also mentioned the possibility that your brain is saving up sexual energy for real intimacy, and I think you’re spot on. When you have a real partner, your body might instinctively know that it needs to hold onto that arousal for the right moment. This could be why some guys in relationships find that they last longer in bed or have stronger orgasms when they finally release.
One thing I’d suggest is paying attention to how this change affects other areas of your life. Do you feel more confident? More focused? A lot of guys who cut back on masturbation say they feel sharper, more in control, and even more motivated to chase their goals. You might be experiencing something similar without even realizing it.
At the end of the day, don’t overthink it. If you feel good, keep doing what you’re doing. If you start to feel frustrated or like something’s missing, you can always experiment and see what happens. But from what you’ve described, it sounds like your body is just naturally adapting to a new chapter in your life.