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can too much masturbation mess with your head? - hilululu - 03-28-2025
I'm a 22-year-old male, and I'm still a virgin. I've never had a girlfriend or done anything with a girl. But since this is a masturbation forum, maybe you guys can shed some light.
Someone once told me that there is this Chinese or Japanese belief that if you masturbate too much, you lose yourself or even your soul. I'm not sure what it is exactly, but if any of you can tell me about it, that would be cool. I've always been curious about cultural perspectives on this, and whether there's any truth behind such beliefs or if they’re just myths designed to discourage certain behaviors.
That being said, I do sometimes wonder if excessive masturbation can mess with your head. I used to be a much nicer person—someone who genuinely cared about others. But over the years, I feel like my attitude has changed. When I was younger, I was the nice guy who couldn't get a girl. Now, I catch myself using words like "bitch" all the time and not thinking too kindly about women in general. I don’t know if this shift in my mindset has anything to do with my habits, my experiences (or lack thereof), or just growing up and becoming more cynical.
At times, I feel like I have three different personalities when it comes to women. One part of me still wants a real relationship, someone to connect with emotionally and physically. Another part hates females, believing they are full of nonsense and that relationships are just a trap. And then there’s another part of me that only cares about sex, nothing else. It’s like a constant battle in my head between wanting love, feeling resentment, and just craving physical pleasure.
I honestly don’t know if this internal conflict is normal or if I’m just losing my mind. Maybe it's frustration from being alone for so long. Maybe it's from being exposed to certain ideas online or through social experiences. Or maybe it's just how my brain has developed over time. Either way, I sometimes feel like I don’t even know what I really want anymore.
Well, I probably sound insane at this point, but I just wanted to put this out there. If anyone has any thoughts, experiences, or advice, I'd really appreciate it. Does masturbation really affect the way we think and behave, or is it just a scapegoat for deeper personal struggles?
RE: can too much masturbation mess with your head? - deigo123 - 03-31-2025
I think what you’re describing is more common than you realize. A lot of guys go through phases where they question their own behavior and mindset. Masturbation itself probably isn’t the root cause of your frustration, but it could be amplifying certain emotions. If you’re already feeling isolated or bitter, constantly reinforcing those feelings with solitary habits can create a cycle where you drift further from what you actually want—real intimacy.
The thing is, your view of women seems to be shaped by both personal experiences and online influences. You mentioned that you used to be a nice guy who couldn’t get a girl. That could mean you expected kindness alone to be enough, and when that didn’t work out, resentment started creeping in. But attraction and relationships are way more complicated than just being nice. If you’re constantly consuming content that portrays women as manipulative or uninterested in guys like you, it’s easy to start believing that’s reality.
I don’t think you’re crazy for feeling conflicted. You’re just trying to make sense of things. But the more you let negativity take over, the harder it’ll be to actually connect with someone in a meaningful way. If you do want a relationship, it’s important to work on changing your perspective. Start by asking yourself what kind of energy you’re putting out into the world. If you’re carrying around bitterness, it’ll show, and that can push people away without you even realizing it.
Maybe take a step back from all of it for a while—masturbation, porn, and even online discussions about dating frustrations. Focus on yourself in a different way. Work on things that make you feel confident and fulfilled outside of sex or relationships. That shift in mindset could help you figure out what you really want without all the noise clouding your judgment.