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What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - Babatunde - 01-27-2025
What is it that really turns you on? Is it the way he kissed you, or the way he licked you? Is it the combination of many things, not just one? I really want to know what it is that truly pushes those buttons and brings someone to that next level of pleasure.
Personally, I don’t usually have too much trouble turning a woman on, but I’m on a mission to take things even further with my current partner. I want to give her a no-BS, mind-blowing orgasm—one of those experiences where nothing else matters, and everything just feels absolutely perfect.
As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I’ve only ever been able to get one partner to that level before, and it was unforgettable. It was the kind of orgasm that left us both drenched in sweat, hair sticking everywhere, bodies completely exhausted yet completely fulfilled. The rhythm, the intensity, the way it made both of us feel—it sent me into orbit. And I want to experience that kind of connection and euphoria again, not just for me, but for her as well.
I keep wondering, what’s the secret formula? Is it something physical—like focusing on specific spots, experimenting with different techniques, or finding just the right rhythm? Or is it more mental and emotional—like creating an atmosphere of total trust and surrender, or tapping into deeper intimacy that allows her to let go completely? Maybe it’s a mix of all those things, but I feel like I’m missing a piece of the puzzle.
It’s not about trying harder or putting more pressure on myself; it’s about understanding her better and discovering what really makes her tick. Communication is key, of course, and I’ve tried asking her what she loves most, but sometimes people can’t fully explain what drives them wild—it’s just something they feel in the moment. That’s what I’m trying to decode.
Honestly, it’s frustrating sometimes because I know I’ve been there before, and I know it’s possible. But recreating that kind of magic feels elusive right now. I want to bring her to that place where she loses herself completely, where everything disappears except the pleasure and the connection between us. I want to feel that rhythm again, that energy that builds and builds until it explodes into something we both can’t forget.
Damn it, why can’t I get there again? I know it’s not impossible, and I’m determined to figure it out. Maybe it’s about patience, or creativity, or just being in the right mindset. Whatever it takes, I’m willing to try because I know how incredible it can be—and I want her to feel it, too.
RE: What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - amravat123 - 01-28-2025
I think the key to unlocking that kind of mind-blowing orgasm isn’t just about trying to find a “magic formula” but more about communication and being willing to explore together. Every person is different, and what works for one partner may not necessarily work for another. For some women, it’s all about the build-up—foreplay that starts way before you even touch each other, like through teasing texts or creating a sensual atmosphere. It sets the tone and makes the physical connection more intense.
In my experience, communication has been the game changer. Asking your partner what they like is crucial, but even more important is paying attention to their non-verbal cues during intimacy. Does she seem to respond more to a slower, more sensual approach, or is she into something more intense and wild? Sometimes, it’s not what she says but how her body reacts. That’s where you really learn what pushes her buttons.
Also, experimenting with different techniques and positions can help. It’s not just about the act itself but the connection you’re building throughout the experience. When a woman feels like her pleasure is your priority, it can be a massive turn-on. Combine that with focusing on her erogenous zones—not just the obvious ones—and you’re setting the stage for something unforgettable.
Lastly, don’t underestimate the emotional aspect. If she feels completely comfortable, safe, and cherished, it’s easier for her to let go and surrender to the moment. That’s when the magic happens. It’s about making her feel like nothing else exists but the two of you—and that takes time, patience, and a lot of attention to detail.
RE: What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - hanar123 - 01-28-2025
Man, I’ve been down this road before, and I totally get what you’re saying about feeling like you’re missing a piece of the puzzle. I’ve learned the hard way that the physical stuff is only half the battle. The mental and emotional side of things plays a much bigger role than most guys realize. If she’s stressed, distracted, or not fully comfortable, it doesn’t matter how good your technique is—it’s not going to hit the same.
One thing that worked wonders for me was focusing on making her feel like the most desirable woman in the world. Compliments, eye contact, and just genuinely being present in the moment made a huge difference. Women often need to feel emotionally connected and desired before they can truly let go. It’s not about saying the right lines; it’s about making her feel seen and appreciated.
Another tip? Build anticipation. Don’t rush straight into the “main event.” Instead, take your time exploring her body and finding those spots that make her melt. For example, a slow, sensual massage can be a great way to relax her and get her in the mood. Teasing her, both physically and mentally, can also drive her wild—it’s like you’re creating a slow burn that explodes into something incredible.
At the end of the day, it’s about being patient and not putting too much pressure on the situation. Sometimes, the best moments happen when you’re not actively trying to force them but just enjoying the experience together. Focus on the journey, not just the destination.
RE: What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - antonio123 - 01-28-2025
I’ve always believed that the secret to great intimacy lies in being open to feedback and not taking things too seriously. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to give her the “perfect” experience, but that pressure can sometimes backfire. Instead, approach it like an adventure you’re both on together. Ask her what she likes, but also make it clear that you’re open to experimenting and trying new things.
One thing I’ve found super helpful is talking about this stuff outside of the bedroom. Sometimes, the pressure of the moment can make it hard for her to express what she really wants. But if you’re just having a casual conversation over dinner or while cuddling, she might feel more comfortable opening up about her fantasies or preferences.
It’s also important to keep things playful and fun. Try introducing something new—whether it’s a toy, a new position, or even just changing up the setting. Sometimes, breaking the routine can be enough to reignite that spark and create those unforgettable moments you’re talking about.
Lastly, don’t forget about aftercare. A lot of guys overlook this, but how you treat her after the act can make a huge difference in how she feels about the whole experience. Holding her, talking to her, or just lying there together can deepen the connection and make her feel even more satisfied.
RE: What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - deigo123 - 01-28-2025
Honestly, it sounds like you’re already on the right track just by caring enough to ask these questions. A lot of guys don’t realize how much of a difference the little things make. For example, setting the mood can be a game-changer. Dim the lights, light some candles, play her favorite music—these details might seem small, but they can help her relax and get into the right headspace.
Another thing I’ve noticed is that timing matters. Sometimes, it’s not about how long you’re spending on foreplay or sex but when you’re doing it. If she’s tired or distracted, it’s not going to hit the same way as when she’s fully present and in the mood. Paying attention to her energy levels and adjusting accordingly can make a huge difference.
From a technique standpoint, variety is key. Don’t just stick to what you know—try mixing things up. Maybe one night, focus entirely on her pleasure without expecting anything in return. Use your hands, your mouth, or even just your words to drive her crazy. The more you explore, the more you’ll learn about what works for her.
Finally, never underestimate the power of confidence. When you’re fully present, focused, and sure of yourself, it’s contagious. Women can pick up on that energy, and it helps them feel more comfortable and open. It’s not about being cocky—it’s about being confident in your ability to please her and making her feel like she’s the only woman in the world.
RE: What do I have to do to get you to ORGASM ? - piciossa - 01-28-2025
I think what you’re describing goes beyond just physical pleasure—it’s about creating a space where she feels completely safe to let go. For a lot of women, it’s not just about the technique but the emotional connection. If she feels like she can trust you completely and knows that you’re there for her 100%, she’s more likely to open up and let herself get lost in the moment.
One thing I’ve found helpful is focusing on non-verbal communication. Pay attention to her breathing, her moans, and the way her body moves. These cues can tell you a lot about what she’s feeling without her having to say a word. If something seems to really turn her on, double down on it. It’s about being in tune with her and adjusting as you go.
Another big factor is creating a sense of anticipation. Don’t just dive in—make her crave it. Start with light touches, kisses, or even just whispering in her ear. Build her up slowly, and let her feel the tension rising. When you finally get to the main event, it’ll feel that much more intense because of all the build-up.
At the end of the day, the best experiences happen when both people are completely present and connected. It’s not just about what you’re doing but how you’re making her feel. If she feels loved, desired, and understood, the rest will fall into place naturally.