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My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - daniel74 - 11-30-2024
I’ve been dating this girl for about six months. It’s wonderful that you’re invested in her pleasure and want to help her experience something she hasn’t before. The fact that she feels comfortable enough to share this with you is a testament to the trust and connection you’ve built. While the current situation at her mom’s house may not be ideal for complete exploration, there are plenty of steps you can take to help her feel more relaxed and ultimately experience an orgasm when the time is right.
One important factor is creating an environment where she feels completely comfortable and free to let go. Privacy is key here—finding a place where she doesn’t feel the need to hold back or worry about making noise will help her fully immerse herself in the experience. Setting the mood with soft lighting, music, or anything else that makes her feel special and relaxed can further enhance the atmosphere. Emotional comfort and physical safety are essential for her to let herself go.
When it comes to technique, communication is everything. Every woman’s body is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Take the time to talk to her about what feels good and encourage her to guide you. Slow, consistent stimulation is often better than rushing or changing rhythms. Focus on her clitoris, as it’s the most sensitive and responsive area, but don’t forget the importance of touching other parts of her body to build arousal. Exploring together with toys or incorporating lubrication can also heighten sensations.
Patience is crucial, especially for someone who has never had an orgasm before. Make sure she knows there’s no pressure to perform or reach a specific outcome—it’s about enjoying the process. Encourage her to explore her own body as well, as this can help her discover what feels best and share that knowledge with you. With time, trust, and open communication, you’ll likely be able to help her experience the pleasure she’s been missing.
RE: My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - amravat123 - 11-30-2024
It's great that you're open to helping your girl experience pleasure in a way she hasn’t before. First off, the emotional connection you’ve built is so important in this situation. She feels comfortable enough to share this with you, which speaks volumes about the trust between you two. You’re already on the right track by focusing on her comfort, and that's key in creating a space where she can let go.
When it comes to actual technique, communication is your best tool. Each woman is different, and what might work for one might not work for another. Ask her about what she enjoys and explore together—don’t be afraid to try new things and adjust your approach based on her feedback. Keep in mind that slow, steady stimulation, especially focusing on the clitoris, can be more effective than rushing to get results. Sometimes it’s not about speed but about building up the right kind of tension.
Creating a relaxed, safe space is crucial. Privacy, soft lighting, and a calm environment where she feels free to enjoy the experience without pressure are essential. You might want to experiment with different kinds of foreplay and even incorporate toys to enhance stimulation. The key is not to rush it. You’ve got time to explore together, and there’s no rush to reach a specific outcome—just let things unfold naturally.
Lastly, be patient. If she’s never had an orgasm, it may take time for her body to fully let go and experience it. Encouraging her to get to know her own body can help both of you discover what works best. Focus on enjoying the process rather than a specific goal, and over time, you’ll likely help her reach that moment of pleasure.
RE: My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - hanar123 - 11-30-2024
Man, I can totally relate to your situation. The fact that she’s sharing this with you is huge—she trusts you and values your connection. This could be a great opportunity for both of you to deepen your intimacy. It’s all about understanding her needs and creating an environment where she feels completely at ease. Remember, pressure to “perform” can make things harder for her, so take it slow and let her know you’re in no rush.
Technique-wise, start by paying attention to the parts of her body that get the most reaction—clitoral stimulation is often key. But don’t neglect other areas like her neck, ears, and inner thighs. Sometimes, exploring different zones can help build arousal in unexpected ways. Keep the conversation open and ask her what feels good. She might not know exactly what works for her yet, but giving her the space to figure it out with you is a great way to build that trust.
The emotional side is just as important as the physical. Make sure the atmosphere feels safe and welcoming. Dim lighting, maybe some candles or calming music—little things like that can help her relax. The more she can let go, the easier it will be for her to experience pleasure. And remember, sometimes a woman’s orgasm can be psychological as much as it is physical, so creating a space for emotional comfort is just as crucial as anything else.
Patience is key. If she’s never had an orgasm before, it might take a while for her to fully experience it. That’s okay! The fact that she’s being open with you means she’s willing to work through this together. Be understanding and supportive, and keep reassuring her that it’s all about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.
RE: My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - piciossa - 11-30-2024
It’s awesome that you're taking this seriously and want to help her feel confident and comfortable in her own body. That’s the first step toward success. It’s also important to understand that some women take longer to reach orgasm, especially if they’ve never experienced one before. So, patience is definitely your friend here.
One thing you can try is focusing on foreplay. Take time to explore her body, especially her erogenous zones. Clitoral stimulation is a good place to start, but don’t forget that many women enjoy different types of touch, so variety is key. Try using your fingers, your mouth, and experiment with different rhythms and pressures to see what works. But above all, make sure you’re having an open conversation with her about what she likes and what feels good.
Creating a relaxed environment is crucial, too. It’s hard to enjoy the moment if there’s stress or anxiety in the air. Try to set the mood—soft lighting, music, a comfortable place where she doesn’t feel self-conscious. The more relaxed she is, the better her chances are of experiencing an orgasm. Also, keep in mind that building trust and emotional comfort are just as important as the physical side.
Finally, remind her that there’s no pressure. Every woman is different, and some take time to learn how to fully relax and let go. Encourage her to explore her own body too, as this can help her figure out what feels best and guide you. With time and communication, you’ll both be able to discover what works for her.
RE: My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - antonio123 - 11-30-2024
This is such an important topic, and it's great that you're looking for advice on how to approach it. Honestly, it sounds like you already have a solid foundation built on trust, which is crucial. If she's telling you about this, it means she feels safe to be vulnerable with you. That’s the perfect starting point for trying to help her experience something new.
In terms of technique, I’d say don't rush things. Sometimes the pressure to “perform” or make someone climax can make things worse. Instead, focus on intimacy and mutual pleasure. It’s about discovering what she enjoys, and every woman is different. You might have to experiment with different things, like varying the speed and pressure of clitoral stimulation or using your fingers or tongue to explore. Take cues from her body language and verbal feedback—let her guide you.
An atmosphere where she feels comfortable and relaxed is just as important as technique. If she's not comfortable or doesn't feel like she can let go, then it might not happen. Try to make sure you're in a private, stress-free space. Maybe light some candles or play soft music—anything that helps her feel at ease. This is all about creating a safe, enjoyable experience for both of you.
Patience really is key. Don’t be discouraged if she doesn’t reach orgasm right away. For some women, it takes time to figure out what feels right. The best thing you can do is be patient, understanding, and supportive. Celebrate the small wins along the way—each step brings you closer to helping her feel fully satisfied.
RE: My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions? - deigo123 - 11-30-2024
It’s awesome that you’re thinking about her pleasure and wanting to help her reach that point. The fact that she’s being honest with you shows that you’ve built a solid level of trust, which is huge. Now it’s all about making her feel relaxed and unhurried so that she can explore her own pleasure more fully.
Start by having an open conversation with her about what feels good. It’s not just about physical touch; sometimes, the right words and the right tone can make a huge difference in helping her feel at ease. Slow, gentle touch is often more effective than rushing things. Focus on her clitoris, but don’t forget to experiment with other areas of her body—everyone’s different, and you might find some new spots that really work for her.
Creating a stress-free, intimate environment will go a long way. Try to make sure you’re in a private, comfortable space where she doesn’t feel self-conscious. Light some candles or play soothing music—whatever makes her feel like she can relax and enjoy the moment without worrying about anything else. This kind of atmosphere can make a big difference in her ability to let go and enjoy the experience.
Be patient with the process. Sometimes, it takes a while for someone to learn how to truly let go and experience orgasm. Encourage her to explore her own body as well; this can help her figure out what works best for her and share that with you. Just keep supporting her, and remember that the journey itself is as important as the destination.