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Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - ban908463 - 11-24-2024
I need a bit of help. I'm a late bloomer in the sex world, and I really want to get my girlfriend to orgasm. We have dry sex but not much else. We go down to underwear, and I come, but she doesn’t. Anyone have any tips that might make my task easier? Thanks! First off, it’s great that you’re prioritizing your girlfriend’s pleasure and looking for ways to make her feel satisfied. Being attentive and open-minded is the foundation of a fulfilling sexual connection.
One important tip is to focus on communication. Talk openly with your girlfriend about what feels good for her and ask if there are specific ways she likes to be touched. Every person is unique, and understanding her preferences can make all the difference. Building this trust can also help her relax and enjoy the experience more fully.
Since you’re engaging in dry sex, consider incorporating more foreplay and gentle stimulation. Use your hands or experiment with rubbing through clothing to create new sensations. Pay attention to her erogenous zones, like her neck, inner thighs, or clitoris, which may enhance her pleasure. Taking things slow and creating a sensual atmosphere can also help her feel more aroused.
Patience is key, as orgasms often require a mix of physical and mental relaxation. Make sure she feels comfortable and unpressured. Sometimes, exploring new techniques or even introducing external stimulation (like a vibrator) can be a helpful addition if she’s open to it. Keep experimenting together, and remember that the journey to discovering what works for her can be just as enjoyable as the destination!
RE: Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - deigo123 - 11-25-2024
It's great that you're being so thoughtful about your girlfriend’s pleasure — that's such an important part of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. When it comes to getting her to orgasm during dry sex, communication is absolutely key. Take the time to ask her what feels good, what she likes, and what kind of touches drive her wild. Every person is different, and her preferences may not be immediately obvious, so being patient and attentive will help you figure out exactly what works for her.
Since you’re keeping clothes on, I think it’s really important to focus on different kinds of sensations. You can try rubbing against each other in a way that mimics sex but with more friction. Experiment with rubbing her inner thighs, hips, or around her waist — areas that can build arousal without direct clitoral stimulation. Light touches, teasing, or even kissing her neck or ears can work wonders and help her get more into the moment.
Foreplay is also a huge factor when you're keeping clothes on. Tease her a bit, play with the idea of slow, sensual touches, and then build up the intensity gradually. Don’t rush it; make sure she feels relaxed and like she’s the center of attention. Creating that intimate, sensual atmosphere where she can focus on the feelings in her body (without worrying about performance) is a great way to help her let go and reach orgasm.
Finally, I’d suggest being mindful of her mental state as well. Sometimes, pressure can take the fun out of things, so make sure she feels comfortable and unhurried. If she feels relaxed, connected to you, and is enjoying the moment, orgasms tend to follow much more naturally. Keep experimenting and communicating — every new experience will help you both learn more about what works!
RE: Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - antonio123 - 11-25-2024
First off, I love that you’re focusing on making her feel good, not just yourself — that’s what intimacy is all about! When it comes to getting her to orgasm with clothes on, the secret lies in stimulation without immediate expectation. Try to pay close attention to her body language and responses as you explore different kinds of touches. Sometimes, simply rubbing her in the right spots — like the lower back, inner thighs, or even through her clothes on her clit — can make a big difference.
A big tip is to really mix things up with different pressure and movements. If you’re rubbing through clothing, you can alternate between firm and light touches, or make small circles with your hands in places like her hips or thighs. This can build up a lot of pleasure over time, and some women actually find these types of sensations just as stimulating (if not more) than direct contact. Keep her in suspense and focus on creating tension through touch.
I’d also recommend focusing on foreplay. You don’t always have to go straight to genital play. Caressing her skin, kissing her neck, and being gentle with your hands all help build intimacy and increase arousal. When you’re both enjoying the closeness and connection of those intimate moments, it can make it easier for her to let go and experience pleasure, even through the clothes.
Lastly, be patient and don’t put pressure on the situation. Focus on making her feel good and let the orgasm come naturally. There’s no rush, and as long as you’re both enjoying the experience and communicating openly, you’ll eventually find what works best for her. Keep it playful, and you’ll both enjoy the journey to better understanding each other’s pleasure.
RE: Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - amravat123 - 11-25-2024
Great to see you putting in the effort to make sure your girlfriend’s enjoying herself! When it comes to getting her to orgasm with clothes on, it's all about focusing on the sensuality of the moment. Take things slow, and be very in tune with her reactions. Sometimes, a little teasing through clothes can be just as exciting as direct touch. Rub her through her clothes gently at first, gradually increasing pressure, and see how she responds.
You might also want to play around with different types of touch. For instance, using your fingertips to trace around her hips, up to her waist, and even to the inside of her thighs can create a lot of heightened arousal. Also, try varying your movements. For example, alternating between slow, firm pressure and quicker, lighter touches will keep her guessing and on edge, which can build up the intensity of her pleasure.
Foreplay is such an important part of this as well. Don’t rush into anything too quickly. Take the time to explore her body — give attention to kissing her neck, behind her ears, or even her inner wrist. These spots can be super sensitive, and the combination of light kisses and gentle rubs can build up excitement and lead her to climax, even with clothes on. Plus, this will also help her relax and become more comfortable with the experience.
Finally, communication is key. Ask her what feels good and if she likes the way you’re touching her. It’s always best to check in with your partner to make sure you’re on the same page. Be patient, and remember that it’s about the connection you two share. By creating a comfortable, exciting, and pressure-free atmosphere, you’ll both be able to enjoy each other’s pleasure, and she’ll be more likely to orgasm in her own time.
RE: Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - hanar123 - 11-25-2024
This is a great topic, and it’s awesome that you’re taking the initiative to make your girlfriend feel good! When it comes to getting her to orgasm with clothes on, a lot of it comes down to building anticipation and exploring different forms of touch. As you’re doing dry sex, try exploring more intimate places — like gently rubbing her back, sides, or even her arms. Some women really enjoy this type of indirect touch, which can increase arousal before you even get to more direct stimulation.
One technique that can help is varying the pressure and speed of your touches. Rub her clit lightly over her underwear, or gently press against her breasts while you kiss her neck. Alternating between light teasing and firmer pressure will keep things interesting and can make her more sensitive, ultimately leading to stronger sensations. You can also experiment with using your body to create more friction while you’re rubbing — this can be super satisfying for both of you.
Make sure you focus on how she’s feeling and take things slow. Creating a comfortable, pressure-free environment where she doesn’t feel rushed can make a big difference. The more you focus on her pleasure and comfort, the easier it’ll be for her to let go and experience orgasm. Plus, when she’s relaxed and in the moment, the orgasm is likely to come naturally.
Lastly, always be open to feedback. Ask her what feels best for her, and if she’s enjoying the sensations you’re giving her. Over time, this will help you learn what works for her and build a deeper connection. The more you explore her body and communicate, the better the experience will be — for both of you.
RE: Getting her to orgasm with clothes on - piciossa - 11-25-2024
It’s fantastic that you’re looking to enhance your girlfriend’s pleasure and not just focusing on your own. Getting her to orgasm while keeping clothes on can definitely be done with the right kind of approach. One of the key factors here is creating the right atmosphere of intimacy and arousal. Take your time, slow down, and focus on how her body responds. Sometimes, indirect stimulation can be just as powerful, especially when you're both still dressed.
Start by teasing her a little. Try rubbing her through her clothes, especially around sensitive areas like her thighs, hips, or even her breasts. These areas can be very sensitive, and just a little pressure can send waves of pleasure through her body. Pay attention to how her body reacts—if she shifts or presses into you, that’s a good sign she’s enjoying it. If you can, try to alternate between soft, gentle strokes and a bit more pressure to build up the intensity.
Foreplay is also important in this scenario. Think of all the ways you can stimulate her that don’t involve direct genital contact — kissing her neck, whispering sweet things in her ear, or rubbing her back gently can all add to her arousal. The more you can make her feel connected and desired without focusing on the end goal, the easier it will be for her to let go and experience orgasm.
Most importantly, don't put pressure on her to reach orgasm. If she enjoys what you’re doing and feels cared for, that’s the key. Keep the focus on the pleasure and intimacy rather than the outcome. When she feels that connection, the orgasm will often come naturally. Keep communicating, stay patient, and enjoy the process together!