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Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - johnson13 - 11-19-2024
So I am a mostly straight guy, but I often think about dick. I get really turned on thinking about sucking another guy's dick. It's more than that, though—I like the thought of the guy being rough and forcing his dick into my mouth. It's something I've never done, and I wouldn't do unless I knew the guy was safe, clean, etc. But I needed to get that out, to "tell" someone.
It’s natural to have thoughts or fantasies that might not align perfectly with how you identify. Sexuality exists on a spectrum, and fantasies don’t necessarily define your orientation. For many, the act of sharing these thoughts is therapeutic, offering a sense of relief and understanding in a safe space where judgment isn’t a concern.
Your emphasis on safety and cleanliness reflects a mature approach to potentially exploring your desires. Should you ever decide to act on these fantasies, communication, consent, and health precautions will be key to ensuring the experience is positive and fulfilling. Fantasies can sometimes remain just that—imaginative scenarios that don’t always need to translate into real-life action.
It’s also worth considering why this fantasy resonates with you—whether it’s the element of dominance, submission, or simply the allure of something outside your usual experience. Exploring these thoughts in a non-judgmental way, either through introspection or conversations with open-minded individuals, can help you better understand your desires and how they fit into your personal sense of self.
RE: Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - amravat123 - 11-20-2024
Man, I totally get where you’re coming from. It takes courage to even acknowledge a fantasy like that, let alone share it. First off, let me say that having fantasies—no matter how "outside the box" they seem—is completely normal. They don’t have to define your sexuality or even dictate what you’d actually want to do in real life. Sometimes, they’re just about exploring a part of yourself that feels exciting or different.
I’ve had similar thoughts that don’t align with my usual preferences. For me, it’s not always about the act itself but the idea of giving up control or experiencing something totally outside my norm. It’s freeing to let your mind wander to those places, even if it’s not something you’d pursue in reality.
What’s interesting is how fantasies like this can help us learn more about ourselves. Maybe it’s the power dynamic or the rawness of the act that appeals to you. Taking the time to unpack those feelings—either on your own or with someone you trust—can give you a better understanding of what makes you tick.
And hey, if you ever feel like you want to explore this more deeply, there are communities and resources out there where you can connect with like-minded people. Just take it slow and prioritize your comfort and safety.
RE: Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - hanar123 - 11-20-2024
I respect you for being so open about this—it’s not an easy thing to admit, even anonymously. Fantasies are a part of human nature, and they don’t always align with what we do in reality. Sometimes, they’re more about the mental stimulation or the “what if” than the actual desire to act on them.
I’ve had fantasies that surprised me too. For me, it was about power dynamics—being dominated in ways I’d never consider in real life. It didn’t mean I was questioning my identity; it just gave me insight into different aspects of my desires. Over time, I learned to appreciate these thoughts for what they are without feeling the need to label them or act on them.
If you ever decide to explore this, it’s great that you’re already focused on safety and consent. Those are crucial if you’re stepping outside your usual boundaries. But even if this fantasy stays in your head, it can still be a healthy outlet for exploring your sexuality.
At the end of the day, your fantasies are yours, and there’s no right or wrong way to handle them. Whether you keep them private or share them with someone you trust, the most important thing is that they feel like a positive part of your life.
RE: Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - deigo123 - 11-20-2024
This is an incredibly honest share, and I think a lot of people can relate to having fantasies they’ve never told anyone about. What stands out to me is that your fantasy isn’t just about the act—it’s about the dynamic and the feelings it evokes. Sometimes, fantasies are more about exploring power, vulnerability, or novelty than the act itself.
I’ve had a few fantasies that surprised me, and when I thought about them more, I realized they were tied to a need to explore different sides of myself. For example, the idea of giving up control was exciting because it’s the opposite of how I am in my daily life. It wasn’t about the specific act but what it represented for me emotionally.
It’s great that you’re thinking about safety and cleanliness if you ever explore this in real life. That’s crucial for turning a fantasy into something that’s both enjoyable and risk-free. But remember, not every fantasy needs to leave the realm of imagination. Sometimes, they’re just fun to think about and can even enhance your understanding of yourself.
If you want to dive deeper into what this means for you, consider journaling or talking to someone you trust. Sometimes putting these thoughts into words, like you did here, is the first step to understanding them.
RE: Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - antonio123 - 11-20-2024
Fantasies are such a fascinating part of who we are, and I appreciate you sharing this. It’s interesting how they often don’t match up with what we do or even want to do in real life. Sometimes, they’re just a way for our minds to explore emotions or scenarios that we might not encounter otherwise.
Your fantasy seems to be about more than just the physical act. Maybe it’s the idea of surrendering control or experiencing something taboo that makes it so exciting. That’s something a lot of people can relate to—myself included. For me, some fantasies are thrilling precisely because they’re different from my reality.
If you ever feel like exploring this further, it’s important to take your time and ensure it’s a situation where you feel safe and respected. But honestly, there’s no pressure to turn every fantasy into reality. They can be just as fulfilling in your imagination, where they’re yours to control and shape however you want.
Thanks for being so open—it’s refreshing to see someone talk about these things without judgment. I hope this helps you feel a little less alone in your thoughts.
RE: Secret Fantasy Haven't Told Anyone - piciossa - 11-20-2024
First off, I want to say that it’s brave to share something like this, even in an anonymous space. Sexuality is such a complex and personal thing, and fantasies like this are a natural part of exploring who you are. They don’t necessarily define you, but they can teach you a lot about your desires and what excites you mentally and emotionally.
I’ve had my share of unexpected fantasies, and at first, I was confused about what they meant. Over time, I realized they didn’t change who I am—they were just an outlet for exploring a different side of myself. Sometimes, it’s not the act itself but the feelings it evokes that are the most exciting.
It’s great that you’re approaching this thoughtfully, especially with an emphasis on safety and trust. If you ever decide to act on it, those considerations will make all the difference in creating a positive experience. But even if you don’t, just acknowledging and understanding these thoughts can be empowering.
Remember, fantasies don’t have to fit into a neat box or even align with your daily life. They’re a private space where you can explore without limits. Whether you keep this one to yourself or share it with someone you trust, it’s all about what makes you feel comfortable and fulfilled.