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Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - daniel74 - 11-14-2024
I have a somewhat unique question and thought this community would be a great place to ask, given the wealth of shared experiences here.
Recently, I began dating a man a few years older than me, and he opened up about having dealt with prostate issues, which led to his prostate being removed.
He was open and reassuring, sharing that he’s recovered well and doesn’t struggle with erectile dysfunction. However, he did mention that although he can still reach orgasm, he no longer experiences ejaculation. He explained this so I wouldn’t be caught off guard or misinterpret it, thinking he was faking pleasure.
This is all new to me, and I’m curious to hear if others have had similar experiences with partners who have undergone prostate removal. From what I understand, the experience of orgasm remains, but the physical sensation and visible aspects change due to the absence of ejaculation. I appreciate his honesty, but I’m also looking for insights to help me understand what to expect and how best to approach intimacy with sensitivity and openness.
For those who have been with partners post-prostate removal, how did you adjust to this difference in experience? And for any men who have gone through this themselves, what are some tips for both partners to feel comfortable and connected in this new chapter of intimacy? I’m eager to approach this relationship with understanding and am grateful for any advice from those who have walked this path.
RE: Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - hanar123 - 11-14-2024
Hey there! I think it’s great that you’re approaching this with so much openness and curiosity. I dated a man who had his prostate removed, and it was a bit of an adjustment initially, but with patience and understanding, our intimacy became just as meaningful. One thing that helped me was to remember that while the physical aspects may be different, the emotional connection is still fully present. For him, intimacy was about closeness and trust more than anything physical, so shifting my focus to these things made the experience feel very complete.
The orgasm without ejaculation aspect did feel different at first, but after some time, I realized it didn’t diminish his pleasure at all. He still experienced strong sensations and satisfaction, and honestly, that was all that mattered. We even found it made the experience feel more special because it was less focused on the end result and more on the journey of being together.
Communication was key for us. Talking openly about what he felt comfortable with, and checking in with each other, helped to keep things smooth. He often reassured me that he enjoyed our time together and found our intimacy very fulfilling, which put me at ease and allowed us to fully enjoy the experience without focusing on the changes too much.
So, take things slow, stay connected, and be patient with the process. As long as both of you are comfortable and open with each other, you’ll find a rhythm that works. Intimacy can be incredibly fulfilling, even if it’s a little different than you’re used to.
RE: Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - amravat123 - 11-14-2024
I’ve been in a similar situation, and your approach sounds right on track. My husband had his prostate removed due to health issues, and we had to navigate this new stage in our relationship together. One thing that helped us both was focusing on other forms of intimacy beyond just the act of intercourse. We put more emphasis on extended foreplay, massages, and other ways to build closeness that didn’t center around ejaculation. It turned out to be an eye-opening experience, and it brought us even closer.
In terms of orgasm, he might still experience intense pleasure, but there will be no visible release, which is a shift for both of you. That was something I needed to get used to initially, but it didn’t take long. It helped when he explained that the feelings were still strong and that, despite the lack of a visible climax, he felt satisfied. Keeping this in mind can really put both of you at ease and help you enjoy those intimate moments.
Also, don’t hesitate to ask questions if you’re curious about what he’s feeling. My partner and I found that having open conversations helped me understand his experience better and feel more connected. It was comforting for both of us to know that we were on the same page and that I could approach him with questions.
Lastly, try to keep a positive mindset. The fact that he’s open and honest with you shows he values your relationship. As long as you both communicate and support each other, your intimacy can be just as fulfilling and maybe even more connected than before.
RE: Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - antonio123 - 11-14-2024
As someone who’s gone through this myself, I can tell you that your partner’s honesty is really commendable. After my prostate removal, I had the same experience—orgasms feel different but are still very satisfying. The physical release is gone, but the sensations can be intense, and the emotional connection even stronger because there’s a focus on intimacy without any pressure. It took a little getting used to, but I was relieved to find that my partner was supportive, which made a world of difference.
One thing that’s helped my partner and me is focusing on connection-building activities outside of the bedroom, which translates well into intimacy. Sometimes just spending quality time together doing non-sexual activities, like a date night or a long walk, has actually strengthened our bond in unexpected ways. It keeps the pressure off and lets us both be present without expectations.
Also, I’d suggest being patient with him if he’s still adjusting, too. It can be hard for men to go through this, as it affects not only their physical experience but sometimes their confidence. A little reassurance can go a long way in helping him feel secure and open with you, knowing that you care and are willing to understand.
Just remember, intimacy is more than the physical. If he’s feeling loved, accepted, and understood, he’ll have an easier time being vulnerable with you, and that will make every experience together that much more meaningful.
RE: Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - deigo123 - 11-14-2024
I think it’s so wonderful that you’re approaching this with empathy and curiosity! My partner also had his prostate removed, and it was initially an adjustment, but it turned out to be a very special journey for us. The absence of ejaculation might feel different, but the key is to focus on the feelings and connection rather than what’s visible. He assured me that he still felt fulfilled, and it was actually quite freeing to let go of the idea that intimacy had to look a certain way.
In our experience, spending more time on foreplay and exploring new ways of connecting physically became very fulfilling. We tried different things like sensual massages and exploring each other’s bodies in ways we hadn’t before. This focus on prolonged intimacy helped him feel comfortable and allowed us both to enjoy every moment without rushing.
One thing I’d recommend is to check in with him now and then about what feels good or if he wants to try something new. As the partner, I sometimes worried about doing the “right” thing, but my partner appreciated that I was willing to ask questions and adapt. He felt more comfortable knowing I wanted to understand his experience.
Finally, keep enjoying each other’s company and building a foundation of trust. Every relationship has unique challenges, but if you stay connected, your bond will only strengthen. There’s so much to explore beyond the conventional, and it sounds like you’re both on a beautiful journey together.
RE: Intimacy with a Man Who’s Had His Prostate Removed: What to Expect - piciossa - 11-14-2024
I’ve been in a relationship with a man who had his prostate removed, and it’s actually deepened our connection. What you’re describing is similar to our experience. There’s still plenty of pleasure, and although it doesn’t involve ejaculation, he feels very satisfied. It’s a bit different visually, but focusing on his reactions and knowing he’s happy can make the experience feel just as fulfilling for both of you.
We found that exploring other forms of physical closeness, like cuddling, oral stimulation, and taking our time with everything, allowed us to feel more connected. Without the expectation of ejaculation, we could just enjoy the experience fully. It became less about reaching a particular “end” and more about appreciating every moment, which felt incredibly liberating.
It’s also been important for us to talk about how each of us is feeling throughout this adjustment. He was open with me about his experiences, and I reassured him that I valued our time together no matter what. Knowing he felt comfortable allowed us both to relax and find our own rhythm.
Your attitude shows you’re really committed to making this work in a loving way, and that’s honestly the most important part. With communication and trust, intimacy will only get stronger, and the bond you’re building will make every experience more meaningful. Embrace this new chapter—it sounds like you’re both well on your way to a happy, connected relationship!