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Dating site love links for explorers - aiden15632 - 07-26-2024
It sounds like a classic case of differing expectations and communication styles. Here's how you can approach this situation:
Understand Her Perspective
Personal Expectations: She might have different expectations about your relationship or how quickly things should progress. Even if you’re just looking for friendship, she might have hoped for a more exclusive or immediate connection.
Emotional Investment If she’s emotionally invested or has strong feelings, she might be looking for more commitment or exclusivity early on, even if it seems premature to you.
Communicate Clearly and Respectfully
Reiterate Your Intentions: Calmly explain your position again, emphasizing that your goal is to build friendships and that you’re meeting various people to understand who you connect with best.
Acknowledge Her Feelings: Validate her feelings and express understanding of why she might feel hurt or disappointed. Even if her expectations seem high, recognizing her feelings can help in maintaining a respectful dialogue.
Consider Your Actions
Check Your Approach: Reflect on how you’ve communicated and whether any actions might have been misinterpreted. Sometimes, the way we present our intentions can be misconstrued, especially in the early stages.
Balance Communication: If you’re meeting multiple people, it’s important to balance communication so that no one feels undervalued or secondary. Ensure that everyone you’re interacting with feels respected and appreciated.
Accept the Outcome
Respect Her Decision: If she decides not to meet or pursue a friendship, respect her choice. Trying to convince her otherwise may only strain the situation further.
Move Forward: Focus on the other friendships and connections you’re making. Sometimes, misunderstandings or mismatches in expectations can be resolved over time, but it’s also important to recognize when to let go.Reflect on Your Approach
Review Your Approach to Dating**: Consider if there’s a way to manage expectations better in future interactions. Being clear about your intentions and the nature of your interactions from the start can help set proper expectations.
Learn from Experience**: Use this experience to understand how to communicate your intentions more effectively and how to manage expectations in future relationships.
Summary
The situation seems to be a matter of misaligned expectations and communication. Reiterate your intentions, acknowledge her feelings, and ensure that you’re respecting her decision. Moving forward, try to communicate more clearly and manage expectations better to avoid similar misunderstandings in the future.
RE: Dating site love links for explorers - daniel74 - 07-26-2024
That’s solid advice. Taking some time to establish your own space and figure out what you truly want can provide clarity and stability. It’s often easier to navigate relationships and personal goals when you have a secure foundation. Plus, having your own place can be empowering and give you the space to think things through without external pressures.
RE: Dating site love links for explorers - hilululu - 07-26-2024
That’s sound advice. It’s often best to clarify your intentions and relationships clearly to avoid misunderstandings. If you’re seeing multiple people, keeping things transparent about the nature of your relationships can help manage expectations and avoid unnecessary drama. Being upfront about the status of your relationships can save both you and others from potential confusion and hurt feelings.
RE: Dating site love links for explorers - johnson13 - 07-26-2024
I have been on TLL since last October. The plan was to meet a couple of women in March when traveling to BKK. Almost all of the women insisted on being the only woman I met. Explaining to them how unfair it was, as they were meeting every guy who came over, was useless. They all said they stopped chatting to other guys once they started chatting with me. They all lied.
I am still coming back in September/October. This time I will visit for 3 weeks but only tell each woman that I will be there for 1 week. Thus making it easier to remove myself from each and move onto the other. The reality is I am looking for a woman to become my wife but I don't fall in love over the Internet. Also, while I am single, a trip to SC, Nana and Patpong will be in order.
RE: Dating site love links for explorers - shant234 - 07-26-2024
I have remained in touch with one of the women I met last time. It has been a real eye opener into the Thai woman's psyche. She was adamant that I only see her when I come. In fact, she wanted to pick me up from the airport and then drop me off when I left. Even though while we chatted, she admitted that she dated 3 Aussies the month before I arrived. She stayed with each of them for 4 to 7 nights. I finally made her realize that I was cool with her dating other guys so she should be cool with me seeing other women. I mean, for Pete's sake, we haven't even met.
Anyways, we meet and I have no attraction to her at all. Even though she has a body, I am just not attracted to her.
To this day, we chat on messenger. Seems one of the Aussie guys is coming back to help her with a visa to Australia and they are even talking about marriage next year. I congratulated her and ask her if we have to stop chatting. No, in fact she is still dating - a lot! Since the news from the Aussie, she has racked up more dates with more new guys - it's amazing. Now, every day when we chat I just ask her "Who did you see today?"
I call them Italian guy #1 and #2, Doha doctor, Pakkie #1 and #2, Singapore guy, Engineering guy, etc, etc, ect.... She is meeting (in person) at least 2 new guys every week - and having sex with at least half. Why? Because she says that she 'isn't married yet and nothing for sure.' As she says these guys are her back-up.
This lady has shattered my view of the innocence of non-bar girls in Thailand. I tread very carefully. On the other hand, I no longer feel bad about lying about seeing other women.