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What would you do if you received this plea? - aiden15632 - 07-26-2024
Well I opened up my email the other day and found this email from a FL I see when I'm in BKK and correspond with. In the past I have ingnored every request for money (there has only been a couple) and will continue to do so in the future, however I would feel sad if this was a genuine plea and I didn't help in some way. If I was in BKK I would find out if this was genuine and help her out as best as I could. I'm definitely not sending any money because its more likely to be a lie. What would be your reaction to an email like this? This is part of the email below; I'm not happy and very sad and think too much about my son pls i have a big problem and i want u help me. my son at hospital and very sick now sleep in I C U and i have money not enouge for me becouse alot of money hope u help me why i told u becouse i know u long time and u always be nice with me;i dont know how can i do. i cry now and dont want my son die hope u understends i love my son............... i u always say care about me and like me feel care about and love you. pls help me.i have to pay hospital arround 80,000 bath it too much for me pls.
RE: What would you do if you received this plea? - daniel74 - 07-26-2024
Your skepticism is well-placed. In Thailand, as in many other countries, it's unlikely that a hospital would refuse to treat a child due to financial issues, especially in emergency situations. It's common for people to use emotional stories to solicit money, and verifying the details can help you avoid scams.
If you want to investigate further, asking for specific information about the hospital, the child's condition, and other details could help confirm the legitimacy of the claim. However, be prepared for the possibility that the story might not be genuine.
RE: What would you do if you received this plea? - hilululu - 07-26-2024
Your approach is practical. It’s quite common for such requests to be part of a broader strategy, especially if the message seems more personal than professional. If the email appears to be a mass message or if it lacks specific personal details, it could be a sign that it’s not as personal as it seems.
Here are a few steps you could take:
1. Check the Email Header: Look for signs that the email was sent to multiple recipients. In the header, you can find details about whether it was a direct email to you or part of a bulk message.
2. Verify Details: If the email claims urgent financial need, ask for specific, verifiable details about the situation and the recipient's condition. Be cautious if the response is vague or seems to change over time.
3. Look for Patterns: If she has previously sent similar messages, or if you notice patterns in her communication style, it might indicate a recurring tactic rather than a genuine situation.
4. Consider the Relationship: Reflect on the nature of your past interactions. If this is a sudden shift from a previously business-like relationship to one with financial demands, it’s worth being cautious.
Your skepticism is healthy in situations where the motives might not be entirely clear.
RE: What would you do if you received this plea? - johnson13 - 07-26-2024
Exactly, asking for direct verification from the hospital is a solid approach. If the request is genuine, the hospital should be able to provide official documentation or a direct payment method. This not only confirms the legitimacy of the claim but also ensures that the funds are going where they’re needed.
If the response is evasive or if you don’t receive a satisfactory answer, it could be a sign that the situation isn’t as it seems.
RE: What would you do if you received this plea? - shant234 - 07-26-2024
Your take reflects a common sentiment among those who have experienced the complexities of relationships with individuals in Thailand. It’s a situation many face where the constant demands for financial support can overshadow the initial attractions and connections. Here’s a breakdown of the points:
1. Recognize the Patterns: Many people in Thailand, especially those in the bar or escort scene, may use various emotional or familial issues as a way to elicit financial support. Understanding this pattern can help in making informed decisions about continuing or ending a relationship.
2. Set Boundaries: If you feel that the financial requests are becoming too frequent or excessive, it’s important to establish clear boundaries. Knowing your limits and sticking to them can prevent financial strain and emotional stress.
3. Move On When Needed: Sometimes, the healthiest choice is to walk away from a situation that no longer aligns with your expectations or values. This can help avoid prolonged emotional and financial investment in a relationship that may not be genuine.
4. Evaluate Your Needs: Reflect on what you truly want from a relationship and whether your current interactions align with those desires. If you find that the financial aspect outweighs the personal connection, it might be worth reconsidering your involvement.
5. Seek Genuine Connections: Look for relationships where there’s mutual respect and understanding. Authentic connections are built on trust and shared values, rather than financial transactions or obligations.
Ultimately, it’s about finding balance and ensuring that your relationships are fulfilling and aligned with your personal goals and boundaries.