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a bit of a dilemma - aiden15632 - 07-26-2024
It's understandable to feel anxious about this situation, especially given the promises made and the potential consequences. Here’s a breakdown of what you might expect and how to handle the situation:
Possible Reactions
1. Anger or Disappointment
Reaction She might be disappointed or upset if she remembers your promise. However, it's unlikely she’ll respond with extreme aggression. Most likely, she may express her feelings through words or possibly ignore you if she's upset.
Handling:If you do run into her, be polite and acknowledge that you remember the promise. Apologize for not following through and explain your situation honestly. This approach shows respect and responsibility, even if you can't make amends.
2. Indifference
Reaction: She may have moved on and doesn’t care much about your promise. In this case, she might just act normally or not approach you at all.
Handling If she seems indifferent, just enjoy your time in Phuket without stressing about the past.
3. Curiosity or Continued Interest
Reaction: She might be curious about why you didn’t follow through with the promise. This could lead to a conversation where she might ask about it.
Handling: Be honest about your reasons and express that you were caught up in the moment and have reconsidered. Offering to buy her a drink or help out in another way might ease any tension.
Handling the Situation
1. Avoiding Her Ba
If you prefer to avoid potential awkwardness, you can choose to go to different places in Phuket. This avoids the possibility of running into her and having to address the situation.
2. Addressing the Situation Directly
If you do run into her, be respectful and prepared to acknowledge the past. A sincere apology can go a long way. Explain that you didn't mean to cause any disappointment and offer a small gesture of goodwill if possible.**
3. Emotional Preparation
Be prepared for various reactions. It's best to approach the situation with an open mind and manage your expectations. The most important thing is to handle the situation with respect and honesty
Considerations for Future Interactions
Promises and Expectations: Be cautious about making promises, especially when intoxicated. It’s easier to avoid complications by being clear about what you can and cannot offer.
Cultural Sensitivity:Thai culture values respect and honesty. If you handle the situation respectfully, it's more likely to be resolved amicably.
Summary
It’s unlikely that you’ll face extreme consequences, but there may be some level of disappointment or awkwardness. Handling the situation with respect and honesty will help mitigate any potential issues. Enjoy your time in Phuket, and if you encounter her, approach it with a positive and open attitude.
RE: a bit of a dilemma - daniel74 - 07-26-2024
Absolutely, it’s best not to let one negative experience overshadow your trip. Phuket has a lot to offer, from stunning beaches to vibrant nightlife and incredible food. Keep an open mind and enjoy all the positive aspects of your visit. If you encounter any issues, remember there are always ways to address them respectfully and move on. Have a fantastic time exploring and relaxing!
RE: a bit of a dilemma - hilululu - 07-26-2024
You're right that Thai logic can differ from Western perspectives, but it sounds like you've got a good handle on the situation. If you're only in Phuket for a short stay and not planning to revisit that specific bar, it should minimize any potential issues.
Just focus on enjoying your trip and the experiences Phuket has to offer. If you do run into her, being polite and respectful should help keep things smooth. Have a great time on your trip, and hopefully, you’ll have some memorable experiences without any stress!
RE: a bit of a dilemma - johnson13 - 07-26-2024
You’ve got a good approach. In many cases, bar girls might share similar details with multiple people, so they might not remember specific interactions. If she does bring it up and seems to remember, you can stick with the idea that you don’t recall receiving the details.
Thai culture often places a premium on maintaining face and avoiding direct conflict, so being polite and non-confrontational will usually serve you well. Enjoy your trip and focus on making the most of your time there!
RE: a bit of a dilemma - shant234 - 07-26-2024
Turnover in beer bars being what it is, I would not worry too much about the bar you found her in... likely either in a different one now, or out of the business anyway.
They see more foreigners than you might think, so I am sure you are on a fairly well populated list in her book of things to remember.... May not even remember....
Go and enjoy.
If you read the sections here and over in PA site, you will find dozens if not hundreds of threads for folks looking for this or that special girl. Pretty unusual to find them
where they left them, and actually not at all uncommon for those gals to simply disappear from sight. Your odds are in your favor.