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Frustration with Passive Responses: Seeking More Engagement from Your GF - aiden15632 - 07-26-2024
At first, I appreciated the effort my GFs made to accommodate me, but it's becoming increasingly frustrating when I ask them where they want to eat or what they want to do, only to receive the response, "Up to you." While I understand they’re trying to be agreeable and avoid making decisions, I find it challenging when they don’t offer any suggestions or take a more active role in planning.
I value their input and would prefer a bit more engagement. It would be refreshing to hear their preferences or ideas, rather than always being the one to come up with plans. It feels like a lack of initiative on their part, and it can be a bit disheartening.
Is anyone else experiencing this issue? How do you handle situations where your partner or GF is too passive in making decisions? I’d appreciate any tips or strategies for encouraging more active participation.
RE: Frustration with Passive Responses: Seeking More Engagement from Your GF - daniel74 - 07-26-2024
Hi, I’ve been with my girlfriend for over two years now. She’s a 29-year-old nurse, and initially, she often used the “it’s up to you” line when making decisions. We’ve found a balance with our current arrangement: one day, we do and eat where I want, and the next day, it’s her choice. This approach seems to work well for us, as it provides a good mix of compromise and variety in our time together.
RE: Frustration with Passive Responses: Seeking More Engagement from Your GF - hilululu - 07-26-2024
“Up to you” might be the most common three words when dealing with bar girls. While they often know the best local spots for dining and activities, they also expect us to make the decisions since we’re the ones paying. It’s practical in a way, as it helps prevent them from making overly extravagant choices. However, having some input from them would be nice, as it would ensure a more balanced experience and potentially reveal some hidden gems they might know about.
RE: Frustration with Passive Responses: Seeking More Engagement from Your GF - johnson13 - 07-26-2024
"Up to you" can be really frustrating. Last time I was in Bangkok, I picked up a girl from a go-go bar and asked if she wanted to go to Insomnia or head straight to my room. Her response was "up to you," so I decided to check out Insomnia. To my surprise, she didn’t want to dance, which was disappointing. We ended up sitting around, just having a drink and feeling like we were wasting time. As soon as she finished her drink, I took her back to my room to make the most of my bar fine. It’s always a gamble with these situations, and clear communication could definitely improve the experience.
RE: Frustration with Passive Responses: Seeking More Engagement from Your GF - shant234 - 07-26-2024
It's always the same frustrating "up to you" response, which drives me nuts. In situations like that, it might be simpler to just head straight to your room, enjoy your time together, and then, afterward, she'll likely be hungry and more decisive about where to go. Once you’ve sorted out the meal, you can head back to your room and continue the fun. Sometimes, taking control of the situation can lead to a more satisfying experience for both parties. ?