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Understanding Disappearing Act in Texting: Why It Happens and What to Do - aiden15632 - 07-25-2024
It sounds like you’re experiencing frustration with a girl who seems to disappear during texting conversations. This is a common issue and can stem from several factors. Let’s explore why this might be happening and how you can address it.
Possible Reasons for Disappearing During Texting
- Busy Schedule:
- Work and Daily Life: Many people, especially if they have demanding jobs or busy lives, might not always be available to respond immediately. They may need to focus on their work or personal responsibilities, leading to gaps in communication.
- Distractions: People often get distracted by various activities and might not be able to respond promptly.
- Work and Daily Life: Many people, especially if they have demanding jobs or busy lives, might not always be available to respond immediately. They may need to focus on their work or personal responsibilities, leading to gaps in communication.
- Language Barriers:
- Communication Challenges: If there’s a significant language barrier, texting in a foreign language might be more taxing and time-consuming. This could lead to occasional delays or interruptions in communication.
- Effort and Fatigue: Composing thoughtful responses in a non-native language can be mentally tiring, which might result in intermittent replies.
- Communication Challenges: If there’s a significant language barrier, texting in a foreign language might be more taxing and time-consuming. This could lead to occasional delays or interruptions in communication.
- Personal Preferences:
- Different Communication Styles: Some people prefer to communicate intermittently rather than engaging in continuous back-and-forth conversations. This could be a personal preference or a way to manage their social interactions.
- Different Communication Styles: Some people prefer to communicate intermittently rather than engaging in continuous back-and-forth conversations. This could be a personal preference or a way to manage their social interactions.
- Technological Issues:
- App Notifications: Sometimes, issues with the messaging app or phone notifications can affect how messages are received and responded to. There could be delays or glitches in the app’s functionality.
- App Notifications: Sometimes, issues with the messaging app or phone notifications can affect how messages are received and responded to. There could be delays or glitches in the app’s functionality.
- Emotional Distance or Uncertainty:
- Changing Feelings: If the relationship is relatively new or if there are uncertainties about its future, the person might not be as engaged in continuous communication. This can result in sporadic responses.
- Changing Feelings: If the relationship is relatively new or if there are uncertainties about its future, the person might not be as engaged in continuous communication. This can result in sporadic responses.
- Give Her Space:
- Understand and Respect: Recognize that everyone has their own pace and circumstances. Avoid overanalyzing the gaps in communication and give her the benefit of the doubt.
- Patience: Practice patience and avoid jumping to conclusions about the reasons for her disappearing.
- Understand and Respect: Recognize that everyone has their own pace and circumstances. Avoid overanalyzing the gaps in communication and give her the benefit of the doubt.
- Communicate Your Feelings:
- Open Dialogue: If the issue persists and it bothers you, consider having an open and honest conversation about your communication preferences and expectations.
- Express Concerns: Let her know how you feel about the sporadic communication without sounding accusatory. A gentle approach can foster understanding and improve communication.
- Open Dialogue: If the issue persists and it bothers you, consider having an open and honest conversation about your communication preferences and expectations.
- Set Realistic Expectations:
- Adjust Expectations: Understand that the nature of texting and online communication can be unpredictable. Set realistic expectations about the frequency and timing of responses.
- Adjust Expectations: Understand that the nature of texting and online communication can be unpredictable. Set realistic expectations about the frequency and timing of responses.
- Focus on Other Activities:
- Avoid Obsessing: Instead of fixating on the texting gaps, engage in other activities and focus on your own interests and hobbies. This can help reduce anxiety and frustration.
- Avoid Obsessing: Instead of fixating on the texting gaps, engage in other activities and focus on your own interests and hobbies. This can help reduce anxiety and frustration.
- Consider Cultural Differences:
- Cultural Norms: Be aware of cultural differences in communication styles. Different cultures might have varying norms regarding texting and responsiveness.
- Cultural Norms: Be aware of cultural differences in communication styles. Different cultures might have varying norms regarding texting and responsiveness.
Experiencing disappearing acts during texting can be frustrating, but understanding the potential reasons behind it can help you navigate the situation better. Focus on giving her space, communicating openly, and adjusting your expectations. Remember that online communication can be unpredictable, and finding a balance in how you handle these interactions can lead to a more positive experience.
Have you encountered similar issues, and how did you address them? Sharing experiences and advice can be helpful in understanding and managing these situations.
4o mini
RE: Understanding Disappearing Act in Texting: Why It Happens and What to Do - shant234 - 07-25-2024
I think it is important to remember that these girls use their devices as their marketing platform for business development. The method of choice is messaging is LINE or any app that doesn't require them to give a new customer their mobile # - you have to earn that.
In most cases these girls are not looking for real conversations or prolonged messaging, just a confirmation that the hook is still in and that you let them know "when you come see me?" and of course they want you to know that they "miss you". Only guys who they think are true BF material will get the hard-sell of long messaging, etc. Even then, the long gaps between responses will ususally be the norm because:
1. They are messaging from the bar (BGs anyway) and doing so in between getting drinks, small talking prospects, or sitting with someone and enjoying an LD. When the customer goes to the bathroom they may send out 5 "miss you" messages to 5 different guys before the customer returns. In the case of gogo girls they usually don't have their devices on them once work starts. Only when getting BF's can they send out updates - usually when the go to the locker-room to change into street clothes. After that it is similar to the bargirl - update when can. Once they are drunk, forget about it.
2. They are messaging you from their "room" before they go to work. They are doing this like a job, and maybe are messaging multiple guys at the same time. Possibly talking to one while messaging others. More than one time I received messages completely out of context and obviously meant for someone else. "See you next week" when I am not coming to BKK for months, etc. LOL
3. They are LT (like 6 days) and can only message as time allows, Most girls try to hide when they are with customers - even-though they know that we know they "are working in the bar". They send pictures taken days ago, or picture of them sill at the bar that were taken hours before, just to keep the illusion that they are not out with customers every day/night, but the hot ones most definitely always are.
It is very similar to the pattern that married men will keep when messaging these same girls. Only at work and during breaks at work. Almost never from home. LOL
Have fun and "don't think too much". - TGS
RE: Understanding Disappearing Act in Texting: Why It Happens and What to Do - daniel74 - 07-25-2024
Problem is I don't think that is because she is constantly getting with other men. I found her in a small town in a bar and pretty sure she was fresh to the game and doesn't really understand it fully yet. She is 23 and her 16 year old sister has joined her in Bangkok for vacation from school. I think it falls back to the making sure I am still a customer as she knows I am coming back very soon. I do have her cell number, I took her before for 6 days and we traveled and she sincerely had a blast. Go-carting, jet skiing, water parks and expensive dinners. i know these were first time events for her. She has been out right honest in saying things she probably should have lied about especially if she was a true player. I think she is holding onto a fairy tale Dream idea of what life can be because she is young. I am also guessing she just doesn't have that much sincere interest in me. We message on Facebook messenger and sometimes I see it says she is online but she will not even read my messages in her inbox. I called her out on this once a while back and she screenshot me a conversation she was having with a girl friend. She has always said I only think about myself when I question her. I quiet talking about any feelings I have for her or about how she is acting a few weeks back. Its just weird but has to be shes just doing the minimum. I have decided since I really enjoy time with her while I am there that I will meet her and go have fun. If it becomes anything different shes gone. It is for the best that she is making me feel this way. Makes it more business like for me and easier for me to cut ties and keep in mind I am paying her to escort me. Simple enough and well overthought....555
RE: Understanding Disappearing Act in Texting: Why It Happens and What to Do - hilululu - 07-25-2024
Are you in Thailand messaging these girls or back home? 6 days doesn't mean much as she's probably done it before many times! These girls don't want to waste time chatting when they can chase money unless boredom kicks in, and you happen to send that 3rd message she hasn't replied to that bumped you to the top on the chat list.
Why the obsession after just 1 visit over 6 days? You're listing all the things you've done for her and made the mistake of expecting prompt responses from her. She has no obligation to do so as it is her choice. Maybe they were first times for her, but that doesn't mean she was keeping score the way you have. Thailand had so many girls yet so many stories like this involving a bar girl...
RE: Understanding Disappearing Act in Texting: Why It Happens and What to Do - johnson13 - 07-25-2024
Maybe I came across wrong. Wasn't keeping score I was more or less explaining why I think she is happy with me. Secondly I am not sure how my curiosity has turned into an obsession? I talk with several girls in Thailand and just find it odd being that I understand the nature of things and with this girl I am pretty sure its not because she cant stop sucking dick long enough to finish a conversation. She doesn't need her mouth to text. I figured seeing if anyone had similar experiences would just lead to the easy answer shes with a dude....It wouldnt suprise me, however theres something else or as well going on here.... just trying to get my fifty posts....555